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Zippo
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Username: Zippo

Post Number: 1697
Registered: 09-2005


Posted on Tuesday, October 07, 2008 - 04:13 pm:   Edit Post

I apologise is this has been covered in another thread.
Having seen the profound physical effects of subspace for myself, I sort of understand the physical mechanics, but what still perplexes me is, what dynamics need to present to get you there. If possible try to articulte emotions involved, any stimuli that helps you acheive subspace.wowsmiley
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Bethie
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Username: Bethie

Post Number: 1930
Registered: 04-2005


Posted on Wednesday, October 08, 2008 - 05:28 am:   Edit Post

For me, getting into subspace isn't always a sure thing, I have to have the right stimulation and be in the mood for it. When I do get there, it seems to take the right buildup that lets me relax and lose myself in the sensations. A slow progression from a good warmup to more intense sensations sort of lulls me into it.

Dan has to really be committed to a long session, too. He gives me lots of comforting feedback and rubs whenever I seem to be getting over-stimulated. That keeps me in the zone, so to speak.

I think it helps that I feel completely secure with Dan, I know I can let go and he'll take care of me. He's constantly checking me and all that physical and emotional reassurance he gives me means I don't have to be there mentally and I can just sink into la-la land without a care. I need that level of security to fall into subspace.

Also, I love lots of different sensations so if Dan uses lots of different toys, it really keeps the endorphins flowing for me and makes subspace easier to fall into.

Subspace is a wonderful state of mind if you can get there but it's a lot of responsibility for the top in charge. Someone in subspace needs to be watched carefully because they're not all there to let you know if things are getting too intense. Then there's subdrop that can be mild to severe and needs to be worked through. I've never really had a problem with subdrop, but I know some bottoms really need reassurance and comforting during that time.
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Wolfie
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Username: Wolfie

Post Number: 1926
Registered: 04-2005


Posted on Wednesday, October 08, 2008 - 09:42 am:   Edit Post

I know some people absolutely love sub space, but I'm not one of them. The initial floaty feeling is nice but once I go deeply under I don't enjoy it so much. Then I wake disoriented and feel exhausted the next day, sometimes a little shaky as well.

Like Bethie, I have to feel safe to go into subspace. It took a long time for me to reach it, and the intensity cant get too high or it slaps me back out of flying. Steady spanking, not too hard or too soft is what works for me. Hand, paddle and flogger work the best, and it will be a long session.

It took a long time for us to figure out what would trigger sub space for me. What I found the most interesting was that I can go into subspace without being touched. Steve took me to a private dungeon once, and I was so excited by the time we got there that I was definitely primed. By the time I got undressed, he put my collar on and he talked to me about safety and what he wanted to do...I was floating. I continued to feel that way the rest of the night, and it was probably the one time I really enjoyed sub space...maybe because I never went too deep? I'm not sure, but it was a very nice experience and it surprised me that I needed no more stimulus than my mind to get there. :-)
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Zippo
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Username: Zippo

Post Number: 1701
Registered: 09-2005


Posted on Thursday, October 09, 2008 - 03:17 pm:   Edit Post

I had always assumed that subspace was the bodys way of trying to protect itself, similar to going into shock from an injury. I find it fascinating that this can be acheived without even being touched. Thanks so much for sharing.
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Fanny
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Username: Fanny

Post Number: 3585
Registered: 05-2005


Posted on Thursday, October 09, 2008 - 05:13 pm:   Edit Post

I apparently have never achieved subspace, because I don't even really understand it. Is it kind of like orgasmic?
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Ruinae8
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Username: Ruinae8

Post Number: 34
Registered: 03-2007
Posted on Thursday, October 09, 2008 - 06:11 pm:   Edit Post

Subspace is one way of describing the state of flux one can be in - sportsmen often refer to it as "being in a zone" - by which they mean that they over achieved way beyond their normal ability for that specific task which is confined to a particular time span.One can transfer that to a completely diverse activity, whatever it may be, and the result will be the same - experiencing something that is beyond that which they have become accustomed to believing is the average experience / ability for them.
Those of us that have been fortunate enough to have found / experienced sub space (or the zone) can appreciate the incredible high one can get from having gone through it - more is the pity that it does not happen every day -(probably a good thing otherwise it would become boring!)- but when it does occur it is truly beyond description.
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Wolfie
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Username: Wolfie

Post Number: 1931
Registered: 04-2005


Posted on Thursday, October 09, 2008 - 08:39 pm:   Edit Post

Well, its not that way for everyone. But that's ok, we're all different. :-)

Fanny, I believe subspace comes from a build up of endorphins most times, sending you into a dream like state, almost a trance where you feel floaty and sort of out-of-body. You can almost fall asleep at times and need to be woken out of this state gently as it can be quite traumatic. A friend of mine saw a man playing with a woman at a party...the woman was in subspace but the man had no idea. He went off and left her, and when she came out of her trance she was so disoriented that she simply burst into tears. It took a lot of cuddling and support before she calmed down enough to be ok.

When I come out of subspace or "flying" as some call it, Steve has wrapped me in a blanket, has a bottle of water nearby for me and cuddles me as I come out of it...he stays close by to be sure I am calm and safe, I tend to get dizzy when I first try and stand up.
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.

Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Fanny
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Username: Fanny

Post Number: 3587
Registered: 05-2005


Posted on Friday, October 10, 2008 - 03:00 am:   Edit Post

Since I seem to live in a state of constant dizziness, who actually knows when I am in subspace or outerspace?
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Tammynx
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Username: Tammynx

Post Number: 2662
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Friday, October 10, 2008 - 01:36 pm:   Edit Post

Fanny you make me laugh!!!
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Rednrosy
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Username: Rednrosy

Post Number: 3
Registered: 03-2011
Posted on Monday, March 21, 2011 - 12:49 pm:   Edit Post

For me subspace is generally achieved through restraint. It begins by having my wrists restrained and then moves onto ropes. I actually start to shiver when my partner brings out the ropes.
Dirty words and talk and a firm tone of voice that tells me in no uncertain terms that he is in charge also gets me there. I always struggle and and this is when he slaps my face which i love. A slap across the face immediately sends me into sub space like nothing else.

For my partner (we stitch) me shouting at him and yelling then completely ignoring him for a period of time then shouting at him again gets him there
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Vixievamp
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Username: Vixievamp

Post Number: 50
Registered: 05-2006
Posted on Tuesday, March 22, 2011 - 11:09 pm:   Edit Post

Subspace: To me subspace is when I get to that point where the pain stops registering as pain, and becomes completely pleasure. Each strike sends a ripple of tickly feel goodness through my entire body. But, it takes a lot of pain for me to get there, and I can hardly ever stand to hang in there long enough to get to that point.

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