Post Number: 4
|Posted on Thursday, January 26, 2012 - 06:07 pm: ||
For many years now, I have had a deep need to be spanked. I have spanked myself secretly but felt alone and guilty for doing it. I have just learned about DD relationships and maintanence spankings. I really feel pulled toward it and really want to live that lifestyle with my wonderful husband of 12 years. He spanks me now, for fun before or during sex, and whenever I ask him, which I really enjoy and I think he does too. My question is how can I introduce/encourage the idea of weekly maintanence spankings or an outright DD relationship? (we have no rulesright now) What things does a spanker need to hear to help him "get on board?"
Post Number: 13
|Posted on Friday, January 27, 2012 - 06:10 pm: ||
This is adding to what I posted in the "Incentive Program" post.
Perhaps you could tell your husband that you need a weekly stress relief, and maybe maintenance spankings would help with that. Then you could talk about it after it's happened a few times.
I've been more communicative with my husband lately, and I feel it's made us closer. My poor bottom isn't happy about it, but I am. Don't bottle things up - I would hope he'd be willing to discuss it and to try new things.
Once I texted my husband that I was a naughty girl and asked him to paddle my bottom when he got home. That worked like a charm! Perhaps you could try something like that.
Post Number: 38
|Posted on Saturday, January 28, 2012 - 07:28 am: ||
Be specific. Choose a domestic theme like time-keeping and tell him you need regular discipline to achieve an acceptable level.
Think traditional. State your belief that it's the natural order of things for a husband to discipline his wife, and confirm your willingness to "assume the position" on a regular basis.
Sound submissive. Request the maintenance spanking regime with proper respect for your husband's authority.
Express gratitude. In anticipation of a positive response, say how grateful you'll be to recieve a regular spanking as part of your training program.
These should press a few buttons....