Post Number: 11
|Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2012 - 10:36 pm: ||
I've mentioned before that I'm married to my Master. We do weekly maintenance spankings and "play" before sex, but last week I introduced something new... the "incentive program".
I am usually a very good girl (seriously!) and very very rarely get punished. Since I've had bad experiences (which I mentioned in the "first adult spanking" thread), I freak out easily, so my husband prefers to keep our non-maintenance spankings and play more fun/sexy than discipline.
Well, sometimes I just crave something more (especially after reading some of the stories here in the Den!), so I proposed the incentive program (while horny - never a good idea).
I make jewelry, and this is my first year doing it as a business. I have an inventory program to keep track of all the materials and finished pieces. While I've been good about entering things as I buy them, I had a BUNCH of things that I bought in 2010 and earlier that weren't entered. I need that information for tax purposes, so it had to be entered sooner rather than later.
Here comes the incentive program. I proposed to my husband that he cane me 6 strokes every day that the inventory wasn't done. 6 more if I didn't do anything for the day or 3 if I didn't get all that much done. I also proposed I be waiting for him when he got home, lying over a big pillow thing with my pants down and the cane ready.
We hammered out some details ("Are you SURE you want the cane?!?"), and since I didn't do anything the first day, I got 12 strokes. Ouch! The next day I was duly incentivized and entered over 100 items. 6 strokes. The third day I entered about 90 items. 6 strokes.
By this time I was feeling a bit frazzled and burned out. With my Fibromyalgia I find it difficult to keep such a pace for very long, and my husband took pity on me and gave me the 4th day off (last Friday). Saturday I tried to work, but we needed to clean the house because my parents were coming over, and there were interruptions. He let me off again (he's so nice!), but I felt awful and "off" and kept crying. Finally he caned me 9 times (because I did get some entered), and I felt better. Odd, that. Then we ended up having sex, and I felt much, much better.
Anyway - Sunday was out - I had no time to enter. Monday I did a lot but not enough. 6 more strokes. Tuesday I finally finished. Yay! Tuesday night I bought more beads, but that didn't count.
So - after all that (sorry it's so long!).... Is anyone else doing something like our incentive program? How does it work?
As an aside, my husband liked the idea very much and said we're going to continue this. I've had 7 pairs of pants that need hemming for ages. My mother said, "Why don't you buy petites?" I do. I'm just that short. Anyway - the next incentive program was dropping them off to get hemmed. I did that today - no caning for me!
Post Number: 2
|Posted on Wednesday, January 25, 2012 - 04:29 pm: ||
Hi, i'm new here (my first actual post) I like the incentive idea a lot! I run regularly, but always on pavement (outside, usually around parks or on trails) Kinda addicted to it you could say. Its very hard for me to exercise inside...at the gym. I would like to approach my hubby about 29 spanks with a paddle every Sunday, if I didn't exercise inside at least twice that week. One spank for every dollar of my membership fee Pavement running is hard on your body and joints, but I love it I haven't approached big boss about it yet, but really want to.
Thanks for sharing
Post Number: 12
|Posted on Friday, January 27, 2012 - 06:05 pm: ||
Thanks for replying, and welcome to the Den! (I'm pretty new here, too.)
Based on your other posts, perhaps something like what you mentioned here would open the door to a more DD relationship with your husband. He might not be happy that the gym membership fee is being wasted and might think this is a good way to encourage you to go.
Then after a few weeks you could talk about how this is working and how he feels about it. Then maybe you could move on to more DD activities and maintenance spankings. (I'll post a comment about that in the other thread)