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Littlelotte
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Username: Littlelotte
Post Number: 8
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 18, 2006 - 04:45 pm: | 
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Okay, this is kind of embarrasing, but I'm not exactly sure what's entailed in anything other than a discipline spanking, cuz that's all we ever do. Reese has no idea what to do to give a "good girl" spanking, either. But I don't think my bottom can handle a discipline spanking every night. Any...tips on how to give/receive a "good girl" spanking? 
(Message edited by LittleLotte on January 18, 2006)
http://lottedarling.blogspot.com/
"I've always thought a good lashing with a buggy whip would benefit you immensely."
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Rob
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Username: Rob
Post Number: 4
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 18, 2006 - 05:08 pm: |
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Well, the real trick is communication, communication, communication. You need to let your guy know what you said here. Spankings can also be playful and occur as a prelude or during sex. |
Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 258
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 18, 2006 - 06:22 pm: |
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Littlelotte - For me a GG spanking is simply a nice gentle spanking with a nice long warm up that builds in intensity but not too hard then lightens up to be pleasureable with lots of rubbing in between.
If sex is part of a relationship with your partner who is spanking it can culminate that way, but it certainly does not have to.
A GG spanking is what makes you happy and feels good to you. 
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Rob
New member
Username: Rob
Post Number: 5
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 18, 2006 - 06:36 pm: |
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You know, I kind of wonder about that. I can't imagine having a partner who I could spank, or who could spank me, but not having a sexual relationship with that person because it is such an intimate act.
Do people separate or divorce the kink of spanking from sex? I only ask because it never occurred to me that I could find a partner, spank her, but not have sexual relations. Am I the odd man out?
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Katie_spades
Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 222
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 18, 2006 - 08:39 pm: |
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I agree with Beachley - implements don't have to use but sometimes you can work up to them if you so choose, but generally it's an otk hand spanking for me with rubbing and patting and builds up.
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1085
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 18, 2006 - 10:40 pm: |
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GG's are yummy! A GG is whatever you enjoy, what feels good and what you fantasize about. Their supposed to be a reward for good behavior.
I like the otk position, cuddled close to his body. His hand is my favorite, but I like toys as well. A long warm up with some teasing, tickling and threats will send my libido soaring and it wont be long after that before Im ready for the main event. That can mean an orgasm, some wonderful sex or even just cuddling together afterwards...its all good!
GG's are the best! 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Littlelotte
New member
Username: Littlelotte
Post Number: 9
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 18, 2006 - 10:44 pm: |
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*Ponders* Okay, so...apparently we haven't been having REAL discipline spankings, because we always have sex after. So does that means I've just been getting really, REALLY hard GG spankings? Because, honestly, that's what I fantasize about anyway. Now I'm confused.
I think I just figured that GG spankings discluded things like, oh, 150 spanks with the belt, for instance. But that is what I like the best.
http://lottedarling.blogspot.com/
"I've always thought a good lashing with a buggy whip would benefit you immensely."
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 628
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 18, 2006 - 10:49 pm: |
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It's different for everyone. I enjoy intense spankings so my gg spankings might be harder than some people's punishment spankings. Remember that as you read about my experiences, okay? 
Dan always starts out spanking slowly using his hand to warm up my entire bottom. He stops to rub occasionally as he increases the intensity. Since I like implements, he'll use different ones and work his way up to the most intense ones. I like the canes and heavier leather straps so that's usually what we end the spanking with.
There's a lot of buid up for us though so these spankings can last a long time as we go through several implements. I really enjoy it when he switches back and forth between stingy implements and thuddy ones. That's fun!
No matter how hard you want to play, communication is the key for making it enjoyable. Dan frequently stops to rub, asks me how I'm doing, and "checks" to see if I'm enjoying myself. No matter how much I'm enjoying the fun, I still do a lot of wiggling and moaning so he likes to make sure I'm really happy with how it's going. That's what makes a good girl spanking good for me.  |
Littlelotte
New member
Username: Littlelotte
Post Number: 10
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 18, 2006 - 10:57 pm: |
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Okay, yeah. So, basically, I'm gonna assume that I have an extremely high level of pain tolerance, and that I have never in my life actually had a discipline spanking, due to the fact that I've always enjoyed them A LOT.
Huh. That's a funny change of events.
Damn...now I wanna try a discipline spanking, instead.
(Message edited by LittleLotte on January 18, 2006)
http://lottedarling.blogspot.com/
"I've always thought a good lashing with a buggy whip would benefit you immensely."
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Kennysspankee
Junior Spanko
Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 98
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 18, 2006 - 10:58 pm: |
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There must be an implement you like (mine is a nice pliable old belt about an inch and a half wide,it almost has a rubbery consistency to it). He just uses the one end (not doubled). Just the right hardness creating just the right sting (which you will have to determine for you), and I could lay there all day. If a paddle struck just nicely feels good to you, then maybe that's your implement. You should get him to try a few implements not hitting hard, just nicely,(my favorite two words to say). See which provides the sensation that turns you on. Enough of the girls (especially Bethie) have described how to proceed from there. |
Thephantom
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Username: Thephantom
Post Number: 8
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 18, 2006 - 11:21 pm: |
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Well, you see friends (Reese here), We mostly just like using Lotte's black leather belt. It has nice little holes in it, so it leaves a sharp stinging sensation, while having the brute feeling to it. But we really haven't actually had 'bad girl' spankings. I mean, I came from never even considering being mad at a girl for too long, let alone actually punishing her for something, to playing S&M on a regular basis. So maybe we'll try it, but I dunno.. I might feel bad. Plus the fact that I hit pretty damn hard anyway, it might not cause too much difference, physically. |
Littlelotte
New member
Username: Littlelotte
Post Number: 11
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 18, 2006 - 11:22 pm: |
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Meh. You just don't dare!  Night, everyone!
http://lottedarling.blogspot.com/
"I've always thought a good lashing with a buggy whip would benefit you immensely."
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Thephantom
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Username: Thephantom
Post Number: 10
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 18, 2006 - 11:57 pm: |
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 Heh... Oh, I forgot about the bullwhip, as well. hmm.. That's a fun one... |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1090
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 08:38 am: |
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Hehehe you two are silly! 
Lotte, there's nothing wrong with having sex after a punishment in my opinion. Both people need reassurance and cuddling after discipline, and sex can help you both feel that forgiveness has been given. I dont feel aroused after a real punishment spanking, but it takes very little once things settle down to get me that way.
Phantom, punishment is not just about hitting harder. For a real punishment to work, you need to get inside her head. Have a new implement just for those kind of spankings...like a hairbrush or wooden spoon. Only use it for disciplinary spankings, never for fun. Have her stand in front of you while you give her the "lecture from hell", making her look you in the eye. Some people use corner time to build the spankees apprehension. I think you'll find that if you do punishment spankings differently, it takes very few spanks to have a sorrowful, contrite lady over your lap. And dont forget aftercare...plenty of cuddling, and lotion rubbed into her sore bum will go a long way to finishing off her discipline in a positive manner. 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Sullaspank
New member
Username: Sullaspank
Post Number: 5
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 10:14 am: |
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I want to learn more about what a "good girl spanking" is. I'm a male and have always thought that even an imagined infraction was required to make it all work.
Sulla |
Littlelotte
New member
Username: Littlelotte
Post Number: 12
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 11:37 am: |
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Thanks everyone (Especially Wolfie). That was some good advice.
Maybe I'll make Reese take notes...
http://lottedarling.blogspot.com/
"I've always thought a good lashing with a buggy whip would benefit you immensely."
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1959
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 12:34 pm: |
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Sullaspank, a "good girl/boy" spanking is one primarily for fun. There may be an imagined infraction or a "just because" or a tinkle and tease and spank session.
It is all in the frame of mind.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Ftopinmichigan
Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 378
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 01:14 pm: |
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Since the subject is the "good" spankings...has anyone ever seen a video of them? All the spanking videos I've seen have the theme of punishment, whether real or imagined. I'd enjoy seeing an erotic one. Shadowlane has a few, but they start out about punishment, and proceed to pleasure, which is kinda the way of all of them anyway. 
Would love to hear about some.
K |
Redhinney
Junior Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 144
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 04:38 pm: |
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GG spankings are the best especailly after a very tension filled day. For W and myself he just knows how hard or little to spank. The spanks are never the same during the event. some are hard and some are very little some are with his whole hand and some only with his finger tips. There is a lot of warm up and rubbing sometimes only on my bottom and sometimes it involves other parts of my body(weg). I can honestly say that by the time the spanking is over we are both just about at the peak. The sex that results from it can be fast and wonderful or slow and sensual. each time it is different because each mood is different.
The difference between a gg and bG is that for a bg I know I did soemthing that displeased him and yes we may have sex after or we may just cuddle but we know I was spanked for a reason not because I just needed it or wanted it. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1093
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 07:30 pm: |
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I've never heard of one K, but I've never seen a real spanking video either. Just teasers for them. I would love to see an erotic/ fun one too.
Sulla for those of us who love to be spanked, a GG is a reward. Its sexy and loving and fulfilling in so many ways. If the bottom wants a hard spanking, thats what she gets. If she wants long and slow with lots of rubbing and sensual touches...thats her GG. Im sure some use roleplay along with it, but all I have to hear is "you deserve a gg", and Im across his lap in a heartbeat! 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Thephantom
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Username: Thephantom
Post Number: 11
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 11:36 pm: |
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Wow.. That's pretty good advice. Thanks to Wolfie, and everyone else. You all rock. |
Naughtybynature
Spanko
Username: Naughtybynature
Post Number: 115
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, January 20, 2006 - 12:40 am: |
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quote:"you deserve a gg"
The smile that curves on ones lips, when hearing those lovely words!
Did is a word of achievement, Won't is a word of retreat, Might is a word of bereavement, Can't is a word of defeat, Ought is a word of duty, Try is a word of each hour, Will is a word of beauty, Can is a word of power.
*(Unknown Author)
Don't take life so seriously.....it isn't permanent
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Littlelotte
New member
Username: Littlelotte
Post Number: 14
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Friday, January 20, 2006 - 10:11 pm: |
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Update, for anyone who cares:
Since I apparently have never had a real discipline spanking, I am now obsessed with getting one. I ALMOST succeeded tonight.
I somehow, in one brilliant move, managed to my keys, my school ID, our cell phones and both of our shoes in my dorm room when Reese and I ventured out to get water.
In order to get back in before 9:00 (when I have to take my birth control pill), we had to run to the main office to borrow the Master Key. Barefoot. In the snow. And Reese, like a gentleman, carried me both ways.
He threatened me all the way there and back, but once we actually got in the room, lost all interest. I had to drape myself over his lap to even get a light hand spanking.
I give up. I can't ASK for a discipline spanking. Oh well. C'est la vie!
"I've always thought a good lashing with a buggy whip would benefit you immensely."
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Spankingcouple
Junior Spanko
Username: Spankingcouple
Post Number: 63
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Friday, January 20, 2006 - 10:30 pm: |
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i get punishment spankings weekly. every friday night and these are the real thing. i actually cry from these. during the week i will get "fun" spankings with his hand and paddle. the "fun" spankings andy will sometimes insert a butt plug into me and spank me. omg it's wonderful |
Katie_spades
Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 247
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, January 21, 2006 - 01:44 am: |
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I actualy only get punishment spankings when i have done something naughty - I do however get maintenace spankings about every 2-3 weeks which aren't as severe but much less seveere than a good girl spanking... Punishment spanings are a horse of snother color, LOL! Phew, I loathe those!
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Ftopinmichigan
Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 386
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, January 21, 2006 - 03:10 am: |
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Trish, do you actually do such awful things to get "punished" each week, or is that just an excuse to enjoy a spanking? Are these really the "good girl" ones after all?
I just feel that punishment should be for punishment...for real offenses, and not just because, or like Kate said, "maintenance" ones.
Because if ya think about it, the punishment spankings are not working if you must be punished every week. Either that, or you're living a very naughty life. 
K |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1116
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, January 21, 2006 - 08:08 am: |
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If I was ever punished when I didnt really deserve it...let's just say He'd be walking with a limp! 
We keep a book for my "transgressions", and I get disciplinary spankings to take care of them. They hurt, but their nothing like a real punishment would be. I avoid those at any cost.
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Ftopinmichigan
Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 387
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, January 21, 2006 - 09:14 am: |
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Wolfie: "He'd be walking with a limp!"
I like you, Wolfie! Oh...and I agree with you. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1120
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, January 21, 2006 - 05:06 pm: |
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I like you too K...and that's if he could walk at all! 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Spankingcouple
Junior Spanko
Username: Spankingcouple
Post Number: 64
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, January 21, 2006 - 07:41 pm: |
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hi K,
andy is very strict. he treats me like i'm 5 and that's Ok with me. i get demerit spankings weekly. i get demerits for not keeping the house clean,not having the laundry done,not having enough food in the house,back talk,swearing,bad attitude,not being on time. that's just to mention a few. if i fail to proform my wife duties i am spanked. i get 10 swats for each demerit. it seems that every week i mess up and earn demerits.
trish |
Tammynx
Spanko
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 227
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, January 21, 2006 - 09:32 pm: |
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Holy hell trish....if I got in trouble for all that stuff...I'D be the one walking with a limp!!! (If I could walk at all). Well now that I think about it...Wolfie is right....maybe he would be the one with a limp...he would try and spank me ALL the time...and then well...a girl can only take so much. I think I might go off the deep end. Cleaning...laundry...food....it would all be to much for me.
But...if it works for you...then great!! |
Ftopinmichigan
Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 390
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 22, 2006 - 04:43 am: |
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Tammy.... I guess that "walkin' with a limp" is gonna be our theme now.
But to be realistic...it's not like Trish doesn't know the "rules of the house" by now. So if she gets spanked, and breaks the agreed upon rules....it's her choice, as I see it. She knows how NOT to get punished in this case, right?
I personally think those (infractions from the list) are such minor offenses, that I could only wonder what might happen if you REALLY did something bad.
Okay...I'll go along with "bad attitude" deserving a few swats, but if the others infractions are consistently on the list for demerits...the spanking, as punishment, is definitely not working, or the chores would be done.
K
PS And Trish, I don't want you to think we're picking on you. You are being so gracious to open yourself up to us, and tell of us your situation, that I think the discussions will help others too. |
Tammynx
Spanko
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 234
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 22, 2006 - 10:05 am: |
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For sure Bad attitude gets me in trouble..and spanking helps me wise up!!
Yep K I guess walking with a limp is the new theme and I think its great!!! |
Shylah
Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 612
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 22, 2006 - 04:30 pm: |
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"Limps into the thread"
My fella knows when it's ok to spank and when to not. He is well aware of the limitations. And I'm afraid that I would have to do the same if he got too carried away with the "Dom" thing.
It works for some, mostly because that is what they need in their life. I am thinking that it is what Trish needs in HER life and accepts it. If that is the case, more power to her and she deserves all the support we can give her.
Personally, I wouldn't mind a Good Girl spanking. After all... I AM THE good girl!!!
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Spankingcouple
Junior Spanko
Username: Spankingcouple
Post Number: 66
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 22, 2006 - 07:16 pm: |
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yes i do know the house rules and understand and accept them. i need structure in my life to feel safe and loved. andy provides that structure. when he spanks me i know he's doing it for my own good,because he loves me very much. i was rasied with the paddle and now as an adult i still need to be spanked when i mess up. it's a real need for me. there has never been a time in my life when i was not spanked. a punishment spanking allows me to cry and think about why i'm being spanked. after a spanking i know all is forgotten and life goes on until the next time. i love that andy is strict with me. he's that way because he loves me.
anyways,thank you all very much for your advice and concern for me. you are all my friends.
trish |
Katie_spades
Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 271
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 22, 2006 - 07:29 pm: |
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Glad everyone could help!
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1145
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 22, 2006 - 08:54 pm: |
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We all have needs in this spanking life we've chosen...if we can have them fulfilled then we're very lucky indeed! 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Spankingcouple
Junior Spanko
Username: Spankingcouple
Post Number: 67
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 23, 2006 - 05:55 am: |
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yes Wolfie,you are so right. i consider myself a very lucky girl. to have someone spank you soundly just because he loves you. i truely believe andy and i are a great match. i couldn't imagine lfe without andy. he is my rock.
trish |
Carly
New member
Username: Carly
Post Number: 14
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 23, 2006 - 11:24 am: |
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Hi Trish! I am spanked for pretty much the samethings you are. I to need structure in my life to get me to do the things, that I know I should be doing anyways. I have a schedule of things that I wrote out myself, and everyday there are certian things I need to accomplish, or I get spanked. Now the weekends we both chip in and get things done, but during the week being a stay at home mom, there are things that i am responsible for and if they are not done, my bottom is red..
Carly |
Tammynx
Spanko
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 240
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 23, 2006 - 04:39 pm: |
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I agree with you Wolfie...we all seem to have needs in this spanking world...I'm greatful that I have someone to take care of my spanking needs but mostly I'm greatful because he loves me so much!!! |
Spankingcouple
Junior Spanko
Username: Spankingcouple
Post Number: 68
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 23, 2006 - 08:05 pm: |
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hi Carly,
i am soundly spanked every friday night around 7pm. our 2 girls go over to my sister's for the evening so we have the whole house to ourselfs. the spanking are for punishment and i always cry from them. i'm very lucky to have a husband that understands my need to be spanked. i consider myself a good wife but when i mess up i'm soundly spanked. it's good to know i'm not the only one getting punishment spankings.
trish |
Pinkcheeks
New member
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 28
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 24, 2006 - 05:02 am: |
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All of us who enjoy and have chosen this lifestyle know what our limits are, and have partners who respect them. What works for one couple may not work for another. In our house, good girl spankings and discipline spankings are of mutual choice (although the bad girl spankings are often HIGHLY PROTESTED  -ooowwwie!- by me!) But overall, its what the couple needs and agrees upon - with lots of love thrown in too~~
My favorite color? pink of course
"But honey...wait...I didn't mean it!!"
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Ftopinmichigan
Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 399
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 24, 2006 - 06:21 am: |
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Pinkcheeks, I think "many" people do "not" know their limits, and if "they" don't, how can their partner know?
Some top/spankers don't respect limits, as "they" set them for themselves, not for their partner [I think there's another current thread on this topic, about going too far, and the 50 with the cane is an example as well].
Not everyone has a spanking relationship, where consent, limits, or mutual respect are part of it. I just think it's best to say that "most" folks in the spanking lifestyle enjoy it by mutual respect for their partner, which includes abiding by limits. I've read a few postings here, where limits were not respected, and spankers had NO consent, or right to carry on. (I still question some of the reality to the stories, but as the poster claims it's truth, I have to read it that way, and interpret it as such too.)
It's just not the way of "all"...unfortunately.
K |
Spankingcouple
Junior Spanko
Username: Spankingcouple
Post Number: 69
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 24, 2006 - 06:26 am: |
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i couldn't have said it better....
trish |
Katie_spades
Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 291
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 26, 2006 - 10:54 pm: |
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Posted on Saturday, January 21, 2006 - 08:08 am:
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If I was ever punished when I didnt really deserve it...let's just say He'd be walking with a limp!
We keep a book for my "transgressions", and I get disciplinary spankings to take care of them. They hurt, but their nothing like a real punishment would be. I avoid those at any cost.
All I have to say is rock the cazbah man and D to the ITTO.
Kate
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1178
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, January 27, 2006 - 08:11 am: |
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We keep a book too Katie, it's a big help with a long distance relationship.
And as for the rest of what you said....yeah, right. Ditto man.
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Pinkcheeks
New member
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 43
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Friday, January 27, 2006 - 11:07 am: |
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K,
How unfortunate it is that someone would not know his/her own limit, and may not communicate with their partner in terms of what "crosses the line". I may have used the incorrect term "all", as opposed to "most"- but I was only trying to make a generalization. I, too, question many of the seemingly outlandish posts regarding spankings, but this is cyber-space, and we pretty much have to take that into account. So, I guess from now on the term "most" or "some" would be more correct.
My favorite color? pink of course
"But honey...wait...I didn't mean it!!"
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Redhinney
Junior Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 152
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Friday, January 27, 2006 - 11:24 am: |
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I agree with all that was said. we all chose this life stlye and we are all very lucky to have a partner who is willing to help us enjoy this life.
Trish, I have to say that if I got spanked for some of the things you do I wuld always have a red butt from BG spanking. Belive me I do get spanked very hard if I ever disrespected Bill or if I cuss or if I did something to endanger my health or saftey. I got spanked the other morning because of a comment I made regarding his brain cells and the cold weather. I felt that spanking most of the day and when we got home from work he seriously was thinking of adding more because my butt wasn't red enough. Instead I m having a submissive/spanking weekend. My point is we all get what we want and need because we all chose our actions.
Love can't always be seen or hear but will always be felt with your heart
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Ftopinmichigan
Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 405
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Friday, January 27, 2006 - 02:01 pm: |
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To preface, I'd like to say that "all" of my posts/references are related to real life experiences, and not at all related to cyber playing or something conjured up for the sake of "cyber-space."
Pinkcheeks, I think it's actually not so unusual for someone not to know their own limit. Many people play to a certain level of "comfort" and many don't go beyond that comfort. Fear, or actual pain prevents them from "finding" their actual "limit," and going to that limit isn't necessary to enjoy spanking, or to even use it as a disciplinary tool. In fact, it is rare that a disciplinary spanking even matches the fun ones, in many cases. (It usually takes far few spanks to get the point across during punishments, versus someone getting a good/fun spanking. A typical session with me can last a full 3 to 4 hours, yet a punishment spanking may only last 10 minutes.)
Part of the excitement I enjoy with a partner, is playing "near" a threshold of desire, or pain. Sometimes it's good to push a little past it, and then the 'limit' is now further. It can change, and it does, in many cases.
Also, a person's "limit" can change with the weather, or hormones, or time of day....anything. One person can take two dozen with a frat paddle one day, and be a bowl of mush with five the next time.
I don't know if it's as important to "know" someone's limit, as much as it's good to be able to read your partner. Perhaps that's a better way to look at it.
An educated, caring partner will be able to read if their partner is distressed (OR excited ), and be able to gauge whether to push further, or pull back.
I think the idea of a "limit"...is limiting.
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Pinkcheeks
New member
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 45
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, January 28, 2006 - 11:15 am: |
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K,
I am not into cyberplay - never have been - and like you, my posts are from true life experiences. I have been married to the same man for over 25 years, and I believe that we (as a couple) know what my limits are. If a couple prefers to push beyond the limits, then who am I to judge? There are many who find a certain comfort level and are happy there, and others like to push the threshold of desire and/or pain. Be it knowing one's limits, or "reading" a partner, it comes down to communication, trust and love....**just my 2 cents worth**
My favorite color? pink of course
"But honey...wait...I didn't mean it!!"
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Ftopinmichigan
Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 409
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, January 28, 2006 - 12:59 pm: |
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You bet, Pinkcheeks. Nothing like having a parner that cares and loves you. It's that communication (both verbal and nonverbal) that makes the trust easy. You are fortunate...and sound quite happy too!
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Pinkcheeks
New member
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 46
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, January 28, 2006 - 05:02 pm: |
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*dances around...i'm loved...i'm loved...i'm happy...i'm happy!!!!!
Now i am going to pop a bag of popcorn and watch a movie with my Man 
My favorite color? pink of course
"But honey...wait...I didn't mean it!!"
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Katie_spades
Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 307
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, January 28, 2006 - 11:42 pm: |
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You bet, Pinkcheeks. Nothing like having a parner that cares and loves you. It's that communication (both verbal and nonverbal) that makes the trust easy. You are fortunate...and sound quite happy too!
K
K - you are SO right! How could a DD relationship work without trust and communication. I was in one like that before and it lasted no more than 3 weeks - he was just abusive and didn't care about my feelings. Jake, on the other hand, talks to me about EVERYTHING: how I feel about my spanking (before and after), if I feel I deserve it, why he did it, etc... we have such a loving relationship and I've never been happier in my life! BTW Pinkcheeks - congratulations! I'm so happy for you; when others are happy it makes me happy... 
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Spankingcouple
Junior Spanko
Username: Spankingcouple
Post Number: 71
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 29, 2006 - 03:39 pm: |
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it's wonderful to have a man you is there for you,who understands your wants and desires. trust is a big one when it comes to a happy relationship. i feel so loved and blessed to have found the love of my life. i've been in not so good realtionships and to have found the right man for me is the greatest thing in the world.
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Pinkcheeks
Junior Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 56
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 29, 2006 - 07:20 pm: |
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that's soooo great trish - I am happy that you found someone after being involved in "not so good relationships" We are very lucky~~
My favorite color? pink of course
"But honey...wait...I didn't mean it!!"
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Katie_spades
Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 316
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 29, 2006 - 11:49 pm: |
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me too!
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Sdhrts
Junior Spanko
Username: Sdhrts
Post Number: 98
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 30, 2006 - 10:50 am: |
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When I first met T. I thought my spanking life would be on hold for a long time. Impressions can be very decieving though. Good girl spankings she took to like a fish to water. So far that's all we practice and may or may not progress to more of a dicipline spanking. She's surely a dark shade of pink when I'm done though (and thinking revenge). I'm not predicting where this spanking part of or relationship is going. She's also a very tit for tat person and makes sure she has her own chance of dishing it out, which is fine with me!
Is IT Better To Give Than To Recieve?
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Katie_spades
Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 333
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 31, 2006 - 08:26 pm: |
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Good luck because that's how it all started for me!
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Spankingcouple
Junior Spanko
Username: Spankingcouple
Post Number: 76
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 31, 2006 - 08:30 pm: |
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i just got a good girl spanking about 2 hours ago. andy used a hairbrush and leather paddle. it was fun and my butt is still very red. |
Katie_spades
Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 352
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Monday, February 06, 2006 - 05:01 pm: |
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Do tell us more... for a GG spanking I usually only get the hand and maybe a brush - anything more would be maintenance spanking but even then, I might only get a few with the strap, but nothing too bad because again, it is jus a M/S so it's not supposed to be fun like a GG spanking but not supposed to be as hard a a punishment spanking - like maintenance I guess, LOL
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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