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Neoserenity87
Spanko
Username: Neoserenity87
Post Number: 296
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 28, 2005 - 10:47 pm: | 
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lol, I finally succeeded in corrupting my "vanilla" bf. He acutally did suprisingly well for his first attempt at a spanking. I think he's beginning to see that it doesn't hurt me and I like it.  Anywayz, I wanted to ask you guys if you had any tips for beginner spankos like us? It's kinda hard because neither of us really no how to go about all this, any suggestions or tips would be appreciated. (lol, any ideas as to how I can introduce role-playing into this as well?) Hope to hear from you guys.
-Neo
.....dang, back to Iraq again.......oh well, watch out Iraqis! Here comes Rudy!!!!
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 908
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 28, 2005 - 11:03 pm: |
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Neo, the best advice I can give is to go slow. Take your time showing him what you like, keep your sense of humor and expect that it wont be the "perfect" spanking in the beginning. Show him how much this turns you on, how happy it makes you that he is trying to please you. Reciprocate by doing something he likes as well.
Print out discussions or stories you like and read them to your boyfriend...maybe it will turn you both on and prompt a real spanking. This is also a good way to introduce role play.
Good luck, hope this helps. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
3 wise men? Be serious....
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Pinkwench
New member
Username: Pinkwench
Post Number: 14
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 28, 2005 - 11:08 pm: |
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Printing out spanking stories that turn you on from websites is what helped us to not feel awkward talking about it. I would find the stories, print them, and give them to Jake... then run away in embarassment 
till he was done reading. When he was done we would talk about them. It got easier over the long haul.
I have to tell you that generally by the end of the evening, I was over his knee or otherwise, and it always climaxed  with hot and sweaty sex. |
Poofette
New member
Username: Poofette
Post Number: 41
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 28, 2005 - 11:39 pm: |
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Buy an outfit for your favorite role play scenerio (plaid skirt, corset, etc) and wear it for him and don't forget to "act" the part. Unless he's a moron he'll get the hint. Planning another scene will be tons easier if he's already enjoyed one. Don't worry about feeling silly at first. I think everyone who's tried it does. Sometimes I still crack up and lose my character. Stories are a great idea too! Love corrupting those "vanilla" men.
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Rex138
New member
Username: Rex138
Post Number: 35
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, December 29, 2005 - 01:35 am: |
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Neo, I turned a vanilla gf into a very mean Mistress in a relatively short time.
We talked about some of our sexual likes and dislikes but it can be daunting to tell someone about the desire to be spanked.
I suggested that we take turns writing each other letters describing a fantasy situation involving us both and include our 'kinks'.
You'll both learn alot about what turns your partner on (which is a good thing).
And in no time, your bf, will know exactly what you are expecting or wanting to explore from reading your fantasies.
The only problem was, was she was ready to spank me for everything! Ok, so that wasn't really a problem. 
Talking about the spanking afterwards is always good too! IMHO
Happy spanking!
"It seemed like a good idea at the time."
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Humblebutt
New member
Username: Humblebutt
Post Number: 16
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, December 29, 2005 - 03:09 pm: |
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As my mother, who was a pianist, used to say, "practice makes perfect!"
First talk, then practice, then play. Soon you'll both get the hang of it. It's also very helpful to read things posted on the internet. Try googling "spanking technique," you'll find a lot.
I hope your bf knows just how lucky he is to have met you as spankos are such nice people!
Happy new year, and a belated happy 19th birthday too! |
Valleybrats
New member
Username: Valleybrats
Post Number: 16
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Friday, December 30, 2005 - 03:58 pm: |
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All that was said here plus,
Constructive criticism. You're going to be afraid that criticism and instruction will be taken as reproach (and rightfully so, lots of guys consider themselves sexual maestros). Still, that's no excuse for having to settle. Give positive feedback for evertything he does well and instruction on things you want changed. Do it in a playful or bratty manner to take the edge off. Appear submissive but stay confident.
When boys see that you know what you want, then they don't have to think as much about what they should be doing. Then instinct takes over and the fun begins - especially if you're the type who responds to spontinaity. |
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