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Lil_miss_wayward
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Username: Lil_miss_wayward
Post Number: 18
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 20, 2005 - 04:08 pm: | 
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Ok this one may have been asked before, or it may not because it is perhaps a stupid question lol, BUT....."Do you have to like PAIN to like spankings?"
I was just pondering upon this thought, at no really relevant time apart from I have nothing to do and am bored, when it hit me (not literally lol)...to like spankings do we have to like pain even just a little?
Of course there are pleasure spanks, where they are fun and hardly painful (ok, well maybe a lil), but I wouldn't call myself a masochist and I really have a very small pain threshold, so i'm not into spankings for the pain. More for the domination, but subconciously do I actually like pain a little or does it just come with the dominance?! (Although secretly I do like thinking i'm tough and can take anything after having a really painful spanking, so in sense it's my way of kinda saying "yeah i'm a woman and i'm better then man mwah hahaha" or not *coughs*!)
What does everyone else think?
~lil miss Charlotte~
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Ftopinmichigan
Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 260
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 20, 2005 - 05:22 pm: |
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I think everyone will feel differently on the topic.
I personally, only enjoy a man that's a masochist, and loves the pleasure of pain. He's gotta love the pain, for me to enjoy spanking him.
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Fireman_chris
New member
Username: Fireman_chris
Post Number: 18
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 20, 2005 - 05:23 pm: |
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My wife always says that she doesn't really like the spanking itself (i.e. the pain), but rather the way her bottom feels afterwards (tingling is how she explains it) as well as the ritual and the submission of it.
I, on the other hand, feel differently when I switch. If I'm getting spanked, I'm in it just for the sensation, and for the most part don't get anything out of the mental aspects.
As you slide down the banisters of life
may the splinters never point the wrong way.
Old Irish Proverb
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Blistering_blonde
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Username: Blistering_blonde
Post Number: 11
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 20, 2005 - 05:24 pm: |
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I HATE PAIN ....i am the first to admit i am a pain whimp ..what i LOVE about spankings is the extra tingle feeling .. but honestly as my rear throbs to me it actually feels smaller*ok swollen and throbbing .. but ONLY certian spots REALLY hurt * and those feel smaller ...makes me feel sexier .. makes him enjoy it more  |
Redhinney
Junior Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 122
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 20, 2005 - 05:27 pm: |
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Lil Miss
I don't like pain I do think I have a high pain thershold but when it gets to the point that I can honeslty say it hurts I don't like it. But I do like to be spanked and W believes that for a spanking to be good it has to hurt. In 25 years of a DD relationship I know that I have gotten many long and painful spankings. I love the fact that I submit to him and he loves being in charge so I think it is a matter of mind set not a love of pain. Well it is for me at least. |
Shylah
Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 533
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 20, 2005 - 05:38 pm: |
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It's not the pain...it's the sting. If it was pain, I would be running backwards fast. I love the sting and the warm feeling after.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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J1234
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Username: J1234
Post Number: 6
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 20, 2005 - 10:05 pm: |
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I don't like pain, and I'm afraid of it. However, the light spanking does not produce that much pain, but a light sting, which in itself is enjoyable. I guess there is a certain threashold for me after which it is impossible to enjoy the pain. For me, for spanking to be effective in behavior modification department, it has to hurt. But I love the effect those types of spankings have on me.
I agree with the member who said that the enjoyment of a spanking is mostly mental. I don't enjoy the pain, I enjoy reaction of my body to pain, and mental factors play very large role in that reaction. |
J1234
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Username: J1234
Post Number: 7
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 20, 2005 - 10:09 pm: |
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So, I guess the answer to the original question "Do you have to like PAIN to like spankings?" is no, you don't have to like pain to like spankings. But some people enjoy the spankings specifically for the feeling of pain. Every one is different, and everyone gets out of the spanking what they seek the most. |
Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 214
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 20, 2005 - 10:16 pm: |
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I much prefer the surprise spanking. The impromptu ones that see to come when least expected.
I had 3 of them the other night. My mouth and attitude just did not seem to be able to stop. LOL I was on a roll.
But I am NOT into pain at all - the sting and the after glow is what I like. And mostly the feeling of being dominated at that point in time.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Rex138
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Username: Rex138
Post Number: 19
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 20, 2005 - 10:36 pm: |
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Pleasure and Pain - I find pleasure in the thought of getting a spanking, in the anticipation of getting a spanking, sometimes in the actual spanking (a light one) and I find pleasure after the spanking (the tingling described in some posts and the submissive feeling a bottom feels after a spanking.
If it's a heavy spanking, I can't say I enjoy the PAIN of it but I do like the rush of emotions that the pain brings and the release it can provide.
"It seemed like a good idea at the time."
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Katie_spades
Junior Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 102
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 20, 2005 - 11:12 pm: |
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Wow, so many different opinions and views; it really is contingent upon the person's point of view. I don't think I necessarily like pain persay; I'm the biggest baby with any pain, like a sprained ankle or something, yet I suprise myself with what a spanking I can take sometimes. I don't think it's necessarily that I like the pain but when I am spanked for punishment I deserve it so I have a reason to stick it out and force myself.
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Spankingcouple
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Username: Spankingcouple
Post Number: 33
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 20, 2005 - 11:19 pm: |
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i don't like pain either..as a matter of fact i dread my punishment spankings because i know the spanking is going to really hurt. it's how i feel over his lap is what does it me.
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 870
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 20, 2005 - 11:59 pm: |
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I agree Katie, everyone will feel very differently about this.
There are many days in which I am in pain from morning until bedtime. I have fibro, and it can make doing anything difficult. Ive learned to cope with the pain, deal with it or take some meds to help me thru it. I hate being in pain all the time, so you would also think I wouldnt like being spanked. And if its going to be a punishment, then you would be right.
But I love everything about spankings. The threat, the domination, the anticipation, being over his lap, waiting for that first touch....the warmth of his hand, the sting against my skin, the buildup of heat....rubbing, smoothing on cream, cuddling afterwards that almost always leads to other things. You dont have to like pain Lil miss, it's really such a small part of the whole experience.
Just enjoy what you do love about it instead. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
3 wise men? Be serious....
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Poofette
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Username: Poofette
Post Number: 39
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 21, 2005 - 02:40 am: |
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Spent some time thinking about this subject and have come to some conclusions that apply strictly to me. I am not a pain slut nor am I a masochist, that being said I genuinely love being spanked, hard, soft, long, short, with or without implements. I also love the idea of being dominated sexually speaking but am horrified at that prospect of being controlled outside the bedroom. My body does not respond to a spanking with its typical response to pain, it responds as if it is pleasure that is being generated. Which it is, at least for me. It arouses me and can even make me orgasm (often does!!). I am also aware that I am a sensation seeker. The more intense the sensation the better I like it. For me, that kind of explains the whole thing.
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Lil_miss_wayward
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Username: Lil_miss_wayward
Post Number: 21
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 21, 2005 - 01:41 pm: |
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Wow so many opinions and replies! Thank you everyone for participating... (that emoticon image wasn't really appropriate but I have wanted to use it for so long so hush :-p)!
Anyways, It is really interesting to see how people feel about pain and spankings in general. Spankings are just great, sometimes I don't understand why more people do not use it to solve some problems within relationships lol. I mean I for one are happy when I know that if I am doing something that is really bugging my partner almost to the point where in an average non-spanking relationship he would be in a mood and not talking to me, he can just order me to kneel infront of him instead while he 'lectures' me and then spanks me for the thing i'm doing that he knows and I know is wrong.
To me spankings sometimes solves a lot of problems and what could be potential arguments, I dont know how others feel about this and to be honest this is making up another topic to discuss lol "Do spankings make a better relationship?" or "Are spankings argument/problem solvers?".
Getting back to the original thread though, I agree with a lot of you about the tingly feeling after a spanking. Usually makes me want more of the spanks even though I can't bare to suffer the actual pain of the spanking again!
Well must dash, so HAPPY SPANKINGS and HAPPY HOLIDAYS EVERYONE! 
~lil miss Charlotte~
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Sdhrts
Junior Spanko
Username: Sdhrts
Post Number: 95
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 21, 2005 - 03:40 pm: |
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This question is asked alot by new people I meet. I like the pain when being spanked. I wouldn't like hitting my thumb wiith a hammer though. The only place I think spakee's want to feel pain is in there bottom. I think this seperates us from the hard core s/m people. Of course my new girlfriend is finding the eroticism of light love taps on her bottom and liking it. Have to start someplace, and easy is best at first I've found.I think curiosity kicks in after a while for all spankees regarding a harder spanking, which they may or may not like.
Happy Holidays to all
Is IT Better To Give Than To Recieve?
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Katie_spades
Junior Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 104
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 21, 2005 - 05:38 pm: |
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Wolfie weel said, and my sympathies for having to live with fibro... that is quite unfortunate. Sd, I'd have to agree with you in that after some time spankees are curious about harder spankkings. Although relatively new to the scene, when I first started getting spankings, they weren't that hard with respect to now, but curiousity killed the kitty, and my bum, LOL...
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Rex138
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Username: Rex138
Post Number: 22
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 21, 2005 - 10:01 pm: |
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Maybe it's like eating hot food. At first my wife couldn't eat anything that hot, BUT she loved the after effects so she would keep on eating hot food. And it kept getting hotter and hotter. Now she's a bonafide chili-head.
Seems like most people that are into spanking, start off light and end up getting heavier.
But that is just IMHO 
But I do know that I can take a much heavier spanking now, than I could when we first started playing.
"It seemed like a good idea at the time."
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Closetoedge
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Username: Closetoedge
Post Number: 4
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, December 22, 2005 - 04:20 pm: |
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EVERYONE who is into spanking has in thier mind some sort of system that turns pain into pleasure.
In the other post, I agree, that smacking a thumb with a hammer is not a pain anyone whould like to
do a lot. It is a bit hard to explain how the brain processes pain into pleasure, but I will try to explain. When you get your bain in what I call the "ZONE" your bain can process a lot better the pain to pleasure scenerio and that is when you can take a harder spanking and not get " hurt" or feel it as much. If you are not completely in the " ZONE" you will not be able to tolerate the same amount of force and not think it is painful. If you were to bring home a same sex co-worker and your top gave you what you would consider a " LOVE TAP" and your co-worker, the co-worker would think the love tap would be extremely painful as they do not have any mechanics for deriving pleasure from pain.
It is in the placing the spankee into the " ZONE" and appling the correct amount of stimulation that BOTH the top and bottom are made happy. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 876
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, December 22, 2005 - 11:35 pm: |
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Thanks Katie, I cope pretty well most of the time.
As far as getting harder or heavier spankings...I dont really want to go there myself. I like light stingy spankings, long warm ups that dont wear out my Dom...I dont want my levels to keep rising all the time. Some may call me a whimp, but Im happy where I am right now and hope I never need harder and harder spankings. Fine for those who enjoy it, just not for me. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
3 wise men? Be serious....
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Rex138
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Username: Rex138
Post Number: 27
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Friday, December 23, 2005 - 12:26 am: |
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Hey Wolfie,
All that matters is that you enjoy where you're at and what you're doing with spanking.
We all love spanking to one degree or another, no right, no wrong. 
"It seemed like a good idea at the time."
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Neoserenity87
Spanko
Username: Neoserenity87
Post Number: 291
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Friday, December 23, 2005 - 09:58 pm: |
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lol, pain, well for me it's complicated. what can I say, the army is my life and I do have a high threshold for pain, it's just the way I am. I guess I have to say I love the anticipation and the feeling afterwards more than the actual spanking. It's hard to explain but it's sexually "exciting" when my bf threatens a spanking. lol...don't really no any other way to explain it, the anticipation and warm glow afterward is enough for me to keep wanting more i guess......ah well, HAPPY HOLIDAYS EVERBODY!!!
.....dang, back to Iraq again.......oh well, watch out Iraqis! Here comes Rudy!!!!
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