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Celticbratt
Junior Spanko
Username: Celticbratt
Post Number: 60
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 08, 2005 - 07:44 am: | 
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Ok- last night i got into a really yucky place in my own head. Talked to Big G, and was a brat. Not a fun, oh-you-are-gonna-get-it-now type brat...a total, 100% wench- Put both me and Big G in a bad place, I was jealous and petty and mean.He knew why I was being the way I was, understood it, and basically told me to knock my shit off, that everything will be fine, and to stop being snotty.I woke up this morning, to find my beloved had sent me an email, basically telling me I was loved and forgiven, and that my butt is gonna cash the nasty checks I wrote with my mouth last night.Sigh.As I showered this morning, I was thinking about how much easier a DD relationship is (NOT that I'll be thinking that in about an hour, mind you)He is/was pissed. I'm feeling guilty about being such a bitch, plus I'm still trying to deal with what set me off and made me wenchy to begin with.It certainly isn't politically correct, but I know I'll go to him, and probably get punished a bit, just so we are both back in a good place mentally.Then it will be over- no long, drawn out fights, no bringing it up weeks from now...Don't think I'd ever want to go back to the other way.Anyone else live a DD? Anyone agree or disagree? |
Ftopinmichigan
Junior Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 130
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 08, 2005 - 09:10 am: |
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Celticbratt, I hope you're feeling much better about things today.
I think a DD relationship can work very well, for a couple. It's a great way to clear the air, as long as it's done so with mutual agreement on the offenses that warrant attention (or course with this discussion happening very early in the relationship, and not come-as-it-may).
The only thing I've seen happen, with friends in DD, is that some "play" at it, rather than taking it seriously. Yes, it can be "fun," but sometimes there seemed to be times when it was taken lightly, and things were done to spark attention for a spanking. (i.e. bratting)
I think DD works when it's seriously applied. Real punishment, for real offenses, and not confusing the "fun" with the "discipline."
Most people I know, use DD as more of an excuse, or reason to spank. Sort of like giving them the "reason" to have spanking as part of the relationship, without the guilt of enjoying a "kink."
Most DD relationships that I'm aware of are also like yours, with a male dominant home.
I think if it's what you both agree to, you both enjoy it, and it enhances your relationship...then it works for you. I don't think anyone can disagree with that!! 
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 744
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 08, 2005 - 10:16 am: |
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K, I couldnt agree more! I also know people who consider DD to be a "roleplay" of sorts, and in my eyes it mocks what those of us who take it seriously are doing. It certainly isnt a lifestyle for everyone, but those of us who are in it for the long haul absolutely love it.
Celticbratt, I can understand where your coming from 100%. I too have been in a bad place mentally and emotionally and took it out on the one I love. A punishment was promised and duly delivered...and then we moved on to happier things. He felt better knowing there wouldnt be a repeat of the incident and I felt forgiven and loved. As you've said and I've experienced in other relationships, there was no long drawn out bickering over it, no guilty feelings for weeks and weeks, no cold silences and no lack of forgiveness on both our parts. After it was over we both could let it go.
I dont want to go back to a life without DD either. My only real problem with it is that since I am in a l/d relationship it can be a while before problems are physically dealt with, and the waiting can be hard on me. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.
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Celticbratt
Junior Spanko
Username: Celticbratt
Post Number: 61
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 08, 2005 - 12:23 pm: |
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Fortunatly, I've only gotten one really bad punishment and to be honest, it was much lighter than the situation warranted.In any other relationship, what I did could have been a deal breaker- ended the relationship. I think Big G was just as upset about having to really punish me, as I was about getting a harsh punishment.But he promised me in the beginning of our relationship, that he will always do what is needed and necessary.So, after it was over, it actually made us closer. We had gone through it, worked out our issues, and it was done.And this was a BIGGIE folks-MAJOR mess up on my part. In a vanilla relationship, this is stuff that would have been brought up repeatedly. It gave him an outlet, to deal with his anger and hurt, and it really helped me, by giving me a sense of redemption...I paid for what I did.If only the rest of my life went that easily...lol Don't get me wrong, we incorporate some play into it as well- this morning wasn't a huge deal- Just paid for being bratty, and it put me back in the submissive frame of mind that I like.Something else I love about this life- it FORCES you to talk to each other, to be honest and open, wich I think tends to make us closer as well.Nope- no chance I would ever want to go back. Wolfie, do you know HOW much trouble I get myself into??LOL...I couldn't do what you and Steve do, cause my list of imfractions would be OHHHH so long<Giggling and thinking about how lucky I am, that Big G likes a challenge...  |
Domglyn
New member
Username: Domglyn
Post Number: 11
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 08, 2005 - 12:54 pm: |
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humm a challange.. i love my little girl and will always do what is needed to help her grow and feel secure. and yes i enjoy spanking that bottome of hers for sensual play but hate having to punish it. for us the play and punishment can be the same force and strikes but without the soothing touch between and my touch on her as i administer punishment changes the dynamic of her reaction to it. And yes we had one really nasty deal breaker that we worked through and to be honest i hated having to deal it out to her so we both could purge our anger n fears and pissed offedness. and unknown to me she taped it and now listens to it and feels calmed and loved by it. |
Celticbratt
Junior Spanko
Username: Celticbratt
Post Number: 66
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 08, 2005 - 01:01 pm: |
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OH!TATTLE TALE!!!!!!!! can't BELIEVE you told them that I taped it...lol.And there is REALLY a difference between his sensual spankings vs. punishment spankings. I can't take anything CLOSE to what I take during a sensual vs a punishment.But Big G has rules- he won't touch me during a punishment, and I HATE that- it makes it 100% more difficult. In a session with him, if I'm having trouble dealing with the pain, I know I can always ask him to help me through it, and his hand on my head, on my back, rubbing between spanks makes it easier for me to take.A punishment I don't have that option. I also don't get a warm up. THAT SUCKS!!!!!!! |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 748
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 08, 2005 - 08:42 pm: |
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LOL Celticbratt can you imagine how many black marks were in my book after being away from Steve for 10 months??? He was busy catching up the whole time I was there! 
That's so funny, we have videotaped a BG spanking he gave me last year. It is very odd watching yourself get spanked, and a bit unnerving hearing yourself beg and plead!
Steve doesnt spank me harder for punishments, if anything he uses less force. He gets inside my head first, so every spank feels as though he is killing me. It doesnt take much, along with my grief at disappointing him to make me one repentant little brat. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.
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Celticbratt
Junior Spanko
Username: Celticbratt
Post Number: 76
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 08, 2005 - 09:00 pm: |
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Yikes- 10 months DAMN!!!!!!!!! Can't even imagine- Wondering something.????????????? Most airlines will give you a free/reduced ticket if you are traveling for a funeral, or somthing medical...wondering if you can pleade Dom issues...I HAVE to go to England, cause my Dom needs to spank me??? Somethng you should look into Wolfie...lol Especially if you are GOING to England.... you know how they are over the pond...I wonder if it would help your case, if you showed up at the terminal wearing a plaid cath school skirt, white button up the front shirt,and a tie, along with knee socks....can't hurt ya know....lol |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 752
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 08, 2005 - 10:24 pm: |
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I doubt it, the schoolgirl outfit is the norm over there. 
Perhaps they would give me something off my fare because I cant use the darn SEAT on the way home...
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.
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Celticbratt
Junior Spanko
Username: Celticbratt
Post Number: 79
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 09, 2005 - 03:41 am: |
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Geeze Wolfie, you literally made me choke on my soda , laughing so hard...And I'll be more than willing to write the airline on your behalf...for spanked bratts who can't sit down...Hell, I see it as a psyco-social group that is in need of being accepted.......Subs who are bratts, ano only get to see their masters a few times a year, so their buts hurt when they are flying home....GOTTA be a minority on some level, hum???Can't you claim that? I'm a sub who needs special consideration because??? |
Redhinney
Junior Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 62
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 09, 2005 - 07:38 am: |
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I am in a DD relationship and I would never chance it. W has spanked me very hsrd for some thing I did that might make others walk away. I hate punsgment spanking but also like them as well - inever said Iwas wrapped tight. I hate them because they hurt so much W beleives a spanking for bad has to hurt if it is to have an meaning. I love them because once it is over it is over never to be spoken about again. When W spanls me for punshiment he still gets inside my head and knows when I am truley sorry I have never be the subjecct of such an intense spanking that I felt I didn't deserve. One time when we were try like all hell to have children I beleive the sistuation cause us both to not be ourseleves and I got spanked for something I felt wasn't right. We talked about after and W even felt the situtationgot out of hand. Most times W isvery much in control and knows exactly when to spank and when to stop.
Again I love it this way. |
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