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Redhinney
New member
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 9
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 12:42 pm: | 
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How many of subbies, bottoms etc have an top etc that is significantly older than they are. For example my master is 12 years older than me but looks ar least 15 years younger than his real age as do I. If your top etc is older than you do you think that impacts on your life choices |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1531
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 12:52 pm: |
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I personally don't find it makes a difference to me, I think age is just a state of mind.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 662
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 12:56 pm: |
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Mine is 7 years older than I am. I dont notice any age difference between us, except when his experience level comes into things. Then I'm always grateful he's a little older than me.
Of course this goes out the window if I find an opportunity to tease him about his "advancing years" and "oncoming senility"! 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
HAPPY SAMHAIN!
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Vulcano
New member
Username: Vulcano
Post Number: 45
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 01:07 pm: |
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Mine is actually just a few months older than I am, but taking into account I feel myself quite an impractical person who was also studying for a looong time (maybe trying to avoid getting mature and behaving at least a bit according to it) and people even usually think I'm much younger than I am, I must say that I definetely take my partner as the one who is older, more experienced in a lot of things and I "bow before him with deep respect"  . Oh, yes, it's just a matter of mind... |
Angelbabe
Advanced Spanko
Username: Angelbabe
Post Number: 807
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 01:22 pm: |
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Mines 8 years older then me and at time it feels like there such a huge gap between us as in i still don't know what i want and he's got everything planned but at others we match so well i don't even noticed he's older
I should be good, i should be good but being bad is so much Better
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Shylah
Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 332
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 01:46 pm: |
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Mine is 16 years older than me
I am the Queen of the F***** Universe!!! Any questions???
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Hunny
New member
Username: Hunny
Post Number: 9
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 02:19 pm: |
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Mine is only 3 years older, and I never notice unless it gets brought up! |
Angelbabe
Advanced Spanko
Username: Angelbabe
Post Number: 810
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 03:37 pm: |
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I think the reason we notice is im 21 he's 29 he's had 8 years to choose what he wants to do with his life and he has experience in everything where i lack it so sometimes there that gap between us for that reason
I should be good, i should be good but being bad is so much Better
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Redhinney
New member
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 12
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 04:04 pm: |
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Wolfie,
Just read your post. Of I was to say that to W I would be hearing OK "little girl: don't let me get up because you will be one sorry brat" But honestly we always joke about him robbing the cradle to which he replies "This way I was only way to get a virgin" He is a sick man
Really the only time his age becomes a problem is when we had to go to those horrible police balls. All the other captains wives were at least 10 to 15 years older than me and one actually said to me :I herad you went back to school so when you come home do you and W talk about your gym class, do they require that an adult sign your homework." It took everything in my power not to slapp her but I remained cool clam and collective. Not my problem that she is a misaerble person who looks evry day of her age. |
Hunny
New member
Username: Hunny
Post Number: 16
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 05:08 pm: |
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 I would have slapped her right there and then, Red! |
Redhinney
New member
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 14
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 05:34 pm: |
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Hunny,
I wanted to but she really was a commissoner's wife and as good as it might have felt for me to slap her W would have found out and I know that that outcome would not have been a box of candy |
Hunny
New member
Username: Hunny
Post Number: 17
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 05:37 pm: |
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I doubt it!  |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1546
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 06:09 pm: |
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Red, don't you realize that you were given a compliment by a woman who was just incredibly envious? By staying calm, you proved your maturity and made her look foolish. Good for you
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Redhinney
New member
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 15
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 07:49 pm: |
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Fanny,
I did realize that she was exteremly jealous but I also feel that she should have knew better than to make that type of remark.
I have tell you the truth if this remark would have happened say 10 years ago I must likely would have ripped her a new ass but if there is one thing that W always insist on is that I should do nothing that would embarssement him or my family.
The rest of the table was speechless when I answered funny you should say that because we were going over some of my judo moves this afternoon. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1569
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 07:52 pm: |
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Yes, Red, she should have known better, but both you and I know the rest of the world generally does not know how to behave in public.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 666
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 10:09 pm: |
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Red, the only reason I can get away with posting taunts like that, is because I'm once again 3000 miles from the man who dishes out the retribution. When we're together, I wouldnt dare! 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
HAPPY SAMHAIN!
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Redhinney
New member
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 17
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 11:01 pm: |
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Wolfie,
I guess he doesn't read this web site. Once when W was traveling to a police conventation I thought that I was in the clear. do you know that he had people "watching out" for me just to make sure I was safe but they told him everything I did. He even knew that I was talking on my cell phone while driving a big no-no in the world according to W. My piont is I learned they always fined out. |
Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 165
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 31, 2005 - 08:01 pm: |
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Oh Wolfie's Steve always finds out too. She just has to wait for the retribution, but Steve never forgets. But Wolfie usually confesses herself. If she forgets, there is always me to help her out. I do that so she won't have those guilt feelings later. I'm a good helpful friend.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Redhinney
New member
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 21
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 31, 2005 - 08:19 pm: |
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I don't have a "good" friend like you and I am glad but I do have a fce that can't tell a lie. I get so worried that someone else is going to tell that I spill the beans before he even asks. The tiem with the cell phone really it wasn't that bad of thig as I see it but he just asked me "how is the new headset working" I knew he got dead to rights so I admitted that I did use the phone with out it. Much better coming from me that having him say "so and so told me that s/he saw you on such and such road talking and driving with out your head set on"
I guess I'm like woflie I havve to tell because of the guilt thing. |
Tmichellebrat
New member
Username: Tmichellebrat
Post Number: 18
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 31, 2005 - 09:33 pm: |
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My Dom is 26 years older than me ...and while this bothered him very much at the start of our relationship...it never really crossed my mind. I look at age as just a number, and I am 31 years old and pretty mature for my age so I think it all evens out with us. And although he is 58, he does not look it and it's really not a factor in our relationship. For our age difference we have alot in common and I think that is pretty rare. Although there are some who just think it's nuts...but hey it works for us and to me that is what is important.  |
Kendra
Spanko
Username: Kendra
Post Number: 354
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 31, 2005 - 10:56 pm: |
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wow. My husband/top is only 17 days older then me... we both are 22.
May the Spirit of the Elves guide you.
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 672
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 31, 2005 - 11:10 pm: |
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Babies.
Ann, you could be a little less helpful sometimes! I'll be coming to visit and wondering what hot water I can get you into while I'm there. What are friends for after all? 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
HAPPY SAMHAIN!
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Redhinney
New member
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 30
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 01, 2005 - 07:32 pm: |
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When my husband was 17 I was only 5 could even cross the street by myself. If you ask him he will say that when he met me I still couldn't- but that is a story for another day. |
Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 169
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 01, 2005 - 07:56 pm: |
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Mr. B is 5 1/2 years older than I am which is a good age at least for us. He is the ultimate gentleman and from the old school, where men are men and women and supposed to be women.
My life choices are definitely affected by Mr. B. There have been quite a few bottoms who have said that they wished they had a Mr. B. But I always say that many would not be able to live with my Mr. B as he has a certain way of thinking what a woman should be able to do. He is very protective. Going out at night by myself even to the grocery or shopping is something he does not like me to do. Going to a bar for a drink would definitely not happen. So he does impact my life quite a bit.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Redhinney
New member
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 32
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 01, 2005 - 09:38 pm: |
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What exactly is going out at night by yourself. I never did it and will never do it. W is very protective as well and as you can the math he is 12 years older than me. It was just in the recent 5 years that I would even bring up going out with my girlfriends. Of course you need to know that these are girlfriends that I went to grammer school, high school and college with. They were all in our wedding party as I was in theirs. When we go out with the girls usually for dinner, we somehow end up at a resturant that is owned by one of my husband many friends. So you know there is no wild parties happening. One of my friends jokes and said that the next time she goes to dinner with her husband she is going to wear a button that say" I am a friend of (insert my husbands name) so she doesn't have to wait for a table.
As for men being men and women being women well my husband doesn't think that females should wear pants. He belives that dress, and skirts show off a womens best features her ass and legs. I do have a couple of pair of pants but only wear them if it is really cold but I have gotten so use to dress or skirts with boots in the winter that I don't even think to wear pants.
As for grocey stores I once got wack on the behind because the vegetable guy made a comment to him not knowing I was his wife. If you understand that one please explain it granted it was only one swipe but what was that for. So grocey stores even in the day time I don't go to alone.
Again I do think my situtation is diferent. We don't have children not from a lack of trying but for other reasons so to a certain extend we do alot of things together because we are together all the time. |
Ftopinmichigan
Junior Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 113
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 02, 2005 - 08:50 am: |
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Quote: "As for men being men and women being women well my husband doesn't think that females should wear pants. He belives that dress, and skirts show off a womens best features her ass and legs."
I'd much prefer to talk and have intelligent dialogue to show my best 'feature.'
I'd tell him that men shouldn't wear pants at all then... to show his "best" feature too! If he's thinking with that head, he might as well show it off too! 
Your husband sounds like he wants to keep you all to himself. If that works for you both, that's the best, for you. Sounds a bit possessive to me, but then I've always been independent and very social, with both men and women.
I guess it might be in fun, but when a man spanks his wife, because someone said something to her (something she has not control over), I find that over the top.
Maybe I'm just taking these posts/situations to seriously. Maybe it IS all in fun.
Maybe because the posters her are predominately lady sub/bottoms, I'm not fitting in well, and having difficulty understanding the dynamics.
K |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 689
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 02, 2005 - 01:00 pm: |
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We're all different K, you fit in just fine here. 
My Dom would like to be possesive like that, but he also knows I am a grown woman and have been taking care of myself for ages. And because I am 3000 miles away from him, there are many time when I have to make decisions without his input. We manage just fine...although I love his possesiveness when we're together. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.
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Ftopinmichigan
Junior Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 115
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 02, 2005 - 01:40 pm: |
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Thanks, Wolfie!
K |
Redhinney
New member
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 40
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 02, 2005 - 02:35 pm: |
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FtopinMichigan
Take the post anyway you see fit. I never said my husband wasn't possesive I think to be a dom you are some what possesive by nature.
I am far from a little house mice who can't take care of her self I started a businees 3 years ago that now has 40 people on payroll. I bid against big account firms for many jobs and in most cases my bid is just as high or higher but I still get the job. Why because I am tough and I do the job right the first time. Belive me W does know that I can take care of myself and manage very well. I chose to allow a lot of stuff just as he choses to allow other stuff. I believe that is called maariage. As I mentioned we do not have children so we are together a lot even more since he retired from the police force. Because we are together so much our realtionship is more than just husband and wife we are each others best friends. As of last year my husband now works for me and as I mentioned in my intro, the relationship I have is a way of life for us not a way to get a life so at the office no one knows that once we get home the leadership is changed. Notice I said leadership not power becuase our relationship is based on one person being the HOH not both. does that mean I have no say - of course not we talk about things that I am sure many couples don't, there is nothing that is done by or to each of us that wasn't consenual.
As for the incident regarding the vegetable guy Most people wouldn't have even noticed. I am sure it was along the same lines as the person who said that her spouse swatted her in front of her mother. Albeit playful but still in front of her mother.
As for wearing pants I don't find them to be sexy at all. Being as tall and thin as I am I like the way skirts and dresses look on me. I have very long legs and pants just don't do them justice. I do believe a women can look attractive and still be considered intelligent. My brains does not come from what I wear but from what I learned and how I apply what I learned.
My point is any line or item that any other members takes out of contend can look as horible. I learned early in life that unless you know all the facts it is best not to comment. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 694
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 02, 2005 - 03:47 pm: |
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Let's not get too upset about this, it is a "discussion" after all. No one is right and no one is wrong, we all have opinions and the right to voice them. I hope that we can all be different here at the Den, without having to worry that people are holding that against us.
We have enough problems with the vanilla's who dont like us and our kink without getting angry at each other. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.
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Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 170
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 02, 2005 - 03:59 pm: |
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OH YES Group HUGS
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1640
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 02, 2005 - 04:03 pm: |
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You mean the vanillas don't like us, Wolfie? 
And I thought we were such a fun group.  Oh, we are SO misunderstood!
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 695
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 02, 2005 - 04:36 pm: |
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Some vanilla's like us Fanny, as all those with vanilla spouses or s/o's can attest. 
We are a fun group...aren't we? 
I am more misunderstood than most, especially when I'm in trouble!
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.
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Redhinney
New member
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 41
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 02, 2005 - 05:18 pm: |
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I wasn't getting angry just stating some points I don't get angry I just c;aer the air and it is over. |
Babyj4
Ultimate Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 2345
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 02, 2005 - 05:39 pm: |
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My husband is 2 years older, my other top is much older
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
Corpral Brat
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1642
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 02, 2005 - 06:26 pm: |
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Well my husband isn't much older, my boyfriend is nearly the same, my lover is much younger, my CT is older, my Dom is very much older, my mentor is the same age, my domme is older, my nanny is younger, my sugar Daddy is really old, my personal trainer is still in college.......
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 696
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 02, 2005 - 10:20 pm: |
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What's a CT?
I'm not surprised you need all those people just to keep up with you Fanny!
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.
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Ftopinmichigan
Junior Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 116
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 03, 2005 - 07:15 am: |
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I made an earlier observation, based on how "I" feel about certain issues, in a previous post. It was not my intent to get anyone angry, or even prompt the need to "clear the air."
I hadn't realized my own words would cause such a reaction, in that I also included that if it (the situation) works for you, then it's the best, for you. I only referenced how "I" felt, and I sure did not dictate how the subject couple "should be."
Warning...opinion ahead......
I do think when anyone posts, in any message forum, that they should expect to get responses that they may not agree with, or responses where they might feel the need to clarify their original words, or add in some pertinent facts that may have been omitted, just from being too close to the situation. It is only natural for people (such as myself ) to interpret situations based on the only information presented.
I also saw this thread as a discussion, and have been comfortable enough here (in The Spanking Den) to say what's on my mind, while still trying to add some humor into it.
I don't think someone sharing their opinion, whether it be me or someone else, should be told not to post it though....but then...that's just my opinion.
I tried to explain my take on what was posted. It WAS contrary. Contrary opinions, on differing ideas of life events, is what I, personally, enjoy most about learning from what others' offer here.
K |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1646
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 03, 2005 - 02:01 pm: |
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CT=cyber top Wolfie.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 710
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 03, 2005 - 03:38 pm: |
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Ooooooooooooh! 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.
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Ziggy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ziggy
Post Number: 869
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 03, 2005 - 07:37 pm: |
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 so many men fanny, how can you put them all in the closet at one time. My hubbie is a vanilla and loves me, so there |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1653
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 03, 2005 - 07:41 pm: |
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See that is my point, Ziggy, vanillas are supposed to love us!!!!
And why would I put all my men in the closet? I need them to care for me and I keep them on their toes. 
I will be accepting resumes soon, as I think I can use a few more!
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Ziggy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ziggy
Post Number: 872
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 03, 2005 - 07:49 pm: |
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Hey leave one for me or two. True I really don't think they would fit,LOL yes they do make good waiters and dish washer, and other things. if you what I mean. |
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