Post Number: 2
|Posted on Saturday, October 20, 2018 - 11:44 pm: ||
Hey guys! It has been a LONG time (13 ish years) since I have visited all you lovely people!
After my first husband and I separated in 2006, I met the most amazing man I could ever imagine. I was open and honest about needing to be spanked and we dabbled a bit, but his health took a horrible turn. He was given 3-5 years to survive. By some miracle, he is still with me today and his health is improving!! So, after much soul searching and ALOT of open/honest communication we are ready to get back into the swing of things. (Pun almost intended ) Over the past 10 years (we have been married for 5) he would spank whenever he had the energy. (Part of his condition is extreme weakness and fatigue) Nothing anywhere close to consistent. His strength is returning, and over the past few month we have returned to the world of spanking (oh how I missed it!). Today I brought up maintenance spankings. He looked at me sideways and said "But, I have no reason to spank you, is it just for the mechanics?" Which got me thinking (oh dear!) What is a maintenance spanking? Why do I want them?
I have concluded that there are a few reasons I want them.
1)I crave spankings. There is just something about being across his lap/knee that is comforting to me. Being firmly, yet gently held in place by this wonderful man, who I would easily give up my whole being for, to accept his love and correction, because I want it, and need it. Yet, I don't need to disrespect/disobey to get there.
2) Sometimes I will mess up, and he won't agree that I need disciplined for it. I made a mistake not to long ago, that could have easily jeopardized our income. I overlooked an important due date on some paperwork and didnt have it submitted in time. He wasn't even mad. We had 3 different letters telling us 3 different dates and he had overlooked it as well. I beat myself up for it (was already in tears, expecting the worst when I confessed) and he said "Ya know what? It was an honest mistake"
3) To reset myself mentally/emotionally. If I feel myself slipping, or if he catches it, a spanking is a great way for me to clear my head, before it becomes a major problem.
4) (Laugh, snicker and chuckle if you will) My bottom is not as "tolerant" as it used to be, and I bruise easier. This wouldn't be an issue, except that we have decided to try for a baby (future post with lots of questions coming if we succeed) and while I am learning to admit to myself that I crave spankings, I am terrified to explain that to a doctor. I want to get past the easily bruising.
While I'm still soul searching, I think this is a great start to better understanding myself. Since we have stepped back into consistency, everything I thought I knew about myself and thought I wanted has been completely turned upside down. I'm figuring out who I truly am, and am no longer afraid to hide it from myself or my husband, and I am soo blessed to have such an amazing human being next to me, to help me along the way.
Do you guys have any thoughts on maintenance spankings? Do they work for you? Does it help?
Post Number: 48
|Posted on Monday, October 29, 2018 - 04:05 pm: ||
Hello, Kryss. After reading your post, I have a question: are you and your husband involved in a Domestic Discipline relationship?
I'll have some thoughts on the topic of Maintenance Spanking, but it will be helpful first to understand the type of relationship you're in.
Post Number: 5
|Posted on Tuesday, October 30, 2018 - 01:38 am: ||
Yes, domestic discipline. Real infractions, real discipline. No role-playing.