Post Number: 7
|Posted on Monday, July 23, 2007 - 09:42 pm: ||
Hello again, To All The Wise...
I have a life, I really do….BUT… I admire the feelings and relationships you all have with your significant others. The closeness and admiration you all describe is intoxicating, I so want that with her.... I am so jealous. I thought I was a romantic, that I knew a little something about how a woman likes to be treated. Compared to what you all have, gheez...I am such an amateur...
I have learned that the spankings she receives are about discipline. They are not about sexuality. Although, it does turn her on when they occur. I have never been with her right after she has had one, this is just what she tells me. Is it possible that someone that is in such a dominant role in life, fears showing their spouse, their “equal”, the side that is revealed in this type? The possibility of crying, of submitting to the process of being “punished” for what has or has not happened? Having to be made to stand in the corner, or write lines, the dreaded mat that you all have mentioned? Can any of you shed light on what goes on before during and after this disciplinary process? Is it possible she doesn't want "me" to see "her" like that? Maybe she doesn't want to be punished or submit that side to me? How is a Dominant role manifested? Is it possible that someone that is patient, calm, and reasonable acting to have an alter ego to be a Spanker? Is one needed? Do you ever “resist” what you have coming?
Man-o-man...is there a freakin’ school or sum thin?
If I keep going, I’m gonna need a good one just to shut me up!!
Post Number: 64
|Posted on Tuesday, July 24, 2007 - 10:57 pm: ||
I dont know that I can answer all of your questions, but coming from the same occupation, let me explain what this does for me. Keep in mind that it may not be how she feels and communication is the rule. Alot of your answers lie within her heart and mind.
As an officer, I have to constantly be on gaurd not to show weakness, be strong, assertive and dominant. After being an officer as long as I have been it became the norm for me to hide my feelings, emotions, and stress from everyone. Now, I have always enjoyed getting an erotic spanking, but when I read a story about a grown woman getting a real spanking, something occurred to me. I needed stress relief. I needed to let go of everything I keep bottled up inside, and maybe even let someone else be responsible for me for a short time instead of me having to be responsible for everyone.
Getting a spanking, whether I have "been bad" or not, gives me a chance to let go, and it makes me happy. When I put myself over his knee, I am submitting to him my heart, my trust, and my body. And he makes me release all that I have hidden and bottled up. Once I have cried, and everything is ok, the emotions over run and with the spanking that has turned me on, sex is always next on the agenda.
As for resisting, I have resisted, once or twice. It is just plain fun. And I like it when I get "in trouble."
I hope I have helped a little bit. If not,..I apologize.
"Teach me a lesson, please..."
Post Number: 10
|Posted on Wednesday, July 25, 2007 - 04:11 pm: ||
Thank you S_D...
Your comments and personal views are greatly appreciated. So many here have been very helpful and sensitive to my questions; both in their replies to postings, as well as in private emails.
I probably ask some very infantile (relatively speaking) questions about this. In the beginning, she expressed how important it was to her and I began investigating. Later, after having a brief (very boring for her I'm sure) experience, and speaking with all of you, and LOOKING INWARD, I realized, and was taught, that I would not be the "bad person" that is abusive, uncaring, mean and should drawn & quartered, shot, and castrated (not necessarily in that order however). It takes a lot to make that leap. With all of your help, and her understanding and support, I'm so there... She has no idea of the man she is helping to create, and how much I love her for sharing something so intimate with me.
Thank you so much again...
Happy Tails! uh, I mean trails, yeah...thats it!