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Ddforme
New member
Username: Ddforme
Post Number: 12
Registered: 06-2007
| | Posted on Sunday, June 24, 2007 - 01:48 pm: | 
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Hello,
So things have been going very smoothly and I have not recieved a punishment spanking since that last horrible one with the wooden paddle. I have been happily going along with my chores and getting stuff done. But I did something really horrible and I think I deserve a spanking for it but I don't know if he will give me one or not. Without giving too many details I have once again opened my big mouth and told somebody something that I should not have :o( It could really mess some things up for him and I feel so unbelievably bad. We are speaking and all but I can not stand the guilt. We are very new to this so I don't know if he'll even think to spank me for this but I just don't know. I know I deserve it. Have any of you ever been punished for opening their big mouths? I just feel so bad. Thanks for listening. |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1614
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, June 24, 2007 - 04:26 pm: |
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Hon, there's nothing like just telling him how you feel. You're eating yourself up inside about this and you need to share that with him. Maybe he'll agree to a spanking, and maybe he won't. Either way, at least then you'll know and can deal with it instead of dwelling on it. |
Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 1371
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Monday, June 25, 2007 - 10:36 am: |
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I think Bethie is right on the money with her advice...and I would like to add just one thing.
Sometimes, if something "really horrible" is done, a spanking might NOT be the order of the day. You did not go into detail about the incident you feel so badly about, so I am thinking that maybe have a long serious discussion with your husband would be more appropriate.
Since you both are so new at Dd, it might be wise to tell him how you feel and what the both of you could do as a couple to help you get over what is bothering you.
Would a spanking just make you feel better - or would it resolve what was done wrong? You said that what you did could "really mess some things up for him". Is there anything you could do to repair this damage?
No matter what the outcome - talking it over with him is a great place to start. Good luck~ 
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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Ddforme
New member
Username: Ddforme
Post Number: 13
Registered: 06-2007
| | Posted on Monday, June 25, 2007 - 09:55 pm: |
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Thanks guys, we talked about everything and no there was no spanking. I didn't bring it up and neither did he. Whew...but yeah I think we just needed to talk about it. Sorry, I am weird about details. I am afraid if I give too many someone out there might figure out who I am, lol. Who knows, maybe some of my close friends are spankos and I don't even know it. Although, if they are here then that means they are too so who really cares...but still.
BUT, next delima.....I am doing what I always do....after only a short time trying DD I start to change and say I don't want it anymore. I don't know why I do that! I haven't done any chores today and he says if they are not done I am going to get it when he gets here. I told him early on if I do go through the withdrawing thing again to don't let me, to stand his ground and make me do it. So it looks like he is sticking to it. Here goes the whole problem submitting thing again! I'll figure this whole thing out eventually. Thanks for the support guys! |
Tdom
New member
Username: Tdom
Post Number: 19
Registered: 05-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 26, 2007 - 10:34 am: |
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Ddforme,
Have you considered that you may really not want to live a DD lifestyle? I agree with the sage advice provided by more experienced contributors at this site, but suggest that in addition to talking to your partner, you have a long talk with yourself. I almost detect that there are portions of the spanking lifestyle you like, but possibly total domination is not one of them. My partner and I have evolved a lifestyle in which spanking or limited domination of one by the other occurs from time to time; what and for how long vary depending on the desires and feelings of each of us. This didn't happen over night, that is neither of us decided one day that we would live a DD lifestyle.
The key to dealing with this is to decide tht you really want, communicate that to your partner, listen to what he wants and see where the commanalities are that both of you can live with.
Best of luck,
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Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 1375
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 26, 2007 - 01:27 pm: |
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Tdom - you made a great point!
Dd - glad to here that you and hubby talked things over Perhaps Tdom is correct in saying that a true DD lifestyle might not be to your liking (only certain aspects) - and this is something that can't be decided right away. It takes lots of time and communication.
You said "after only a short time trying DD I start to change and say I don't want it anymore". I am only throwing this idea out.......do you think you just enjoy the concept/idea of domestic discipline? Sometimes couples get so into the idea of DD, that once discipline IS initiated, it is not what they expected. Just thinking here.
PS..I totally understand about not wanting to give too many details - we are just glad you are here to join in the discussions (and we are always here to listen and support one another)
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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