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Papa_spanker
New member
Username: Papa_spanker
Post Number: 13
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 03, 2005 - 07:17 pm: | 
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}The wife had her car stolen today! She left her keys and her purse in the car and someone who was watching ripped off the car. She needs to be severly spanked for this. Any suggestions......?}} |
Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 104
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 03, 2005 - 08:35 pm: |
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WOW Papa I hope you feel sorry for her first and give her lots of reassurance and love before you lower the boom.
I am betting that she is feeling pretty badly herself that all this has happened. I know I sure would.
Remember discipline with love and make sure she is OK first. Then I suppose a punishment spanking is in order.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 982
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 03, 2005 - 08:44 pm: |
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I suggest you buy her a new car!! 
"Queen of Innocence"
Be willing to pass up good, for great!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 106
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 03, 2005 - 09:11 pm: |
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 Wonderful answer Fanny - I like the way you think. Yes a new car would make her feel so much better than a spanking.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 296
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 03, 2005 - 10:33 pm: |
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Personally Papa I feel that losing her purse, having to replace the credit cards and such and losing the car is punishment enough. 
I would only expect to be spanked for this if I had done this exact thing before. If she makes a habit of losing her purse, or leaving the keys in an unlocked car then perhaps a punishment is in order to bring the point home.
But if nothing like this has ever happened before than I would be more apt to cuddle and reassure, remember nobody's perfect and we all make mistakes from time to time.
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
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Naughty_girl
New member
Username: Naughty_girl
Post Number: 3
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 04, 2005 - 02:33 am: |
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I agree with Fanny. A new car is the best idea. |
Papa_spanker
New member
Username: Papa_spanker
Post Number: 14
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 04, 2005 - 08:29 am: |
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Well truth be told and Fanny will be surprized at my decision, I didn't spank her! In fact I did exactly what Beachley suggested. I gave her reassuring hugs and comforted her.
I told her it's a mistake anyone could have made. it was presumably a safe neighborhood, right in front of the day care.
We have to wait 20 days for the car do be declared lost and then she will get a new Chrysler 300!
As for spanking her at all - her maintainence spanking on Saturday will go a little longer than normal but it won't be severe. } |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 983
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 04, 2005 - 08:44 am: |
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Good choice, Papa. I knew there was a sweet heart inside of you, so I am not surprised at all.
"Queen of Innocence"
Be willing to pass up good, for great!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Highwayman
New member
Username: Highwayman
Post Number: 27
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 04, 2005 - 12:21 pm: |
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Wait the 20 days for the declared loss, then wait another 20 days for things to settle out, then remind her that she has a spanking coming. Build the susspense and the erotic twitchings, then plan a surprise romantic evening of pleasure and punishment for her. Because of the circumstances, this can't be too much a punishment in the strict sense of the word, but it can be a fun interlude of play to let her know you love her very much and that she means more to you than a silly old car -- with every swat to her bottom.
Alas, he was the Highwayman
The one who comes and goes
And only the Highway Woman
Keeps up with the likes of those...
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Papa_spanker
New member
Username: Papa_spanker
Post Number: 16
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 04, 2005 - 06:59 pm: |
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Thanx for the tip Highwayman I just might do that! In the meantime, Fanny wil get all the HAIRBRUSH SWATS that my wife isn't getting. OOOhhhh Fanny, come her missy.......... |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 989
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 04, 2005 - 07:15 pm: |
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Papa dear....I'll play with you, but be a little gentle with me. Royalty must be treated with respect. 
"Queen of Innocence"
Be willing to pass up good, for great!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 107
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 04, 2005 - 09:01 pm: |
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HA HA - Royalty Fanny, really. LOL
Papa I really like Highwayman's idea too. And it would not hurt to emphasize the fact to not leave the keys and purse in the car at any time. It can be done in the middle of fun, play and romance.
Ask Wolfie - she seems to find herself in that situation often enough when she is with Darwins. You know a wonderfully nice time and then comes the zinger when your held accountable for something that happened and then back to the wonderfully nice time. LOL
I'm glad it will all work out.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 298
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 04, 2005 - 11:16 pm: |
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Ummmm, yes well...him and his darn discussions! Hows a brat supposed to relax and enjoy herself when suddenly she feels her legs clamped and the voice of doom saying "we have something to discuss, dont we?" 
Big meanie! 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1003
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 07:58 am: |
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Isn't it amazing how difficult it is to argue logically when one is placed in a certain postion? Discuss? Seems to me at that point the discussion is ALL one sided!!!
"Queen of Innocence"
Be willing to pass up good, for great!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 300
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 08:56 am: |
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True Fanny, and in my case it's "backsided"! 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1006
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 09:09 am: |
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Been there, done that!!!
"Queen of Innocence"
Be willing to pass up good, for great!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Desireous
New member
Username: Desireous
Post Number: 2
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 02:35 pm: |
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Here is what I think the perfect scenario would be for that situation. I aggee you should (and did) hug her and reassure her, then buy her a new car and then after you hand her the keys but before you let her drive it you should bend her over the trunk and spank her real good. |
Reader_girl
New member
Username: Reader_girl
Post Number: 12
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 05:19 pm: |
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I think if I left my purse and keys in the car and had it stolen, I would want hugs and kisses and reassurance, then a spanking, then a new car. Just my preference.
Reader Girl
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Rocco
Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 448
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 06:21 pm: |
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Someone steel this woman's car... FAST!
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Reader_girl
New member
Username: Reader_girl
Post Number: 15
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 08:04 pm: |
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Not as easy as it sounds, Rocco. I'm afraid I have a terminal case of the 'responsibles.' I've left my keys in the car a total of one time, about 7 years ago... They were locked in, though, and I had my other set with me. I can't even be irresponsible correctly. 
Reader Girl
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Darwins
Junior Spanko
Username: Darwins
Post Number: 82
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 05:28 am: |
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Of course discussions are one sided.......that is the point of a discussion.............me talk you listen...............with yes sir and no sir answers at the appropriate points!!
I'm a king bee baby Buzzing round your hive
we can make honey baby if you let me come inside
Come on babe lets buzzzzz a while.
(Rolling Stones)
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Rocco
Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 471
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 12:42 pm: |
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Poor Reader girl, you know practice makes prefect 
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1061
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 02:12 pm: |
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Reader Girl, listen to me...all you have to do is fake it. I'm perfection in a package, but I hide it so well. 
"Queen of Innocence"
When the going gets tough, the tough paddle harder (white water raft quote)
"oooooo", she says!!
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Rocco
Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 477
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 02:56 pm: |
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Hides it so well, she doesn't even know how to behave.
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Reader_girl
New member
Username: Reader_girl
Post Number: 20
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 03:49 pm: |
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I'm actually learning a lot from watching Fanny. No, really....stop laughing! It's not that funny....
Reader Girl
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 312
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 03:56 pm: |
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Steve, one sided discussions are just wrong and must go against the Geneva convention somehow! 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET?
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1062
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 04:59 pm: |
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I am in complete agreement with Wolfie...totally wrong!
And Rocco, I am in total control of my behavior, you just don't know HOW I am going to chose to behave at any particular time.
"Queen of Innocence"
When the going gets tough, the tough paddle harder (white water raft quote)
"oooooo", she says!!
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Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 112
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 05:33 pm: |
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One sided discussions are totally wrong, but equally wrong is your Dom not listening to you when your trying to explain what happened that got you in trouble in the first place. LOL
There is always a reason if the Dom would just be reasonable and listen up. They might even learn something, but I didn't really say that just thinking it from time to time
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1066
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 05:38 pm: |
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Your logic is very good, Beachley
"Queen of Innocence"
When the going gets tough, the tough paddle harder (white water raft quote)
"oooooo", she says!!
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Rocco
Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 481
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 06:26 pm: |
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How ever it is you choose to "behave" ant any time Dear Fanny is always cause for a trip OTK.
And what all of you are forgetting is as tops just because is reason enough for us to give you a spanking, and if not for one sided discussions there'd be no communication. And after all communication is the key to any lasting relationship.
(Message edited by rocco on August 08, 2005)
(Message edited by rocco on August 08, 2005)
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 114
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 07:43 pm: |
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LOL - Message edited by Rocco - Ooops I'm thinking you couldn't decide how to answer that question, Rocco. 
I discuss lots of thing - our discussions are never one sided. I just don't get listened to. POUT!!!!!!!!!
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1084
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 07:48 pm: |
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geez...it's only Monday and Rocco is already flustered.
"Queen of Innocence"
When the going gets tough, the tough paddle harder (white water raft quote)
"oooooo", she says!!
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Rocco
Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 493
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 07:55 pm: |
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What can I say Darling, you ladies just do that to me.
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 320
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 08:51 pm: |
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I dont get listened to either Ann...our menfolk need their ears cleaned out! Maybe then they would see that we're usually right about whatever it is they think we've done wrong! 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *stamp*
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Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 115
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 08:57 pm: |
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What do you mean usually right - in my case I'm always right, it's just that Mr. B only recognizes it when he wants to.
BTW sent a text to Darwins today about a little Wolfie with Mistress tendencies. hahaha 
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 116
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 09:01 pm: |
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Rocco - don't worry we can take it nice and slow if you get too flustered. It's only Monday afterall. How slow should we go?
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 321
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 09:54 pm: |
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Humphf! Yes, he told me wiseguy...seems he wasn't amused at the thought of me becoming the wicked Domme of the East.
I dont understand why...just because I broke a paddle over some guys butt... 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *stamp*
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Pagan
Junior Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 71
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 09, 2005 - 01:09 pm: |
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YOU DID?????!!!! 
Ok...spill it. And don't hold back any details. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 330
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 09, 2005 - 02:54 pm: |
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Welllllll, lets see. I went to the club this past saturday night, and didnt feel up to playing much myself. There was this nice young man who was at the club for the first time, and he was a switch. He was being quite bratty (kinda like Rocco) and so I finally borrowed a paddle from a friend and told him to bend over the table. He humored me *humphf* but was then quite surprised when I began using the paddle on him.
Now, you know Im a sub...so it wasnt long before I was out of my element, as it were. Thankfully a nice lady Domme was nearby and she came over to give me some lessons...much to this guys chagrin! She showed me the correct way to use a paddle and crop, and I was able to snap them with the best of 'em by the time she was done. 
Then a little later I saw a friend who is a cross dresser bending over another table, so I again grabbed the wooden paddle and began spanking him. Because of his crinoline panties I didnt think he even felt it, so I applied a little more force...and the paddle broke in two! I was shocked, and apologized over and over to the Top who owned it. For some reason he thought it was funny....
So for now it's "All hail Mistress Wolfie!" 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *stamp*
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1102
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 09, 2005 - 03:01 pm: |
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"because of his crinoline panties....." Now that I find very humorous!!!
(Message edited by fanny on August 09, 2005)
"Queen of Innocence"
When the going gets tough, the tough paddle harder (white water raft quote)
"oooooo", she says!!
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Wild1
New member
Username: Wild1
Post Number: 36
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 09, 2005 - 03:23 pm: |
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Way to go Wolfie girl
wild1 ;)
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Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 121
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 09, 2005 - 07:53 pm: |
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I would have loved to have seen it. I would have cheered you on.
So Darwins did not appreciate your efforts. That's too bad. I bet you were pretty good at it. LOL
(Message edited by beachley on August 09, 2005)
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 335
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 10, 2005 - 12:44 am: |
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I got better with practise! 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *stamp*
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Rocco
Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 500
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 10, 2005 - 12:05 pm: |
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What is is this "kindda like Rocco" business?? Are you saying I'm a brat Wolfie?? 
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1123
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 10, 2005 - 12:40 pm: |
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I appear to be on Rocco's good side today, so I am refraining from saying anything negative.
"Queen of Innocence"
When the going gets tough, the tough paddle harder (white water raft quote)
"oooooo", she says!!
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Rocco
Advanced Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 505
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 10, 2005 - 12:42 pm: |
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LOL... good idea Fanny
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 340
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 10, 2005 - 12:43 pm: |
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Well, if the spanking fits Rocco... 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *stamp*
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Rocco
Advanced Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 507
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 10, 2005 - 12:47 pm: |
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Hmmmmm, interesting point of view Wolfie. Sounds like you needed a bit of that paddle the other night.
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 342
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 10, 2005 - 02:28 pm: |
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Very true Rocco. But since it didnt happen, I'm free to be as bossy and as naughty as I possibly can be! 
And since a certain someone's computer is down, he'll never know what I'm up to...
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *stamp*
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Rocco
Advanced Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 509
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 10, 2005 - 02:37 pm: |
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I'm sure when his computer is back up and running he'll check on you.
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 345
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 10, 2005 - 10:40 pm: |
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Nope. He leaves tomorrow on a 2 week vacation. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *stamp*
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Naughtybynature
Spanko
Username: Naughtybynature
Post Number: 104
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 11, 2005 - 01:19 pm: |
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Wolfie... Big 
Did is a word of achievement, Won't is a word of retreat, Might is a word of bereavement, Can't is a word of defeat, Ought is a word of duty, Try is a word of each hour, Will is a word of beauty, Can is a word of power.
*(Unknown Author)
Don't take life so seriously.....it isn't permanent
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 350
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 11, 2005 - 01:26 pm: |
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*sniff* Thanks NN.
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *stamp*
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Reader_girl
New member
Username: Reader_girl
Post Number: 22
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 11, 2005 - 04:48 pm: |
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Poor Wolfie! A vacation without you?! Where are his priorities?
I'm sure we'll all be glad to provide you with many hugs to get through it.
Reader Girl
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1131
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 11, 2005 - 05:37 pm: |
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Possibly the fact that Wolfie and Steve live on different sides of the Atlantic makes things a tad difficult. We'll be here for you Wolfie, and help pass the time more quickly 
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 351
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 11, 2005 - 07:28 pm: |
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Yeah, those pesky 3000 miles sure do get in the way!
Thanks everyone.
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *stamp*
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Biggirl
Junior Spanko
Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 63
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 11, 2005 - 11:51 pm: |
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Wolfie:
A close friend of mine met her now husband online. He lived in England & she here in the states. It took them 18 months to get all the paperwork for him to come here & for them to be allowed to marry. It was so hard on them both.
But they are happily married today. Have been for 4 years now.
For you both to be willing to have a long distance relationship says a lot about the depth of your feelings for one another. At least that is how it seems to me in the posts.
I always long for October as it is my favorite month of the year. I live in PA & the trees & woods in general are just breath taking. G & I are talking about being Handfasted next October actually. I hope it gets here fast for you both.
Brightest Blessings,BigGirl |
Smartnnaughty
Spanko
Username: Smartnnaughty
Post Number: 213
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, August 13, 2005 - 06:20 am: |
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Big Girl
What is Handfasted?
SNN
Sassy Sassy Sassy
No one can be as Sassy as me!
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Reader_girl
New member
Username: Reader_girl
Post Number: 24
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, August 13, 2005 - 08:31 am: |
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Yikes! 3000 miles? You poor thing.
Reader Girl
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Ziggy
Junior Spanko
Username: Ziggy
Post Number: 81
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, August 13, 2005 - 10:00 am: |
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hey I met my hubbie online also. we were married in 2001, we are coming up on our 4 th year in Nov, but he was from maine and I am from NH in which we are still here in NH. |
Smartnnaughty
Spanko
Username: Smartnnaughty
Post Number: 223
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, August 13, 2005 - 03:14 pm: |
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Congrats Ziggy. That is really terrific!
Sassy Sassy Sassy
No one can be as Sassy as me!
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Ziggy
Junior Spanko
Username: Ziggy
Post Number: 89
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, August 13, 2005 - 09:20 pm: |
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yes it is, now he just left for a new job, on the bus tonight, he will be gone for 20 days. pout, but he is doing what he likes so, good for him. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 365
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 15, 2005 - 12:25 pm: |
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Thank you Biggirl, I can barely wait!
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *stamp*
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1152
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 15, 2005 - 12:33 pm: |
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For some reason, I figured that our already Wolfie. I hope you don't play cards for money!! 
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Biggirl
Junior Spanko
Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 65
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 16, 2005 - 12:28 pm: |
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SNN:
A Handfasting (or being Handfasted) is a type of marriage ceremony in the Wiccan/Pagan Faith.
I am the one who is avoiding it. I am not a commitment person. Don't want "roots" of any kind. Having my kitties is an enormous commitment for me.
It is something that G really wants. I am evadeing, avoiding & changing the subject so well you would think I was a politician. LOL :-)
Brightest Blessings,BIGGIrl |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 375
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 16, 2005 - 01:03 pm: |
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I'm Wiccan too Biggirl, merry met!
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *stamp*
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Cass8
New member
Username: Cass8
Post Number: 1
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 17, 2005 - 04:44 am: |
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I was wondering if someone might answer a question. We have been married for 25 years. Tonight he brought up the subject of spanking. He is not happy with the way our marriage is going and believes he should be the Head of Household. We are both professionals, and have shared all marriage responsibilities. I am not sure what to think. He dropped this bombshell and then went to bed. Is there anyone out there who might shed some light on this sudden change? |
Wild1
Junior Spanko
Username: Wild1
Post Number: 66
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 17, 2005 - 10:37 am: |
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First off keep in mind I am a switch..in my opinion if he is not happy with the way the marriage is going..first go to counseling...then if YOU are comfortable with idea, then discuss this HoH and spanking issue....
wild1 ;)
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Wild1
Junior Spanko
Username: Wild1
Post Number: 67
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 17, 2005 - 10:38 am: |
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maybe he is the one that really needs the spanking
wild1 ;)
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Pagan
Junior Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 78
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 17, 2005 - 10:57 am: |
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Cass...this would obviously be a major change in your relationship, and is not one (IMO) that should be taken lightly.
I would try to understand what is precipating his feelings, and why he thinks that spanking would resolve any marital issues.
I don't know if the two of you indulge in erotic spanking, or if this would be entirely new to you.
There are quite a few members here who are in Domestic Discipline relationships. They could do a far better job of explaining the dynamics than I could hope to.
You haven't said how you feel about his suggestion...
I can only tell you that if my husband sprung this on me I would NOT be impressed. While I love being spanked erotically, I don't have a submissive bone in my body, and could never accept a relationship where one member is HoH. There are people who thrive in that kind of relationship...but I'm never going to be one of them.
In my own relationship, I would personally feel that he was saying, "We're having problems. They're your fault...so I want to be free to punish you for it. Oh, and I also want you to follow my rules from now on."
He'd likely be packing pretty quick. Even after 15 years. Seriously.
I don't know what has brought him to this point...I only know that you need to decide together how you both feel comfortable proceeding before you take such a large step. I can't imagine easily stepping back from it once taken.
I hope someone here will offer you a positive view of the benefits of DD relationships, so that you get a more balanced view.
Good luck. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 383
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 17, 2005 - 11:18 am: |
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I would be glad to talk about the positive benefits of a d/d relationship...but the whole way this was handled disturbs me a lot.
After 25 years of marriage, just drop the "bomb" and walk away? Thats not being very mature in my books. If he had sat you down and had a conversation with you, answering your questions and explaining his reasoning...but he didnt, did he? He just told you how he felt it should be, and left you to deal with it on your own.
Cass, Im sure this has shocked you greatly and if I were you I would want to know what has brought this on. Is he just into spanking, and feels this is one way of getting into it? Is he unhappy in the marriage? Has he always been a dominant man, or is he using this as an excuse to bully you? I would want all my questions answered if I were you, before you even contemplated getting into this kind of a relationship. After 25 years...why now?
I like d/d and believe it works for some, but its not a band-aid if your having serious marital problems. Let us know your thoughts on this new development in your life, and if we can help we'd be glad to.
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *stamp*
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Wild1
Junior Spanko
Username: Wild1
Post Number: 69
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 17, 2005 - 12:38 pm: |
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I am so glad that I was not the only one who felt uneasy w/ what Cass wrote..Pagan and Wolfie both nailed it...those were my thoughts exactly but i was fairly shocked in the manner her husband broached the subject..I do hope they seek counseling because there is more going on there than meets the proverbial eye.
(Message edited by wild1 on August 17, 2005)
wild1 ;)
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Biggirl
Junior Spanko
Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 66
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 17, 2005 - 03:49 pm: |
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Cass:
Heed the words of wisdom being given to you here.
Get your questions, every last one of them ANSWERED. GET COUNSELING ASAP.
For him to "drop this bombshell" & walk away....
unacceptable! Walking away is certainly NOT communicating....it is childish. You are NOT his subbordinate (sp?) you are his equal.
Please seek counseling. If he refuses....well that would say something in & of itself....seek
independent counselling. Don't let this drop! He opened this Pandora's Box & he is going to have deal with the fall out. To let this issue drop I think would cause an additional problem in your marriage. All the unsaid things....could lead to anger & resentment after the shock of it wears off & his statement resonates with you over the next few days.
I always think the best thing a person/I can do when I/they are questioning themselves is to follow their GUT INSTINCT (sp?) Not their/my heart & Not their/my head. You need to really do some soul searching about how you feel about not only the fact he wants to spank you because of current maritial problems but think about the way in which he chose to deliver his message. Is this a new delivery or is this a pattern of making these shocking revelations & then just walking away with you in a state of confusuion and/or shock.
I hope I have offended no one in my opinion. I just am getting a real "negative" vibe & I hope I have expressed myself in a way that is respectful of those who find benefit in their DD lifestyle/partnerships.
You are in my thoughts Cass. Please keep us posted & let us know you are ok.
Blessings,BigGirl |
Pagan
Junior Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 79
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 17, 2005 - 05:06 pm: |
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Just one other thing, Cass...
This is a spanking community, so we all either spank/get spanked...or wish we did.
Even so...you will not find any support for spanking without consent here.
If your husband spanks you to either punish or control you without your permission...it's not domestic discipline. He isn't exercising his rights as (self-proclaimed) head of household.
He's assaulting you.
Domestic discipline (DD) and Dominance/submission (D/s) relationships are entered into by two parties who both want or need to live in that kind of relationship dynamic. It is something they BOTH desire. It isn't imposed on one party by the other.
The more I think about this...the more it disturbs me.
Please be careful. |
Biggirl
Junior Spanko
Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 67
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 17, 2005 - 10:14 pm: |
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Pagan:
Thank you so much. You said...."The more I think about this the more it disturbs me" & I feel exactly the same. This is the 3rd time I checked in today & I normally one check 1x per day at most. It relieves me you are feeling something similar to myself.
Wolfie:
Merry Meet is right..........oh how awesome it is to me.........this is exactly what excites me so much about the internet.
Brightest Blessings Everyone,BigGirl |
Wild1
Junior Spanko
Username: Wild1
Post Number: 72
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 18, 2005 - 01:01 am: |
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Hopefully Cass will get back with us and lets us know what is going on...the moment I read her post I had a bad feeling...lets hope what has been said to her is taken to heart.
wild1 ;)
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