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Naughtylele
New member
Username: Naughtylele
Post Number: 45
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, March 14, 2007 - 09:52 pm: | 
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I've come here for advice before, and all of you were so wonderful that I can't think of a better group to ask this!
Long, sorry!
Without going into a lot of background, my DH has a habit of making purchases without consulting me first. This has caused us some serious financial problems in the past. Basically, he sees something he wants, figures that we can afford it, and buys it without talking to me first. He doesn't have to get my permission, I just want him to talk to me before making big purchases. We're a team, we're equal partners, it's OUR money, not HIS money. (so much for short background)
About 2 years ago, he did this to the tune of a few thousand dollars. We were in a semi-DD, mostly erotic spanking relationship (him top, me bottom) at the time. Even after fixing the finances, him apologizing, etc, it was still a problem. We decided mutally that it would clear the air for me to paddle him. That was the only time I have ever spanked him.
Well, he did it again. Actually it's the second similar offence this year, but it was a couple hundred dollars, not thousands. I didn't spank him because he said it would never happen again. I'm so upset that he would repeatedly do this, I've actually felt sick. So, we want to clear the air, and make sure it NEVER happens again. He suggested that I paddle him again.
My problem is that I don't know how to spank him. I used my hand and a small wooden hairbrush last time, and spanked until my hand/wrist got tired. He felt fine by the next day. I want to make sure he really feels this, but not hurt him (ie, no serious bruises, no blood drawn). We don't have a cane, but we do have a belt. Unfortunately, I have pretty bad aim. I'm considering buying a bathbrush for the occasion (this Friday), but it doesn't seem fair, because we've never used one on me. Just the hairbrush (ha!) gets me wailing in no time.
I'm sorry this is long, but this is very new territory for me/us. This is something we've agreed on and something that needs to be done. I just want to make sure that I do it right.
Any advice would be very much appreciated.
Does spanking help tame Bridezilla tantrums? You bet it does!
Lele
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Weasel
Spanko
Username: Weasel
Post Number: 217
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, March 15, 2007 - 12:58 pm: |
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Have a man come in to spank him. That will make sure that if he's doing this to get himself the occasional paddling, he will think twice before doing it again.
If you have a bad aim, something heavy like a bath brush could do damage if your aim was off. You might also stop by a saddle shop and pick up a "dogging bat" or a short riding crop (much cheaper than any sex supply outlet and same product). Both would leave an impression on him without wearing you out. stop by the paint shop and pick up a 5 gallon paint stick. They pack a sting not soon forgotten too.
Or you could try some wrist/arm excersizes to build up your strength a bit.
Either way, he needs a good solid punishment to make a lasting impression.
Just remember that once you've purchased a new item to use on him... unless you clarify that it is for use ONLY on him when he misbehaves, it could get used on you too!
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1780
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, March 15, 2007 - 01:11 pm: |
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I was thinking like Weasel that maybe he is doing this just to get you to spank him. If that is the case....you have more then just one problem.
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Naughtylele
New member
Username: Naughtylele
Post Number: 46
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, March 15, 2007 - 02:41 pm: |
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You both might be right. I appreciate the suggestion, but having a man spank him isn't an option for us. First, we don't want anyone else to be involved in our spanking relationship and second, I wouldn't know where to find a man to do it anyway! 
I picked a pair of distinct shorts and told him that they would now only be for spanking. Also, that not only will he wear them for the punishment, but that he can wear them at any time to tell me he wants a spanking.
You're right about the bathbrush, I really don't want to injure him. The paintstick sounds good though, and a visit to a saddle shop is definitely in order.
I really hope he wouldn't do this just for a spanking. I honestly don't think spanking crossed his mind until after he'd gone shopping.
I appreciate all the advice, please keep your thoughts coming.
Does spanking help tame Bridezilla tantrums? You bet it does!
Lele
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Pixiekitten
New member
Username: Pixiekitten
Post Number: 23
Registered: 02-2007
| | Posted on Thursday, March 15, 2007 - 09:03 pm: |
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My feeling is ...don't spank him...because it may very well be the reason he's doing it again. Just leave him knowing you're disappointed and hurt for a bit. That can be the worst kind of punishment for some.
Maybe use an erotic spanking as a "reward" when he least expects it? Then he might not act out in order to get those needs fulfilled. Equally as so maybe surprizing him with a punishment when he least expects it (and deserves it) will make it more effective and stay with him longer.
Good Luck and I hope every thing works out for the best.
"Naughty Pixies Always Get Caught."
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