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Nikki
New member
Username: Nikki
Post Number: 2
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 13, 2005 - 05:49 am: | 
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My husband and I have been talking about the possibility of adding punishment to our relationship. I have never been spanked for punishment, but the idea is interesting to me. I am also wondering if it would offer a release for me, a good cry sounds good. I have not allowed myself to cry in a long time. My attitude definately needs adjustment sometimes as I can go from bratty to down right rude. Any suggestions anyone could offer on the subject would be great. Neither my husband or I have any experience with this yet. To date all the spankings I get have just been "play." |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 229
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 13, 2005 - 09:49 am: |
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Whatever you do Nikki, take it slow. Disciplinary spankings are serious business and you dont want to jump into them without knowing all the ins and outs of what could happen. Done the wrong way, they could seriously mess up your spanking life.
Do a lot of talking about what it is you both want to get out of discipline...communication is everything here. How will you be punished? Are all offenses the same? Will you be punished immediately, or keep a book of your transgressions for a later date? Spanked until your husband thinks your contrite enough, or spanked to tears? There's a lot to think over before you get started.
Since your new at this...yes, use a safeword. You need a way to protect yourself during a disciplinary spanking as well as communicate with him if things get out of hand. I recommend having a special "toy" that only gets used for punishment purposes, it really helps to get your mind into obediance mode. Rituals help to focus your mind on whats coming...cornertime, certain clothing or lack of it, lectures on your behavior.
I can certainly understand about needing an "attitude adjustment", but perhaps a spank to tears spanking once a month would help? Instead of getting into discipline which might change the whole dynamics of your relationship.
Good luck with whatever you decide. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
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Nikki
New member
Username: Nikki
Post Number: 3
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 13, 2005 - 06:57 pm: |
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Thanks for the advice Wolfie! We decided to give your spank to tears monthly suggestion a try first. Hubby made arrangements for us to have an empty house tonight...so I have an odd feeling that I may get the first one tonight. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 236
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 13, 2005 - 08:07 pm: |
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Good luck Nikki, I hope it makes you feel better and provides the "discipline" you require.
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
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Nikki
New member
Username: Nikki
Post Number: 5
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 13, 2005 - 10:40 pm: |
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OUCH! Mission accomplished though...it was definately a release. My head feels much better...much clearer. Unfortunately my bottom doesn't feel better yet. Does anyone still have one of those soft pillows floating around? Although I don't plan on attempting to sit for a while. I think I learned the true meaning of "hot seat." |
Biggirl
New member
Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 33
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 13, 2005 - 11:25 pm: |
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Nikki:
I have never been spanked to tears but want to be very much. Once a month...on my rageing hormone day (each year it gets worse I remember how Aunts in my family were too) is when I want it. Only to "release" the genuine emotional swings.
Would you mind sharing what it was like to be spanked to that point? Both physically & emotionally during the spanking itself. How long did it take? Will you do it again? How did your husband feel about your request to be taken to tears? Did he use an implement in order to get you there? Did he say anything about how he felt when you began to cry while he was giving you the spanking?
I apologize if these are too personal or if I am asking way to many.
Brightest Blessings,BigGirl |
Nikki
New member
Username: Nikki
Post Number: 6
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 14, 2005 - 12:33 am: |
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Biggirl:
No apology is necessary. I am fine with discussing it. Everyone on this board has been very friendly and helpful with me, and I will do my best to do the same.
Emotionally, it was quite an experience, during the hours before I knew I was getting the spanking I felt nervous and excited at the same time. The excitement mainly turned to nervousness during the lecture & spanking. His lecture made me feel sorry for being so rude and glad that I was getting punished for it.
Physically it hurt like crazy! There was no doubt that this was not to be confused with a playful spanking. I think the spanking lasted for a couple minutes, although it felt like it was dragging on for hours during it.
Per Wolfie's suggestion I did have a safe word, but I refused to use it. I was determined to reach the point of crying, which I did. When I finally began crying it was like I could feel the stress and tension being removed from me.
He bought a new paddle to only use for spanking to tears, never for fun (as if that thing would be fun..hehe).
He said he hated seeing me cry, but also understood the necessity of it. I think it did wonders to bring us closer together, for the first time in a while.
I am sure I will get more spankings like tonights. I imagine when "Mr. monthly visitor" pays me a visit again I will probably get a repeat.
My bottom is cooling off nicely...I don't think it is quite a fire hazzard anymore. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 237
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 14, 2005 - 12:36 am: |
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 Way to go Nikki!
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
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