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Cupcake84518
New member
Username: Cupcake84518
Post Number: 2
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Friday, November 10, 2006 - 08:50 pm: | 
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Hi all, I am brand new here, and I have been reading posts forever. I finally got up the nerve after a million years of marriage to tell my husband that I wished he cared enough about me to put me over his knee and wallop my butt. Well, after a little prodding, I got a short spanking. But, gosh did it sting!! So, to other wives, I guess I need to know, does it always sting? Does your husband paddle your butt and you want to cry?? I have dreamed forever about this, and I am not sure what i was expecting. I want him to tell me more to knock it off, when I am being bitchy, to yank my pants down, and spank me, but wow..... I had no idea how much it would hurt!! Will I get used to that???? Any advice from long timers, is appreciated. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2905
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 10, 2006 - 08:55 pm: |
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Hello and welcome Cupcake. I guess you had a bit of a reality check. I am a long timer and yes, it does hurt every single time (at least for me) You need to have a conversation with your husband about exactly what you want and need. Not everyone is into disciplinary type spankings. Maybe you are thinking along the lines of a more erotic or role play type of spanking. Talk, experiment and I am sure you can come up with a level that you are comfortable with.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Cupcake84518
New member
Username: Cupcake84518
Post Number: 3
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Friday, November 10, 2006 - 08:59 pm: |
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Thanks for the information. I am new to all this. We did talk about it and I knew I was being a pain, I guess I was just stunned that he had the nerve to paddle my bottom that well.... shows he was more of a man than I gave him credit for. I am just 'new' I guess so I will have a lot to learn, so thanks for any advice. I knew it was something I deserved and had needed for a long long time... I had it coming. I guess after the initial shock, hhm..... guess I need to think some more. |
Pinkcheeks
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 962
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 10, 2006 - 10:27 pm: |
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Great advice Fanny  Hi Cupcake - my husband and I have been spanking for almost 4 years now (and married a million too!! lol). Yes, it stings- and the most important thing is communication~ talk about what you expect, how he feels, and what benefit spanking can be for the two of you.
We are not so much into domestic discipline as we are erotic - but sometimes I will be spanked for "misbehavior" - its "ouchie", but having lotion applied after helps.
Best of luck to you - and don't be afraid to ask questions here - we all help each other
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 774
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, November 11, 2006 - 02:51 pm: |
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Welcome and happy spankings! Congrats to you for asking your husband, that is awesome! As Fanny said, keep talking; communication is key and the only way things will work.
I am not married but am spanked and for me, it always hurts, and I would have thought I'd have gotten used to it, but I never have, and probably ever will, LOL.
Good luck and keep communicating!
xoxo,
Kate
The Princess of Spanking™
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Cupcake84518
New member
Username: Cupcake84518
Post Number: 4
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, November 11, 2006 - 08:13 pm: |
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Well, I have had some time to think about the events of the last few days. It took me a long time to get up the nerve to talk to my husband, and I would be embarassed to tell you how many years we have been married. We have so many blow out fights and I have a temper I know that. I get stubborn and I always figured he did not give two cares about me.
Well, a few weeks ago, that is exactly what I said to him. I told him, he didn't care because all this time, he would just sit and sulk,instead of talking to me about what was wrong and the quieter he got the angrier I got.
So, one day, in the fit of this whole argument he tells me I was acting like a spoiled brat, and I told him well, if you think so, you should have done something about it a long time ago. And, he told me how he should pull my pants off and spank me like the child I was acting like. I just made one of those sarcastic laughing sounds, and told him he would never care enough about me to do that anyway.
He must have been thinking and thinking about that. So anyway a few days ago, we go into the same old argument again, and the kids had gone out with friends. I was sitting on the bed folding laundry and he came in and sat down. He just sat there and I said nothing either, and the next thing I knew, my pants were down around my ankles, my legs locked under his, my butt in the air over his knee, and he was spanking the living daylights out of me. After a few minutes, I was pleading and promising to do anything he would say. He rolled me over, and kissed me so deeply, and then we heard the kids coming back so I ran into the bathroom.
I was just shocked by the whole thing. But after a few days, I don't know, I am feeling wonderful about it! Then today, we had some alone time. And, he told me he needed to finish what he started and I was ready to run, but he had me. My butt got spanked again but not as hard, and then other things started heating up. He told me I had better behave from now on that he is not putting up with my junk anymore!
I just feel really good about the whole thing, sting and all! |
Pinkcheeks
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 964
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, November 12, 2006 - 03:17 am: |
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 I am so happy for you!! I can honestly say that since my hubby and I have started a spanking lifestyle - our relationship is SO much better (and we have been married 31 years!! - - so come on - how long have you too been together?
I'm happy for you Cupcake! Feel free to share anytime~~~
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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Cupcake84518
New member
Username: Cupcake84518
Post Number: 5
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, November 12, 2006 - 08:59 am: |
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Yeah, but you probably were smart enough to talk to him about it years ago. For me, I was embarassed,a nd I did not want to tell him, I just wanted that close connection. There is something about that connection.
We have been married 27 years. And together for 31, as he said, maybe he is a slow learner. This morning he told me that he should have done that about 26 years ago. It really did open up a whole lot of doors of communication. After the spanking when we were making love, we shared all kinds of things we had never shared.
Yeah, it stung and it was a real reality check. But I swear he walloped the inhibitions right out of me, and all that pent up anger. So thanks for a place to share and talk! |
Blushingbride
New member
Username: Blushingbride
Post Number: 20
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, November 12, 2006 - 12:44 pm: |
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Cupcake, you and your husband sound a bit like me and mine - through the years of dating we had countless blow ups. And the silent treatment after from him would make me crazy and trigger the next fight.
I finally got the nerve to tell him about the spankings that I wanted just after we were married, and while we have still had a couple fights, the frequency has dropped dramatically.
We don't do true discpiline so far, but the erotic spankings seem to be calming my temper anyway, so that we are able to talk things out more easily.
As for the stinging, yup - it does always feel like that. I do find that somethings will affect the degree of sting (eg, hurts much more when I am menstruating, if skin is wet/damp from shower), but it always hurts. |
Pinkcheeks
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 967
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, November 12, 2006 - 06:35 pm: |
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Cupcake...I am SO happy for you I can totally relate to the stong bond and initmacy that follows a spanking -- my husband told me the same thing "I should have spanked you YEARS ago!" - Although we have been married for 31 years, it was only 4 years ago that I even brought up the subject! I was too embarrassed too. But I am sure glad I finally did.
Glad you found us and this is a great site to share and talk~~~
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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