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Rikolechat
New member
Username: Rikolechat
Post Number: 1
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, November 09, 2006 - 12:14 am: | 
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Hi,
This is my firt post to this site.
I have been with my wife for over 14 years. Lately she is behaving badly. Now I have decided that it is time for some discipline. What I want to know is your suggestion regarding how to discipline my wife with spanking. She was never spank before in her earlier age.
What I'm looking for is :
- do you have a behaving guide
- a punishement guide with
. Time of punishement
. Instrument
. clothes, underware, etc.
. position
. lenght of spanking
. number of strokes
. etc.
- a kind of rating tools for helping evaluating the level of severity of the punishement
If you have any suggestions or web site I would appreciate a lot.
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Pinkcheeks
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 957
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 09, 2006 - 09:35 am: |
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Hi Ricolechat and welcome. My first question to you would be..."does your wife agree to being spanked for misbehavior?" I would think that it would come as a HUGE surprise if you just yanked her over your knee and started to spank!
I can't give you specific instructions as to how to spank your wife, but I am sure if you did a Google search for domestic discipline, you would find some helpful websites. Also, there are MANY folks on this site that practice DD - I am sure they could suggest something.
Every couple is different in terms of punishment guides, but I would think something like that would have to be discussed between the couple before you got started. You ask some very good questions and I know there is info out there to help you.
My husband and I do not practice true DD - although I have been spanked for a variety of reasons. There is no specific time or clothing. In terms of position - its almost always OTK, and the length and number of spanks is determined by him (unless its an erotic spanking - thats a whole different ballgame 
Good luck to you and takes things slow at first~~
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1467
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 09, 2006 - 11:24 am: |
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Pink is right...you can't just grab your wife and start spanking her. Communication is HUGE in this lifestyle!!
There are many sites that have wonderful information to get you started. I'm not sure I want to give advice right now when you haven't really said if your wife is willing to try this or not. |
Bdsr
New member
Username: Bdsr
Post Number: 5
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, November 09, 2006 - 02:13 pm: |
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I totally agree....if you have not discussed spanking her....you cannot until you do....
If she agrees I would also suggest....if she has not received an adult spanking before....her first should not be truly punishment in style....
Perhaps getting her to agree to mild sensual maintenance spankings for a period of time....if this does not correct her unruly behavior enough for you....then you can tell her that you feel she needs something more memorable....
I have only recieved a true punishment spanking twice in my 14yr. marriage....they were both memorable enough to keep me from seeking another....
We have weekly maintenance sessions though....& anything I confess during one will not receive further punishment....no matter how bad it was....
My DH is really big on trust issues
Serve safely, sanely, & sensually~
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 762
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 09, 2006 - 03:29 pm: |
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I agree with what's been said here: there HAS to be communication! If not she'll resent it and you and there will be no benefit.
The Princess of Spanking™
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2886
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 09, 2006 - 04:56 pm: |
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Hello and welcome, this site is dedicated to those who enjoy consensual spanking.
"Now I have decided that it is time for some discipline."
We do not condone or encourage any partner to make this decision on their own. Being an adult, your wife needs to discuss the options available and also to decide if she agrees that she is "behaving badly". If there has been a sudden change in her behavior after 14 years, then something is going on. Make is your job to find out what that is.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Rikolechat
New member
Username: Rikolechat
Post Number: 2
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, November 09, 2006 - 09:51 pm: |
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Thank you all for your answer. The answer is YES she is consent. We talked about it. In the future I will give her the opportunity to choose her punishment. The first one will be smooth just to get the feeling. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2893
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 09, 2006 - 10:42 pm: |
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I'm glad to hear that she is in agreement with this decision. It is better to error on the side of safety, and that is just what we were doing.
As far as you list of questions go, no one can answer them for you. Each relationship is different. Please feel free to join in on discussions, I'm sure you will soon be able to add a lot of input.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Wilson
New member
Username: Wilson
Post Number: 7
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Friday, November 10, 2006 - 05:00 am: |
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Communicate, communicate, then talk things out ! 
She may think your the one who is behaving badly !
What will your reaction be if she says you will be spanked for.....offence ?
Good spankings are SUPPOSED to hurt !
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 772
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 10, 2006 - 05:49 pm: |
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Excellent, I am so glad you two talked about it! That is great news! Like Fanny and Wilson said talk, talk, and talk some more. Just keep communicating and I think things will go very well! Good luck!
The Princess of Spanking™
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