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Sashaleigh
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Username: Sashaleigh

Post Number: 1
Registered: 07-2006
Posted on Wednesday, July 05, 2006 - 07:22 pm:   Edit Post

Hi. I'm new here. I've been reading for awhile, but I've never posted. I'm feeling really down right now and I need someone to talk to. There isn't anyone in my real life that I can share this with so I'm coming to you because this board seems so supportive. Here's my story. I'll try not to make it too long.

Last week I signed up in a spanking chat room. First time I've ever done that. Entered a chat for newbies and got bombarded by guys asking for age and location. I was a little overwhelmed but managed to keep a chat going with this one dom. We seemed to hit it off and he seemed really nice. We played a little bit, which I'd never done and it was fun and a turn on. We exchanged e-mails and he sent me a photo and kept in touch over the week-end. On my profile I had put that I was interested in online dom/top for chat or relationship.

Like a fool, I suppose, I get all caught up in this and I'm thinking about it all weekend and anxious to get into chat w/him. We exchange im's and went on together, chatting about him considering becoming my online dom. I really liked him and was thinking it might be okay to try.

We were back on chat today and I was telling him that although I have a strong personality, I'm submissive inside and I feel like I need someone to be accountable to. He eventually asks me if I want him to accept me as his sub. I said yes. (as i'm typing this i'm realizing how fast and crazy this was, but i've no experience with this.)

Anyhow, he goes into a big long question/answer session asking me to do all kinds of things. I won't go into details, use your imagination. This guy and being dominated in general turns me on, so I can't say he was pushing it I guess. Then when he was done, he says I'm a good girl and I'm his sub now and he's going to give me some rules. So he does. Won't go into that now either. I was okay with it. (i feel like such a fool)

Then he starts asking me for a photo. He says he want's a photo of ALL his property, now that I'm his sub. I don't have one and thank God I didn't send one. Anyhow, we're chatting away, me being occasionally cheeky, him correcting me, etc... I honestly was having a hard time totally submitting to this guy, it's new to me.

Finally the chat just goes dead. He leaves me hanging for about 20 minutes. Then I got an alert that there was an e-mail. His email was one sentence telling me that he was releasing me because he doesn't think he's the right one for me. After going through all that. Telling me he felt a connection too. Telling me I was special.

I emailed him back saying that I thought he at least owed me an explanation but he never responded. Probably didn't even read it.

I guess the biggest problem is that I feel so bad. I haven't cried yet, but I am now that I'm telling it. I can't believe that I let myself become so vulnerable to someone so quick. Someone I didn't even know. I can't believe I gave him the power to hurt my feelings like this. Perhaps it was because he was the first one I talked to and seemed to click with?

Do any of you know if this is a common occurence? I just need some feedback. I would really appreciate it if some Tops would respond too because I feel like I did something wrong and I don't know what. What could be so bad that someone can't even explain it to you? I feel so rejected and it's pathetic when I think about it that my self esteem is so bad obviously that I'm affected this deeply by something like this.

In my mind I know that it wasn't me. He doesn't even know me. But in my heart I feel so hurt.

Anyone?
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Bethie
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Post Number: 1048
Registered: 04-2005


Posted on Wednesday, July 05, 2006 - 07:44 pm:   Edit Post

hugs I'm sorry this happened to you, but don't blame yourself too much. You jumped in pretty quick, but that happens in real-life as well sometimes. Be glad you found out sooner than later that this man wasn't right for you.

I think maybe your desire made you a little over-eager to please and you might have jumped into this a little too quickly. Slow down and get to know the next one.

As you saw, some of those chat rooms are full of guys looking for someone to play online with. Some of them aren't serious about a relationship and just want to have a little fun. Some of them just like collecting subs. Others are busy putting notches in their belt as they wander through the cyber spanko world. You've learned the hard way about that, I'm afraid.

I know it feels safer getting out there in cyber space, but you should take it a bit slower and more seriously if you want something more than just a quick online adventure.

May I ask why you're looking for an online dom? It might help if we knew more about you.
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Sashaleigh
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Username: Sashaleigh

Post Number: 2
Registered: 07-2006
Posted on Wednesday, July 05, 2006 - 08:03 pm:   Edit Post

Thanks Bethie. I'm feeling a little better now as time goes by and I'm cooling off a bit.

I did jump in way to quickly. I would have been fine just chatting and playing w/him. He kept bringing up the sub thing and I agreed, knowing that it was too fast. What I don't understand is why if he just wanted some play, he took it that far? Guess we'll never know!

I don't mind a quick online adventure.

I've been into spanking for as long as I can remember like many others. My husband and I have played with it, and he got into it but it's not enough for me. His nature is not dominant at all and I don't know if I could ever look at him like that.

Spanking turns me on, but d/s is a huge turn on for me. In addition to this, lately I've just felt out of control. Emotionally. Which probably added to my reaction to him tonight and explains part of why I was caught up so quickly in the whole thing w/him. So, when I signed onto this chat room, I said I was looking for an online top or dom for chat or possible relationship because it's something I'm starting to feel like I need. Some direction. Someone to answer to. I can't get that from my husband and he's okay w/me doing my thing online.

So that's a little about me anyway.

Thanks again for listening and taking the time to give me your opinion.
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Blistering_blonde
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Username: Blistering_blonde

Post Number: 302
Registered: 10-2005
Posted on Wednesday, July 05, 2006 - 10:26 pm:   Edit Post

Can I offer advice here ?
Next time ....before you accept you need to fill in a sub / Dom checklist .. you find them all over the internet
for instance this one
www.bdsm-education.com/checklist.html
Now you feel it out and have the next so called Dom (a lot of pretend ones out there )do so too. you need to weed them out ..and find a Dom with your intrests too... sure he will stretch limits.
He should not be willing to press your hard NO's (such as if you are Totally against chains ..or whatever ..he CAN NOT do it ) oh sure he could try to talk you into it ..but as a Submissive you have rights. YOU have the right to say NO . And a true Dom would NOT force it.
in my experience you found a wanna be ... he can control you long enough for his wants ..to satisfy his lil *I am in power trip so you do as I ask, for my kink but I will only tease you about satisfying your needs*
a TRUE Dom will take the time to know you ..will treat you like a peice of protected cherished property...and asks for respect in return....and doting service .
NEVER EVER send a photo if you are not comfortable with it .. I mean you are sending it to a Man who could then post it on ANY site he wants in any chat room ...heck even on his MSN .
How would your hubby feel about you showing whats leagaly his to see ?(mine would of killed me or at leaste flattened my rear)
heck I dabbled in online submission ..email me if you want info....
Trust me there are MANY MANY play Doms out there .that do not know how to get a dog to obey never mind a self minded woman..
Subbing is a GIFT to the Man ...it can not be forced ..its precisis .its passion ..and it should never be taken for granted .as if your not treated right ..you do not submit ...
if a online wants to collar you in less then a few months .RUN .. a collaring is like a engagement ..or marriage ..depending on the level. would you of married your hubby in a week ?
Tread soft and slow into it ....its mind play and you can get really hurt .
He asked what I needed , timidly gave it at first, now he just knows.
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Czechmate
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Username: Czechmate

Post Number: 22
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Thursday, July 06, 2006 - 12:39 am:   Edit Post

This fellow sounds to be somewhat less than a gentleman and in need of a thorough horsewhiping himself.

Now real harm done though you won't need to waste anymore time on this oik, a cyber ship that passes in the night.
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Pinkcheeks
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Username: Pinkcheeks

Post Number: 642
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Thursday, July 06, 2006 - 05:32 am:   Edit Post

I am sorry that you had to have this experience. I know its rough ...but I feel like I need to add my 2 cents here:

I know you said that your husband is ok with you doing your thing online...does he know the depth to which you play? You said that the two of you "played" with spanking, but you are more into the D/s scene. Have you talked to him about it? I can certainly relate to this because years ago, I discovered BDSM online and it was a total turn on for me....but I had the fear that if I brought it up to my hubby, that he would think I had lost my mind :-)

Eventually I found some very good websites, and began to print some articles for him to read. We had LOTS AND LOTS of discussions about it too. I don't know how long you have been married (I celebrated my 31st anniversary in May) - but my hubby was a TOTAL vanilla. I even got him to go to some fetish fairs in Boston with me!

Through LOTS of exploration, we decided that the BDSM was not for us, but rather the spanking scene (and have been doing this for over 3 years now).

Blonde gave some very good advice - if an online dom wants to collar you ASAP - run!! Go slow...and see if you can't work something out with hubby - I mean, you can have a dominant man right there in your own home :-)

good luck and keep us posted~~
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Sashaleigh
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Username: Sashaleigh

Post Number: 3
Registered: 07-2006
Posted on Thursday, July 06, 2006 - 06:06 am:   Edit Post

Thank you all for your responses. The advice and support here have been wonderful.

Pinkcheeks-Here's the deal w/my hubby. We've been married for 18 years. I totally came out to him about spanking a couple of years ago and it turned him on, because it turns me on. We played a lot at first, then it slowed down some. Now, we're in a place where he sometimes spanks me as a prelude to making love.

He knows D/S turns me on and intrigues me. He knows I feel pulled towards it. I've never told him that I might want to try it out other than in a roleplay because it's something he can't give me. He's not dominant at all in his personality. I don't think he could be if he tried. I know this sounds harsh, but I know this man. He actually is more submissive than me, I sometimes think. I love him. I accept him as he is. But, he's not giving me what I need in this way. I'm so tired of having to control everything in everyone's life and be strong for everyone 24 hours a day. I told him this and I asked him if he could just be a little stronger for me emotionally because that's something I need right now. I told him I can't be "in charge" anymore, I'm overwhelmed. He listened to me and said okay, but he's just really wrapped up in his own issues and I just need somewhere I can surrender all this. I'm not sure a D/S online relatonship is what I need, but when I read all of the emotions of those who are involved in it, it mirrors how I feel and what I feel I need exactly. I'm exploring to see if this is true for me.
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Tammynx
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Username: Tammynx

Post Number: 845
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Thursday, July 06, 2006 - 08:47 am:   Edit Post

Sashaleigh
When I first found spanking on the internet I was overwelmed by the many "so called Doms" out there. Your right they all send you a message wanting to know your age and location. Like they have a right to know that up front.

I started chatting with one man...he did about same thing...told me I was special he wanted to play on line. It was all new to me as well. I felt special.

What I didn't know is that he also told about 30 other women that they were special. He called me by other names because he couldn't remember my name.

It took me a while to get over that but I did. I also got a lot smarter.

I'm glad you didn't send a picture that is something I didn't do for a long time either.

Keep your personal information to yourself.

If possible could you let your husband read some of the posts here? Maybe you won't need an on-line relationship if your husband could get more into this. Just a thought.

Hang in there. The first few months of on-line are a real learning experience!!
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Pinkcheeks
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Post Number: 644
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Thursday, July 06, 2006 - 09:02 am:   Edit Post

Sashaleigh...thanks for being so open and honest. I can understand totally about your husband and how he feels. Maybe the D/s scene is something that he will NEVER take a shine too. I know that there were a lot of things in the D/s lifestyle that did not appeal to my husband at all - but like I said - we figured out that it was more spanking that we wanted in our relationship (not D/s).

I have a tendency to "top from the bottom" because I was the one who first discovered this lifestyle and knew it was for me. You do not sound harsh at all! :-) Sometimes I feel that I have to be strong for everyone too - and I know the feeling of wanting to just hand the control over to someone else.
We realized thru a lot of exploration, that I am not a true submissive (never will be), but in our household now, I like that fact that if I am disrespectful, disobedient, or dishonest, I will get a spanking......**We also enjoy erotic goodgirl spankings too.
Although we are not a true domestic discipline couple, we enjoy the intimacy and closeness that spanking brings us.
I know you are delving into the area of D/s and I think it great that you do lots of reasearch and soul-searching. Talk with others, read, explore..........just don't jump into anything too quickly.
Tammy is right...please don't give out any personal info - its for your safety. And her advice about hanging in there is so "on the money". Take your time and play safe :-)
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Tina
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Username: Tina

Post Number: 27
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Friday, July 07, 2006 - 07:57 pm:   Edit Post

Wow. I am really floored by your story. That is horrible that he just dumped you like that! It is making me begin to seriously worry about my own very-hot online thing that I have going on right now. I have done a lot of the same things, bared my soul, erotic emails, the whole thing. I don't remember if you've had phone calls or not but I have with mine. If he ended it like yours did I would be in such a state of shock I don't think I'd ever do an online thing like that again! I think your guy was a total psycho however, you should not feel bad. Can you think of what the last line you put before he ended it? Because it could be something like he, a predator, read something and decided not to prey on you after all, i.e. because he began to regret playing with your emotions like that. Felt he took it too far, that kind of thing. Just a thought. Again sorry for your experience.
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Fanny
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Username: Fanny

Post Number: 2564
Registered: 05-2005


Posted on Friday, July 07, 2006 - 11:55 pm:   Edit Post

Just a comment about online relationships. I chat with many people of both genders. Most of them are very nice and like to share. Much of the time though, one day they just disappear. The first few times, I though maybe I had done something wrong, but now I realize that some people online are just playing for the moment. I am not seeking anyone, conversations just start. Now I answer and don't worry about if I ever hear from them again. I know my csae is different in the fact that I am married and am not looking for a cyber anything, but my experience is that a lot of cybers out there are not really reliable.
Queen of Innocence

"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Sashaleigh
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Username: Sashaleigh

Post Number: 4
Registered: 07-2006
Posted on Saturday, July 08, 2006 - 02:22 pm:   Edit Post

You know Fanny, I never thought about it like that. I guess it's much more commonplace than I thought. Which makes me feel a lot better.

As for what I said to him last? He asked me to change my font color and I asked if I could choose a different one than the one he wanted. After that, silence.

I never exchanged phone numbers with him, we had only been talking about a week at the time. I'm looking at it as a learning experience.

Thank you all for your responses and advice. You've helped me find closure in this and that was very important to me.


He did e-mail me back finally though the next day. He said that I was being insolent throughout our chat and he had warned me that he doesn't play at this. That's true. I just would have appreciated that explanation on im, rather than silence.
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Tina
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Post Number: 28
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Saturday, July 08, 2006 - 02:35 pm:   Edit Post

So basically he doesn't want someone who is a challenge. How boring! You are better off without him.
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Blistering_blonde
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Username: Blistering_blonde

Post Number: 309
Registered: 10-2005
Posted on Saturday, July 08, 2006 - 05:36 pm:   Edit Post

Oh can we all chant the real word for this man CONTROL FREAK ..
He did not want a Sub .he wanted a slave ..TOTALLY different .. a sub has rights ..and can say what she feels and tell him NO ..if she needs ..a SLAVE is that .he can force her to sleep with whoever he wants ..eat ONLY what he says ,and how much of it that he allows her ..
You are ALOT better with out this man ...these men I find are insucure and only feel better while making you suffer .
your married .you do not NEED his control .you just want the adventure ..the thrill .the lil extra you feel your relationship lacks .
P.S I did this ..I am married and had premission to take on a online Dom . you know what ..less then a year later my hubby became more Dominate ...and oh wow ...who needs that online man.Mine is MORE than enough
He asked what I needed , timidly gave it at first, now he just knows.
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Weasel
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Username: Weasel

Post Number: 91
Registered: 06-2006


Posted on Sunday, July 09, 2006 - 07:55 am:   Edit Post

Sasha don't feel alone, I know how you feel about your husband. meybe he doesn't know what to do and feels really self-conscious about trying to be someone he doesn't feel like he really is. Happens to all of us trying something new out - we don't quite know what exactly to do so we do nothing. I think that's where my husband is at. He is computer illiterate so I can't really send him links and such. I have to "top from the bottom" if I'm going to get what I want. I always compare it to throwing a surprise party for myself. He had so much fun and got so excited last time we played spanky and spankee that I thought he would want to take a leading role next play session. Been 2 weeks and I have received a playful swat here and there but nothing more and only vanilla sex a couple of times in the interim.
As for Mr. Online Dom, he sounds like a loser. You're better off without him. I wouldn't dream of having an online fling because I know it would really make my husband feel badly no matter what he said about it. I know he loves me very much and he would do whatever I ask him to do. He's just not very much of an original thinker, and he just doesn't hang around thinking about spanking his wife!
If I'm to get a spanking, I have to really just go get the dang swatting tool, put it in his hand and tell him "I'm a VERY bad girl and I should be spanked!". Then I have to spell out the way I want it. It's the only way I'm going to get it. I'm coming to grips with having to ask for it if I want it. You might just consider that is how you can get it.
Meybe our spiritual lesson here is in learning how to ask for what we want from the men we love. Don't give up!
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Czechmate
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Post Number: 23
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Sunday, July 09, 2006 - 05:10 pm:   Edit Post

I really don't understand these dominant 'fellows' they sound little better than playground bullies. A proper gentlemen must chastise his ladies only because it is regretfully sometimes nessessary. He shouldn't be doing it to show what big shoulders he has.

..If you were't all so horribly bad I'd be glad never to need to do it at all... particularly because of the distressing tightness it provokes in my (ahem) trouser region.
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Katie_spades
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Username: Katie_spades

Post Number: 680
Registered: 11-2005


Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 12:01 am:   Edit Post

Do not feel bad because this guy sounds like a jerk who just wanted to cotrol you and not even care about your feelings. It sounds like he just wanted your picture and once he got that he was going to be done anyway... he sounds like a total loser; good thing you found out so fast!
Katie Spades: The Princess of Spanking
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Prof_top
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Post Number: 12
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 08:49 am:   Edit Post

Again one is struck by the lack of tops involved in this chat. Here, anyway, for what it might be worth, is an idea.
I don't know chat rooms, so keep that in mind. You clearly love your husband and you said he was more sub than you. I knew a woman once with similiar frustrations. She started really bossing him about and swatting him a bit. Wooden spoon over the chair in the kitchen pants at ankle sort of thing. I am not saying do that per se. But she would than come to me and confess what she did and ask to be corrected and "restored to where I need to be." It worked for her. Maybe if you nevigate the minefield of the chat rooms you can find something like that. No question it has a bit of a switch thing to it, but it seemed, in her case at least, to deepen her relief at letting go. It might be worth a shot.
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Butterfly84
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Username: Butterfly84

Post Number: 94
Registered: 05-2006
Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 09:01 pm:   Edit Post

Awww, Sasha *hugs* I think most of us here have been through this, or something similar. A few months ago, I had met a man through a yahoo group and we got along famously. We even met a few times and dated for a couple of months. He had even "claimed" me (which, I can't explain why, but I found incredibly sexy and comforting). Anyways, long story short, he just stopped calling, emailing, etc for about a month. Then he just pops back up and says he was "testing" me to see if I would stay loyal to him even if he wasn't "in the picture". Stupid me bought that and we went back to the way things were for a couple of weeks. Then he just disappeared again for almost a month. After that I said "Forget it!" No way was I putting up with that kind of stuff! I don't really know what his deal was, and it hurt for a long time, but I eventually came to the conclusion that some people just want you when it's convenient for them. Best wishes to you sweetie.
~*butterfly*~

Nobody suspects the butterfly...
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Sexybrat
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Post Number: 2
Registered: 07-2006
Posted on Wednesday, July 12, 2006 - 03:32 pm:   Edit Post

Hey Sashaleigh,
I'm new to this whole deal myself...I have also been married to a man for 18 years and I am the dominant personality. I run the roost and everything and everyone, meaning that if anything happens around here I make it happen right down to saving money and vacations. I have been silently looking for the last few months for what is next for me with my newly discovered fetish. I have needs that i have expressed to him, written letters printed off material, you name it. But like you said, he just doesn't have it in him and there are needs that have to be met. I have to laugh at Czechmate, his comments make me chuckle and I envision a 6 foot towering muscle bound, head strong dom...lol anyway if you find anything that works, let me know.
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Sissy9
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Post Number: 26
Registered: 04-2006
Posted on Monday, July 24, 2006 - 08:49 pm:   Edit Post

I did the samething,chat,to phone,to picture,to a personal visit,to moving in,this was four years ago.I was a complete newby,he was with some expierence behind him.We have our up's and downs like any relationship.I have left for a few weeks at a time,to visit family,and all I know is I can't stay away too long.We both were completly honest,with eachother,they are out there,Don't give up!!!!
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Shylah
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Username: Shylah

Post Number: 1259
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Tuesday, July 25, 2006 - 06:13 am:   Edit Post

When I first discovered the spanking chats, I was in heaven. I was so amazed at the people that felt the same way I did! For so long I thought I was alone in my feelings and wondered if I was strange. I now know that I'm a normal person with normal feelings. And yes, I'm saying that wanting to be spanked is normal. Each person is individual and each person has certian needs. If spanking is one of them, then that is normal.

When I really got into it, I met and chatted with several "Doms". From ones that just wanted to have a laugh to ones that wanted to be able to completly control me from the computer. I realized after awhile which ones were to be trusted and which ones were to be avoided. The ones to trust? Belive it or not...the ones that wanted a laugh. Those ones have become long time friends.

I met my husband in one of those chats. After 2 years of chatting and eventually speaking on the phone, we met face to face and haven't parted since.

It took many months of chatting with different ones before I learned which ones to partner with. It is a learning experience.

I know that the desire is great and is very strong. Give yourself time to chat with different ones. Get to know them before giving out personal information. You will soon learn which one is best for you.

Good luck and keep us posted!!

PM me anytime you need to talk to someone privately.

I care.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Tmichellebrat
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Username: Tmichellebrat

Post Number: 135
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Tuesday, July 25, 2006 - 10:48 am:   Edit Post

Don't feel to bad...sounds like this guy was a real jerk anyways. Personally I have found that alot of the online Doms are just looking to play games although I have found a few nice ones to chat with and I have found a couple good friends out of it too. I never really figured out how the online Dom thing works ...I guess that is because I prefer a r/l Dom since that is what I am used too. But don't let this guy have that much control over your emotions ...you are worth way more than that! Good luck!
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Tammynx
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Username: Tammynx

Post Number: 954
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Tuesday, July 25, 2006 - 10:59 am:   Edit Post

Michelle is right...there are way to many wannabe Doms out there that just want to play games. I even found one that I was starting to like and after weeks of chatting....he fnally let me in on his agenda... HE wanted to be spanked. Not my scene at all. I then found that there are SO many guys out there that want to be spanked and they don't tell you that up front. They want to meet you and get you intrested then they let you in on the secrete.

There are good guys out there that won't lie to you and that will treat you right. Just go slow take your time....and weed out the bad ones!!
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Sashaleigh
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Username: Sashaleigh

Post Number: 5
Registered: 07-2006
Posted on Wednesday, July 26, 2006 - 11:57 am:   Edit Post

Hi. I just wanted to post an update for everyone.

He contacted me the next day as I said and we talked and resolved what had happened. I think mostly it was mis-communication on both parts. I, being completely inexperienced, and him not knowing me well enough.

We've been talking ever since, pretty much every day and I'm getting to know him more and more. He's not a jerk, he's a great guy. He is very strict, but he's also kind, compassionate, and playful. Getting to know him has been a good experience for me and I'm in a good place now. No negative feelings...it's all good.

I want to thank all of you for your warm responses and advice and encouragement. I really needed that when I posted and I am very grateful.

I just didn't want to leave this post in a bad light.

Thanks,

Sasha
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Pinkcheeks
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks

Post Number: 703
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Wednesday, July 26, 2006 - 12:16 pm:   Edit Post

Good to hear from you Sasha :-) ...but I do have one question - how is this all working out for your husband? Does he mind?
Keep us posted, and best of luck to you~~ :-)
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx

Post Number: 959
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Wednesday, July 26, 2006 - 01:48 pm:   Edit Post

I'm glad things are working out for you Sasha!!
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Tmichellebrat
Spanko
Username: Tmichellebrat

Post Number: 140
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Wednesday, July 26, 2006 - 05:58 pm:   Edit Post

I am glad to hear that everything is well with you and him Sasha. Sometimes it's easy to miscommunicate on the computer ...it's very hard to gauge feelings and stuff over the internet. Keep us posted!
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Weasel
Spanko
Username: Weasel

Post Number: 128
Registered: 06-2006


Posted on Thursday, July 27, 2006 - 08:46 am:   Edit Post

I love happy endings and it sounds like you're happy! Good luck!
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Nicenick06
Junior Spanko
Username: Nicenick06

Post Number: 76
Registered: 02-2006
Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 04:20 am:   Edit Post

Wow that was a roller coaster.
Sashaleigh did you/have you send a photo now?
Will you ever meet him?
Take care
Nick
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Countforme
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Username: Countforme

Post Number: 3
Registered: 07-2006


Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 08:17 pm:   Edit Post

Wow! This was an interesting read!
The big question though is, did you ever change your font color? LOL!

(Message edited by countforme on July 29, 2006)
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