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Fanny
Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 371
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 30, 2005 - 06:11 pm: | 
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All my experiences have taken place in the privacy of my own life, and I have no idea exactly what goes on at these conferences and parties. Can some of you enlighten me?
"Queen of Innocence""
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Pagan
New member
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 30
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 30, 2005 - 08:55 pm: |
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Well, I'm no expert, because I've only been to one.
A bunch of us who met on another board decided to get together over the past weekend. The planning started a year ago.
We had a Girls' Night before the conference officially started, and the men joined us the next day. We went out for dinner together each evening, but other than that things were pretty unscheduled.
There was some play back at the hotel after dinner each night. People were free to watch or participate if they wished, but no one was made to feel that they had to.
I attended with my husband the first night. Play had just started when we needed to leave (babysitter). We might have played if we had stayed - it would have depended on how we felt at the time. It was the first time either of us had ever attended something like this (he's a converted vanilla).
I attended alone the second day. He had assured me that he would not be upset if I chose to play, as long as it wasn't with one certain individual (I wouldn't have gone there anyway). By the time things were ready to get started, it was getting close to midnight. I had the choice of staying and playing without him (which I was tepid about at best), or going home and playing with my hubby. I went home. 
Most of the time was not spent playing, but getting to know people we had been chatting with online for so long. There was time for sightseeing, dining, some interesting shopping, and lots of chats.
I am definitely glad I attended, even though I chose not to play.
In fact, he suggested that it may be fun to meet some local like-minded affectionados.
I jokingly asked him if he would like me to place an ad. "Middle-aged WASP couple seek same for spanko fun." 
I have no idea if this was a typical experience or not. It was more about meeting cyber friends than anything else.
Some were exactly as I imagined, some not. |
Fanny
Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 376
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 30, 2005 - 10:46 pm: |
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Interesting, Pagan. Exactly what type of games are you referring to? Details, please, I may need some ideas for my birthday party thread.
"Queen of Innocence""
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Fanny
Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 410
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 02, 2005 - 09:07 am: |
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Alright, someone spill the beans about the past weekend get together. I want to know what I am missing!
"Queen of Innocence""
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Pagan
New member
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 35
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 02, 2005 - 09:14 am: |
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Fanny, I missed a lot of the play. Most of it took place after I went home.
Maybe some of our other members would be kind enough to share... |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 193
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 02, 2005 - 12:47 pm: |
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Fanny, play was everything from the mildest of swats to a serious butt buster. Since most of us were long time friends online, we had a history between us. I had been teasing Beachley's hubby for a long time, so it was no surprise to find myself over his knee. He used a leather paddle, a CB and a wooden backscratcher...all quite ouchie. Others played with similar toys and different people, and except for one individual all clothing stayed on. One Top gave a demo on his brat, much to the delight of others.
The second night was more of the same, with one young lady getting her first real spanking ever. It was done very gently, with leather paddle and massaging hand on her back...at one point I thought she was asleep! LOL A couple of brats had brought schoolgirl uniforms and they went the rounds with a plimsoll delivered by a former professor.
The third night was sheer hysteria. Five brats in school girl uniforms with one Dom in naval uniform and cane. He had them drilling like recruits...not easy when some couldnt tell their right from their left and fell over doing an about face! The rest of us were out of breath from laughing at the antics of the "troops" and their zany "Chief". He kept coming over to swat me a few times because I couldnt keep my bratty remarks to myself...can you imagine? All of us ended up over the end of the bed getting our comeuppance, to everyones mutual satisfaction.
It was a wonderful get together of friends who are like minded. Not everything ran smoothly, but we perservered and enjoyed each others company and support. I dont think it was a half hour after leaving that I missed them all terribly. I cant wait for the next one!
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
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Fanny
Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 417
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 02, 2005 - 12:59 pm: |
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Thanks for the info, Wolfie. And where does this all take place? In a hotel room?
"Queen of Innocence""
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Beachley
Junior Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 60
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 02, 2005 - 05:56 pm: |
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Yes Fanny it all took place in a hotel room. It is best if the room used is the middle room between two other participants at the conference. We learned this out by trial and error. I do think we disturbed a couple patrons, not due to the spanking, but you get that number of people together in one area and there is bound to be nose and we generally played until 2-2:30 a.m. Each time we have a conference more things are learned of what to do and what not to do. Seeing everyone is well worth it and a wonderful time.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Pagan
New member
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 36
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 02, 2005 - 08:20 pm: |
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I believe that the South Conference is taking place in cabins. That makes sense to me.
I think it would be great if larger buildings with multiple bedrooms could be rented. There would be a little less privacy among participants, but far more from other prying eyes and ears. |
Biggirl
New member
Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 15
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 02, 2005 - 09:04 pm: |
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Would it be possible to rent a hotel room & request that you get a room w/out people in the rooms next to you? Would a hotel accomidate that? |
Rocco
Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 205
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, June 03, 2005 - 12:07 pm: |
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Biggirl, hotels usually run above their max capacity. Like airlines they usually over book a certain % of their rooms figuring that people will cancle or not show up to check in. So this request might be hard to fill. Depending on the time of year and the location it becomes easier. Also the tier of the city counts for a lot. If your conference is beinmg held in a tier 1 or tier 2 city it will be hard to accomodate a request like, especially on the weekends. Mid week in a tier 2 or 3 city it shouldn't be a problem. Also the level of hotel will come in to play. Too much info I know, basically mid week is your best chance at getting a room off by itself.
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Sweetbrat
New member
Username: Sweetbrat
Post Number: 1
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, June 03, 2005 - 06:34 pm: |
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And if you are married to a vanilla....
who has reacted in any way negatively to being told about your "fetish", be very careful about bringing him along... it may be very difficult for him to handle, even though you have tried to tell him what to expect. |
Pagan
New member
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 37
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, June 03, 2005 - 07:19 pm: |
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Welcome, Sweet! Glad you found us. 
You bring up a good point, unfortunately. 
Mine was fine, but he definitely has a chocolate streak.
If someone isn't fully comfortable, it's hit and miss how they'll react. Some get comfortable, and see how harmless this really is...some don't.
Hope all is well with you. |
Beachley
Junior Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 61
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, June 06, 2005 - 09:20 pm: |
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I think in the hotel situation, the best is to get a block of rooms and have the play in a room that is surrounded by like minded people.
Hey Sweet - good to see you here. At least hubby did see the good side and caring of our little community also. That was positive. Hugs to you both.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 198
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 09, 2005 - 08:34 pm: |
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Hi Sweetbrat! Thanks for joining us you naughty girl you!
Your hubby did pretty good for a first time, I think all the vanilla's there came out of their comfort zones in some way or the other. What a wonderful time we had. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
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Sweetbrat
New member
Username: Sweetbrat
Post Number: 4
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 14, 2005 - 05:06 am: |
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moi? Naughty???
surely you jest, wolfie!
sweetbrat is the good innocent brat from the north... have you forgotten so soon?
(i thot it was Tops who were the forgetful ones) lol |
Sweetbrat
New member
Username: Sweetbrat
Post Number: 5
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 14, 2005 - 05:53 am: |
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On a more serious note...re going to a conference with your "vanilla" spouse
I felt sad that i missed out on some of the activity and fun, feeling that i had to go spend time with my hubby rather than being as free to spend time with the group and play. i would have loved to get spanked more... and had really hoped he would join in and participate. I had let him know that if he was comfortable , i DID want him with me, but if not, it was ok for him not to...
Reading stories of how other "vanilla's" who were there who had enjoyed it, and gotten involved/participated, and been comfortable... (although i was happy for their wives) made me feel sad that mine did not as well. (sorry... i know that sounds very selfish, but i had SO hoped it would change hubby's perspective on spanking/the people involved)
My vanilla's reaction when i went back the first night to spend time with him.... after a long pause where he said nothing.... was not positive, and his horror, disgust etc made me feel very bad, casting a cloud over the fun i had had. it was hurtful.
i had tried to make it clear, well before going that he was free to do things he enjoyed (like going new places... seeing new things) if he preferred not to socialize/do activities with the group, which was something i really WANTED to do having waited so long to meet everyone.
At times, i felt very pulled.. i wanted SO much to be with people from the group, who understood and accepted this in me.... yet despite my telling him he was free to do what HE wanted.... he chose to go somewhere a group were going... then was upset the entire way there that he was not doing what he wanted to (going shopping in stores not available where we live... finding a huge bookstore to browse in) which made me feel guilty/sad/selfish. At the same time, i also felt ticked off/frustrated that there was a big shadow over being free to spend time with friends that i had waited months to meet, and only had 1 1/2 days with, especially after having spent much time before the event talking to him.. letting him know that since we do have different interests, it was ok for him to do things he liked so we could BOTH enjoy ourselves... we had spent 3 days doing things he liked already.
the second night, he did go out to a bookstore, and did some things he enjoyed qhich are not available in a small town to do. This was much more positive for both of us. i too was able to enjoy supper and time with the group knowing he was doing something he liked too.
Obviously, much of what i had said to him about the event, my desire to spend time with the people i had gotten to know... his freedom to be himself and be welcome if he wanted.. or do his own interests if he preferred... the fact that there would actually be spanking happening over the weekend... just did not register with him... he could not understand how people from the internet could possibly have any connection/become friends... nor was it real to him that anyone would actually get spanked, which he witnessed when he came to take pictures of delivery of an item
it just didn't seem real/possible to him that this actully existed!
So just be aware if your spouse is a vanilla.... try to prepare them... but know it may blow them out of the water... their reaction may not be what you hoped for... and you may feel very pulled apart inside from wanting to play/interact with "spankos"... yet not wanting to hurt/neglect your spouse.
we have talked since... he did say en route home that he did see that people cared about each other, which was a good thing |
Bigfoot1408
New member
Username: Bigfoot1408
Post Number: 33
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 14, 2005 - 07:52 am: |
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as a newby at this lifestyle i can relate to hubby.. it sounds like he was overwhelmed and maybe a tad jealouse... all understandable.
did he share your friendships with the folks on line.
if not they were all strangers to him
at the next conference he will have a better idea of what will go on and how he will allow himself to act.
not all men are comfortable with the idea of allowing a stranger to spank his wife... .
i think with experience and your continued support he will come to enjoy the scene.
introduce him to castle realm and restraints and rewards so he will see that the relationships of the participants are really deep and secure.
he needs some tlc love,,, |
Sweetbrat
New member
Username: Sweetbrat
Post Number: 7
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 14, 2005 - 11:22 pm: |
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hubby had actually put in more posts on the spanking site i was on than i had!!
in that sense he had interacted with some of the people for several months... but mostly on Off-topic board, although he had participated in some r/p threads as well.
however, i had been on yim with some and gotten to know them better
We HAD discussed many times whether it would be ok for someone else to spank me. About 3 weeks before the conference, i had asked him agsin so i would know where he was at. He had indicated he wanted it to be a good experience for me, and that he just does not "get" this spanking thing and it would be ok.
I guess reality came as a shock to us both.
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Bigfoot1408
New member
Username: Bigfoot1408
Post Number: 36
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 15, 2005 - 06:56 am: |
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He had indicated he wanted it to be a good experience for me, and that he just does not "get" this spanking thing and it would be ok.
I guess reality came as a shock to us both.
i can understand both of those...
my ladyfriend tells me that getting spanked makes her feel loved and protected,,, i'm a newby at this,,,,,, so i don't have much experience to draw from....
i don't know how i would feel if she told me that she wanted a stranger to spank her. {mucho macho aside}
I guess reality came as a shock to us both.
yup, i sing at a karaoke {sp} bar on saturday nights, i am really brave until they call my name... then i panic, reality is brutal,
[of course i do a really brilliant job of singing, i plan for my voice to break unexpectedly like a thirteen year old ,and sometimes i plan to forget the last part of the song,,,} |
Sdhrts
Junior Spanko
Username: Sdhrts
Post Number: 55
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 07, 2005 - 07:33 pm: |
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I'd love to meet someone in the Northeast man or woman spanko or couple, that would like to check out some spanking clubs in NY with me.All my spanking has always been a one on one deal.
Not nessasseraly looking for play partners (COURSE ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE)just spanko friends that would like to go.I don't drink and can be a designated driver?I'm a good time to go out with too. Love a good laugh and a fun night out.Anyone ever been? How about the club Northeast Spankers I think it's called? Any info would be great. Any help would be appreciated.
Is IT Better To Give Than To Recieve?
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 742
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 08, 2005 - 12:17 am: |
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I've never heard of that club Sdhrts, where is it? NYbrat and I generally go to Paddles. We enjoy a fun night out too, especially if there's spanking involved. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.
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Sdhrts
Junior Spanko
Username: Sdhrts
Post Number: 57
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 08, 2005 - 12:28 am: |
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I believe it's an organization, Wolfie. I'll dig up info on it though
Is IT Better To Give Than To Recieve?
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 743
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 08, 2005 - 10:03 am: |
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Thank you, and I sent you a PM as well.
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.
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Badwife
New member
Username: Badwife
Post Number: 25
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 09, 2005 - 10:18 am: |
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Anybody out there know of a club or a party going on in the Cleveland, Ohio area? |
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