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Fanny
Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 333
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 07:55 pm: | 
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Generally speaking, if you are a sub, do you or can you take a spanking quietly? I cannot even take a walk by swat without an "OW!" Just flies out of my mouth. Once my husband tried to get me to take a spanking without squirming or vocalizing, I lasted about 5 seconds.
Doms, do you have a preference? I know I am going to hear a lot of "it depends", but in general do you like your "bottom" to lie still and take it, or is the vocalization and squirming just part of the fun?
On a side note, I am also not quiet during climaxing. It is too hard for me to contain my emotions, and very distracting if I REALLY try.
I also am not real happy if R is very quiet at either time. He is more of the strong, silent type and I am always saying "Talk to me, please."
"Queen of Innocence""
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Kennysspankee
New member
Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 20
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 10:19 pm: |
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I can't take it still or quietly either. My husband keeps threatening to get a gag for me. Sometimes I'll yell into a pillow to muffle the noise. The first time I did that I moved my face from the pillow to yell, at which time I realized that most of the noise I make is for his benefit, so he'll know that it hurts. It helped me to contain some of my noise once I realized that, cause he already knows it hurts. I don't usually start squirming till I get desperate then he just tightens his grip. I think he likes it better when I put up a struggle, thereby making it a competition which he has to win. |
Fanny
Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 334
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, May 28, 2005 - 09:32 am: |
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Oh,yes, the yelling into the pillow! I have done that when there are kids around (and asleep). I am just a chatty person, so I obviously this trait is going to spill over to all areas of my life. I don't yell so much for my husbands benefit, it HURTS! (he is a very proficient man) Now that you mention it, the competition thing is a big part of it. In any sport, who wants a whimpy player. 
I am interested if any of the doms are going to respond to this question.
(Message edited by Bethie on May 28, 2005)
"Queen of Innocence""
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Wyatt
Spanko
Username: Wyatt
Post Number: 123
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, May 28, 2005 - 11:26 am: |
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I like some vocalization, yes. Ooo...Ahhh...Ohhh. That sort of thing. Screaming, no.
I sometimes have to prod DB to vocalize more, as she generally takes her spankings without a sound. And if she does start making noises, that means she's not enjoying it anymore.
As far as kicking and putting up a struggle when someone is receiving a spanking, I don't like it. A little wiggling and squirming maybe. But if someone going to turn it into a major battle, I may get angry and quit. That's my take on it. |
Pagan
New member
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 28
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, May 28, 2005 - 12:06 pm: |
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I don't tend to make much noise. It just isn't my style, aside from the fact that we have a houseful of kids down the hall. I also don't get spanked very hard, so it doesn't actually hurt. Sting, yes. Hurt, no.
If it's really getting stingy, I tend to attempt to lurch forward a bit, or kick up slightly. It's involuntary - I'm not really trying to get away though.
If it's roughhousing, I will definitely "fight" back, try to prevent being put OTK, reach back, etc. It was a bit of a shock awhile ago when I realized that he truly had me well and pinned and I genuinely couldn't get away!!!!
Thankfully, we don't do discipline.  |
Fanny
Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 335
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, May 28, 2005 - 01:08 pm: |
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I wasn't referring to screaming, Wyatt, I am not THAT vocal. I am referring to pleading, Ye-owing, and OOOOWing, and a few of "I'll never do it agains" and "yes, dear, no sirs". I don't kick as an attack, it is like Pagen said, it is an involuntary scissor kicking of the legs if your feet don't reach the floor.
Heaven help me if my husband really does get angry, he won't quit, he goes right into attitude adjustment. It was a bit of a shock to me the first time I realized that I genuinely cannot get away. I may be a whole lot of tease, but I am no match physically against R. He can have me flipped over and pinned down before I can say "What....."
And, I'm sure that puts a smile of several of your faces. At least you know I CAN be kept in line!
"Queen of Innocence""
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Kendra
Spanko
Username: Kendra
Post Number: 124
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 10:48 am: |
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I am naturally the quiet type. Tyrnal is constantly telling me "I want to hear you, you don't have to be quiet anymore." I am just quiet natured in general 
"you must tie her down and spank her, spank her well and after you've spanked her, spank me.."
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Sandy
New member
Username: Sandy
Post Number: 11
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 11:19 am: |
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I don't make noise for the first few minutes, but I am quite a squirmer. I've tried -- truly tried -- but I have excellent reflexes (so my dr. tells me) and I truly cannot stay still, even with one swat! Part of it may be that I am a jumpy person, I dunno. I don't try to shove him or anything -- I just dodge the swats.
My boyfriend has tried to encourage me to squirm less because it does turn into a bit of a battle for him to keep me otk, but I hurt myself when tied up -- it just doesn't work. We've found that on days when he doesn't have the energy or inclination to hold me in place that having me bent over the desk or bed is best. But even that varies -- if I squirm "in the right way" it turns him on instantly, and then he starts spanking me harder for being a "tease!"
As for noise, most are little gasps or "yes sir, no sir"... until I forget to breathe. Then I *will* let out a "YEeeow!!" but it's not a scream. He seems to think that's cute... ::grumble:: |
Fanny
Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 346
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 12:23 pm: |
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Yes, squirming in just the right way is an art within itself.
"Queen of Innocence""
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 192
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 12:52 pm: |
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Fanny, you're so right!
Dan says I squawk and complain but I don't have any way of controlling that. It's only natural after all. I'm pretty sure I'm not loud though.
And I do like to squirm. I'm not trying to get away or fight, that's not what I want. I'm just reacting. Besides, Dan likes the show. If I just lie there quietly and still, he thinks I'm getting bored and gets a bigger toy.
The only exception to this seems to be when we're playing with the buttt plug.  For some reason, it makes me totally compliant. I lie very still and keep very quiet. It's still new to us though so this may not always be the case. |
Biggirl
New member
Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 8
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 10:07 pm: |
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I'll squirm after a few hard ones because it is just what my body does....G understands it doesn't mean I want him to stop....he is learning lots on-sites I saved for him....I'm most happy. I like to make noise....G likes it to.....I want him to "talk" a lot more during so I am going to talk that over with him tomorrow. We live in a small apt but we have never heard neighbors because we are in a "back" apt.....but I used a pillow last night a few times just in case....LOL |
Bigfoot1408
New member
Username: Bigfoot1408
Post Number: 3
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 30, 2005 - 09:09 am: |
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being new to the spanking scene i don't have a lot of experience to to go on..
my new ladyfriend is very vocal both in orgasms and spankings.. i would think if she lay there and took the swats without a vocal reaction she would be enduring it not enjoying it..
the problem i have is that i am still learning how to interpret the moans and squeals to ajust the swats to be most enjoyable... i guess i need a ton of practice.... {{{{BEG}}}}}}] |
Biggirl
New member
Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 9
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 30, 2005 - 08:18 pm: |
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Bigfoot1408: I know all to well what you mean about needing (wanting) practice........lol
BigGirl |
Fanny
Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 377
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 30, 2005 - 10:48 pm: |
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Practice makes perfect and perfection is almost impossible to obtain, so we keep practicing.
"Queen of Innocence""
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Katy_spankwish
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Username: Katy_spankwish
Post Number: 6
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 31, 2005 - 11:03 am: |
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I am bacially quiet and still but Im not a lump. My body will jerk in reaction and I often bite holes through comforters (or my arm). Occasionally I'll make a sound if its really hard.
My tendency is more to rear up then to kick or squirm. |
Fanny
Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 380
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 31, 2005 - 11:16 am: |
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Oh, but I believe the rearing up part is what the doms like.
"Queen of Innocence""
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Wyatt
Spanko
Username: Wyatt
Post Number: 129
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 31, 2005 - 11:20 am: |
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Oh, it is...it is! |
Kittycat
New member
Username: Kittycat
Post Number: 10
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 09:17 am: |
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How can you take a spanking and be quiet? The hard he hits, the harder I try to be quiet. The harder I try to be quiet, the hotter and wetter I become I become. |
Vulcano
New member
Username: Vulcano
Post Number: 27
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 09:45 am: |
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If I take spanking quietly, no sounds, no squirming, it would mean that I'm not enjoying it at all... and I would end up not satisfied at all. The beginnings can be like that, very quiet, but if he stops here... no, it starts to be much better when the spanking gets harder, when I start "ouching" and trying to get my butt away from being too handy  . This game of ours of me having to hold the position is great... the moment I don't he quickly makes sure I do and it makes me think wow, no way to run away with him. And when I start really almost screaming and kicking or trying to get lose from his grip or squirming as much as I could in the ropes that he sometimes ties me with (also not in fight but just a reaction to the pain), it's just the sign that I'm at the heaven and that I won't take any more. Whenever he stops before this stage, I usually feel we stopped too soon, before I got all from myself, my head clear and at peace... Normally, I'm quite a calm person, talkative, but always in control of myself... and spanking is a way of great release for me, the only time I feel free to "show up", cry and react wildly. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 410
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 12:41 pm: |
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I dont really fight him, I enjoy the inevitable submitting to him too much. On the other hand, I do love to squirm and wriggle while he holds me still. He knows I cant get away, I know I cant get away, but it adds a little more fun to the whole thing....not to mention realism. I think if I was ever otk and just lay there quietly taking it, he would run for the phone and call the doctor! 
As for noise...I cant help it! Normally Im very quiet, even during sex. But swat me on the butt and expect to hear a loud ouch! I have been known to ouch even when they dont connect. LOL I yell, I squeal, I holler for someone to save me and beg for mercy (no screaming)...I have been accused of being a wuss and a wimp, a complainer and a big baby. But not by Steve, who enjoys the show I put on. Its half the fun for us and yes, he does know when Im just playing and when its serious discipline "ouchies" he's hearing.
Someday I would like to be spanked while putting up a serious struggle. I dont mean I would ever hurt him trying to get away, just give him a hard time subduing me. I'm a little scared to try it, since an old boyfriend almost broke my arm once when we were play fighting. But I trust Steve enough to try it with him. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *stamp*
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Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 128
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 08:19 pm: |
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I most certainly am NOT quiet. I can't be even if I wanted to be quiet. I don't scream, but even after all this time I'll be saying things like OUCH, not there, move your hand around, OUCH, OK you win, I'm sorry, spank easier, that hurts.... you get the idea.
Is that me still trying to Top from the bottom? If it is... oh well Mr. B pays no attention to me. He only laughs.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Pagan
Junior Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 96
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 08:24 pm: |
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Alas, Squire has recently decided that complaints are cause to spank harder! Hrmpf.
All I'm doing is communicating with him. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 411
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 08:57 pm: |
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But I thought you wanted him to spank harder? 
Ann...you, me and Fanny in the same room, getting spanked at the same time...no amount of soundproofing would be enough! 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
WHY ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *stamp*
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Faistygirl
New member
Username: Faistygirl
Post Number: 2
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 24, 2005 - 12:30 am: |
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Personally I don't sqirm very much unless the swats are really hard. And I am normally loud even during sex but I have to try and tone it down a bit or my formerly vanilla boy will quit and then I feel cheated! We're still new to this though so I'm hoping I can convince him he's not really hurting me too much! |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1351
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 24, 2005 - 09:59 am: |
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You've got it right, Wolfie. We would sound like an off key trio!!
But it does sound very exciting.....
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 129
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 24, 2005 - 05:10 pm: |
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OH Yes it would be exciting and loud and funny.
You might say that we just happen to show our appreciation loudly for that extra attention.
Hmmm the problem comes in when Mr. B is appreciating my verbal responses to his swats, but hey I'm serious, that one really DID HURT, and then he wants to just turn up my volume more so Mr. B gets more enthusiastic. OUCH!!!!!!!!
LOL
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Spankin4me
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Username: Spankin4me
Post Number: 7
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 25, 2005 - 09:45 am: |
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I am a pretty quiet spankee. The only time I make a lot of noise is when my spanker specifically tells me he likes it. Then I try to accomodate him as much as I can but it does feel a little fake to me.
When I'm being natural, I am more likely to give a surprised yelp or "ouch" if I'm caught off guard by a passing swat or one to an area I'm not expecting. Other than expressions of surprise, I tend to keep the noise down. Even during a hard spanking, I guess I keep my screams in my head.
One thing that some guys have found funny about me is I laugh a lot. Not a taunting laugh, but one of relief. I guess it is a bit odd now that I think of it, but if I'm being spanked, I will sometimes laugh when there's a break in the action. Then when it starts back up again, that's when the surprised "ow"s come in. I can't help it, it's just me |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1364
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 25, 2005 - 09:51 am: |
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Any emotion expressed is god emotion. What ever feels right for you works, doesn't it?
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Ziggy
Spanko
Username: Ziggy
Post Number: 295
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 25, 2005 - 10:36 am: |
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I has been a long time since I got spankingm but I am screamer, also I tend to be a struggle . I give the spanker alittle hard time,  |
Naughty_girl
New member
Username: Naughty_girl
Post Number: 6
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 26, 2005 - 12:00 am: |
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I am fairly new to this. So new, in fact, that I've only been spanked properly once. My circumstances are different to many of yours in that I am seeking a disciplinarian who will give me bad girl or punishment spankings. But when I went to see someone a couple of weeks ago, I didn't make any noise at all and didn't start squirming and ow'ing that hurts until toward the end of a half-hour spanking. But by then I really wanted to get away. |
Kimbers
Spanko
Username: Kimbers
Post Number: 178
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 26, 2005 - 02:02 pm: |
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Holy cow Naughty girl! Your FIRST spanking was a half an hour? Wowzers, you are tougher than I am for sure! BTW, welcome to the board!
Oh, what do you mean when you went to someone? Like someone that had run an advertisement or what? Sorry, I live in a very rural area so this is interesting to me!
"When choosing between two evils I always like to take the one I've never tried before"
- Mae West
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Naughty_girl
New member
Username: Naughty_girl
Post Number: 7
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, August 27, 2005 - 03:14 am: |
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Hi Kimbers,
Thank you for the welcome. I'm in Australia and what I meant was that I went to a domme, mistress, in another city. And, after half-an-hour, I was definitely punished! |
Kiwi_man
Spanko
Username: Kiwi_man
Post Number: 194
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, August 27, 2005 - 07:42 am: |
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They breed us tough in this part of the world.
GOOD ON YA NAUGHTY GIRL! |
Babyj4
New member
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 21
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Monday, September 12, 2005 - 08:53 pm: |
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I am pritty still and quiet, mostly because he doesn't spank hard enough to set me off.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Sarahsbrat
New member
Username: Sarahsbrat
Post Number: 2
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 13, 2005 - 05:16 am: |
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Well, when Sarah spanks me it can go either way as far as wriggling goes. Sometimes I can handle it and lay there quietly until she is finished. Finished doesn't happen until I'm in tears though. We don't do erotic spankings, ours is purely a Top/brat relationship. I think you might call it domestic discipline? We are not gay though so I'm not sure.
If I wriggle to much though she stops me from doing that. I get spanked as a punishment for naughty behaviour or if I break the rules.
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Kimbers
Spanko
Username: Kimbers
Post Number: 235
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 14, 2005 - 11:32 am: |
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Ok Sarahsbrat, explain how this works to me then. You are in a female to female DD relationship but it isn't sexual cuz your not gay? Is there a big age difference between you two? Is it more a maternal type relationship? If there are no erotic spankings, do you have playful spankings or are there only discipline ones? About the time I think I have heard everything then I learn something new!
Oh, and please don't think there is even a HINT of judgement....I am simply curious as to how such a relationship develops and works.
Kimbers
"I wish the real world would just stop hassling me!"
-Matchbox 20
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