Post Number: 1
|Posted on Thursday, May 06, 2010 - 03:45 am: ||
I am a bit shy about posting on this site, but I think my passion for spanking as a form of discipline within a relationship outweighs my bashfulness. I am married to a magnificent woman who knows how to recieve discipline when it is necessary and better yet, knows how to give it. I am more often than not on the recieving end of the punishment in our marriage, although she has been the recipient of more than a few sessions herself. However, I feel that we lack structure, as the spankings tend to be more sporadic than I would prefer them to be. There are times when a lot of the tension in our relationship would easily be resolved with a simple spanking, but instead it is too often allowed to escalate to a point where this sort of thing doesn't seem to be an option. I think if we had some predetermined "rules" or "guidelines" that we both agreed on and adhered to, then a lot of the problems that we currently have would be resolved fairly easily. I am not an unreasonable person, and am more than willing to admit that I'm wrong if that is in fact the case, but without a clear criteria for what constitutes a "punishable offense" I have too often talked my way out of a spanking or even shrugged it off when my wife has suggested I need one. It seems that when I need it the most, I want it the least. That goes both ways actually because there are times when she is really in need of discipline but is not open to recieving it because we don't have the kind of "ground rules" that I think are necessary for this to work to the degree that I would like it too. How do we begin to incorporate structured discipline into our relationship? That's the question I want to ask, and that's why I am here to begin with. I hope that I am in safe company to discuss this sort of thing. I believe I am. I guess we'll find out soon enough. Thanks in advance for your responses!
Post Number: 99
|Posted on Thursday, May 06, 2010 - 08:36 am: ||
Hi and welcome Jonas77. I'm sure you'll like it here as we're all quite harmless and share the same passion in it's various forms. I agree that you guys should set down some ground rules so that there is no confusion. i personally don't receive spankings for any disciplinary reasons as all my spankings are erotic but there are a few people here who will be glad to give you some words of wisdom.
Well done on posting. I commend your bravery.
Nothing says "I love you" like a warm bottom
Post Number: 2
|Posted on Thursday, May 06, 2010 - 01:34 pm: ||
Thanks, Yorkie We engage in erotic spankings as well, and more often than not, the disciplinary spankings lead to sexual activity as well. For some reason though, the discipline seems to be more fascinating and desireable for me. Not always at the time it is taking place! But always before and afterwards.