Post Number: 1
|Posted on Tuesday, April 17, 2007 - 08:18 pm: ||
My girlfriend and I are new to DD but we both agreed to give it a try. We have agreed to switch every month. This was her month and this would be my first time to give a punishment spanking. She had agreed to give up smoking. We just started this on Sunday and it only took me until today to catch her smoking.
I had a hard time deciding what her punishment would be as this is my first time giving out a punishment. I decided that she should receive 10 swats for each cigarette. I noticed that 9 cigarrettes were missing so I decided to give her 90 swats with the belt. This is what I decided to use since I dont really have anything else to use since we just started this.
There was no warmup just had her bend over the end of the couch. There was no safeword since this was a punishment. I gave her thirty with medium force and she seemed to be having a hard time after about 20. So I deicided to make it 3 sessinons of 30. After the first 30 she was in tears but not screaming or begging me to stop. She asked if this was it and I told her no that she would have 2 more sessions. I didnt tell her how many in each but I had her stand in the corner nude for 15 minutes between sessions and if she turned around I would start over. So after 15 minutes I had her bend over the end of the couch where she received her next 30 and then repeated it again 15 minutes later. By the 90 one she was crying like a baby. She has promised to never smoke again.
Since this was my first time and hers I didnt know if this was severe enough but I decided she had enough.
Next Month will be her turn to correct any behavioral issues that I have. After this first session I am sure she is ready to let me have it.
Post Number: 253
|Posted on Tuesday, April 17, 2007 - 08:26 pm: ||
Oh boy Prince! You are certainly not an easy punisher. I think, that if I were you, I would be very, very good next month.
Post Number: 2
|Posted on Tuesday, April 17, 2007 - 10:28 pm: ||
Okay Im back. I really enjoyed giving my first spanking although I dont think Stacy enjoyed receiving it. This may be the end of our DD relationship. She had a really hard time with it . Since I have been dying to see what it is like to receive a punishment I let her give me 90 swats with my belt just like I gave her except I took all mine at the same time. Actually I begged her not to stop and I took 130. It hurt like hell but I enjoyed it. Looks like she may be the top and Im the bottom from now on.
Post Number: 599
|Posted on Wednesday, April 18, 2007 - 08:46 am: ||
By the way if you,re giving up smoking it doesn,t make semse to have cigarettes around the house.If having them there means you still smoke then it,s not a good example for your girl.
Post Number: 3175
|Posted on Thursday, April 19, 2007 - 01:15 pm: ||
This is a good example on how things can go very wrong. It is important to have a safe word especially when you are just starting out. As you found out 90 with a belt is a bit much for a first DD spanking. You have a hand don't you? Then don't say the belt was all you had to use.
From my point of view, even though the spanking was initially consentual, it quickly became nonconsentual as you say "she really had a hard time with it"
I am not sure what your reason for posting this story was.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
Post Number: 1129
|Posted on Thursday, April 19, 2007 - 01:46 pm: ||
Fanny said exactly what I was thinking!
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
Post Number: 21
|Posted on Friday, April 20, 2007 - 05:09 pm: ||
As an intro to spanking I doubt I would like to receive a "punishment" one that appears to have been as harsh as you described - would more likely turn me away
Post Number: 32
|Posted on Wednesday, June 13, 2007 - 03:43 pm: ||
I too HIGHLY reccomend you keep a 'safe word' for quite a while when starting out. At this point you don't eachother's pain tolerances, skin durability, or implement/impact knowledge, etc. to have sessions without one in my opinion.
Take from one who has experienced the epic battle with smoking. Despite many spankings from my Husband I had to WANT to quit for myself. His discipline worked very well for any "slip ups" along the way. A sore, raw bottom is a great deterent when reaching for a cigarette or thinking of buying one. I've been 'smoke free' for 3 1/2 years now.
"Naughty Pixies Always Get Caught."
Post Number: 178
|Posted on Saturday, October 27, 2007 - 08:36 pm: ||
I think that this is a great example where couples who are just starting out have no idea what they are doing, and then usually the one who recieved such a severe punishment is totally turned off by spanking altogather. I have been in a DD spanking relationship for the past 15 years now and I still will ask for a safe word if I feel like I need too for any reason. In my opinion it's all about trusting your partner , because you have to have total trust in your partner that is giving out the spanking if your going to have this type of relationship.
I was married to a man for ten years that eventually started to abuse me with DD, and I allowed it to happen because that is how brain washed I was by him, and the scary part is you don't realize it until your to deep into the relationship. And it can start as innocent as a severe punishment spanking. Be careful and use a safe word and respect your partner's needs , if she even looks like she is not able to handle it then it's your duty to stop the spanking! Be safe.
Post Number: 46
|Posted on Sunday, October 28, 2007 - 11:50 am: ||
All valid points. If I can add to it, my top has always known when I have had my limit even when it is a punishment spanking and then will stop. As he says the purpose of punishment is to correct and inform not break a persons spirit. I also have to stress going slow. Read the posts here and on other sites to learn what works for others and try what you think will work fo you two. But most of all be safe and enjoy.
Post Number: 64
|Posted on Sunday, October 28, 2007 - 07:26 pm: ||
Reading this thread, I am a little surprised by the replies to this original post back in April.
There were the usual "safewords are a must" opinions but in this case it was quite clear plain English was being used - "after the first 30 she was in tears but not screaming or begging me to stop." This is not an unusual situation for a punishment spanking for many here, and clearly implies that such pleas would have been considered in the decision to continue or not. This was not a "safeword" issue.
There was no information to indicate the next two sets became non-consentual, and no information other than "I dont think Stacy enjoyed receiving it" and "She had a really hard time with it" to indicate Stacy's mindset after the punishment. "Having a real hard time with" it could refer to her reaction to the physical punishment or the emotional aspects of being punished. Neither automatically means non-consent to me and she was obviously still game to top P'spanker for 130 of the same...
Many people are intriged by the idea of DD and spanking, and Stacy would not be the first newbie to figure out it actually hurts (Surprise!) and did not match their fantasy.
I hope that the two of them found their way since the original poster did not post again after the replies rolled in...
I agree that one needs to respect their partner's needs and that slow careful exploration of their tolerance and limits is the only way to go. I will even agree safewords have a place in this.
But I am not surprised that many will decide DD is not their thing no matter how they are lead into it.
Post Number: 3348
|Posted on Monday, October 29, 2007 - 02:53 pm: ||
I agree with you, Peter, "many will decide that DD is not their thing no matter how they are lead into it".
The original poster pointed out that DD was something they were new to. DD is not something to jump into full force, for exactly the reasons you wrote. Most of us with any life experience have tried things that we learned we did not like. Therefore as adults, we have the option of opting out after we get a taste of something that looked appealing but turned out not to be.
I think the general tone of the responses have to do with the fact that possibly both parties here should have discussed in advance what they thought a DD relationship was going to be.
It seems to me that he enjoys receiving and she apparently did not like getting the "help" he was giving her. In a case like this, he is probably correct in stating that he makes a better bottom at least in their particular situation.
Life is all about trying a lot and only keeping the things we like, enjoy or benefit from.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"