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Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 24
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Friday, May 19, 2006 - 05:49 pm: | 
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The walls are closing in,
So many people around,
There’s no room to move.
Several things need to be done,
But I can’t seem to get into the groove.
Life use to be fun, work finished on Friday,
And our weekend was free,
Riding around, cuddling up watching TV,
Swimming or 4-Wheeling on old trails,
Our hearts and spirits full of glee.
Oh! The fun we use to have and savor,
Then things began to change as we accepted,
More responsibility and less time for play.
People to care for from babies to elderly adults,
How were we to know the price we would pay?
We cared for them and are still doing so,
We except it as our role in the play called Life.
We know on our shoulders their lively-hood depends,
Making sure appointments and medicines are kept,
All of our love we will give them until their life ends.
All the care we have given our elderly parents,
And all the care to come, as they grow older,
We do not regret all that we have done.
And all that in the future will be asked of us,
We will have a clear conscience when they are gone.
I know things aren’t as bad as they could be,
Our remaining parents are up and walking about,
They aren’t bed-ridden with tubes running everywhere.
They have their minds and know on us they can depend,
They can enjoy their golden years and know that we will be there.
There are several things we would like to do,
But we will settle for the role Life has thrown us,
We know God will not put more on us than we can bear.
Eventually one day we will be having fun again,
This time we will savor our fun with lots more flare.
We will continue to get moments alone,
Though these are usually few and far between,
All we can do is accept what Life sends our way.
Always have Hope , Faith, and Love to share,
And know that we can rely on God and pray.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1704
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, May 20, 2006 - 09:24 am: |
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Beautiful poem Cheeky...I hope that you realize how special you are to give so much of yourself to others. I wish you had more time for just you and Grizz, but I understand your nature just cant turn its back on your families.
Just think, you've already earned your angels wings....
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 26
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, May 20, 2006 - 01:15 pm: |
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Thank you Wolf for the kind words, I know you have first hand experience with what we are going through.
Have I? Cause Grizz and family say they see horns at times. 
I sometimes feel like the devil when I get so agitated at the family members. I want to have more patience, and that is one thing Grizz swears he is gonna work on. 
Cause now he has more patience than I. LOL
Use to be me calming him down, not it is the other way around.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Pinkcheeks
Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 429
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, May 20, 2006 - 05:46 pm: |
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Cheeky...loved your poem...and certainly can relate. Right now I am going thru a very rough period.......Dad passed away in January (Alzheimer's disease- spent 3 years in a nursing home), Mom fell down a flight a stairs in February and spent 9 weeks in a rehab center (I was there every day to visit), and only 5 days ago I found out that the biopsy they did on me (intra-uterine) showed cancer cells........so on May 23 I am going into the hospital for a total hysterectomy....
am I down? sad? miserable? scared?...yes to all. I sometimes wonder just how much God will put on me, cuz right now, I am hanging on by a thread.
Did not mean to be so down.....just spilling my heart out. Thank God I have such a wonderful, supportive, loving Hubby. **and 2 great kids who live 1800 miles away, but are coming home to see me.
Your poem made me stop and think - because I have really been challenging my faith....Guess I just need to stay positive and bask in the love of family. ~~~~ I am sure you will do the same.
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 33
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, May 20, 2006 - 06:10 pm: |
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PinkCheeks,
I am sorry to hear about the loss of your parent. I lost my dad 7 years ago. My hubby and I have lived with his mom for the 16 years of our marriage. His parents wanted us to live with them when we got married cause his dad was in his early 70's and his mom was in her middle 60's. I had been helping my mom take care of her mother for 3 1/2 years before I married. Granny lived in a trailer in my parents yard, I lived with her for 2 1/2 years so my mom wouldn't have to be seperated from my dad. I loved helping my granny, it was like living on my own. Silly I know but for a 15 year old it was cool. After we married my father in law got down and was bed-ridden with stomach tube. We kept him at home for a most of his sickness and he died in the hopsital. Mother in law has alzhemiers/dementia but is able to get around with aid of walker. I have to give her baths, make sure medicine is fixed in weekly boxes. Hubby helps out and so do two other brother in laws. Out of 9 children she only has 3 that deals with her and helps out.
You have the right to feel down. I felt bad about posting the poem, cause I started feeling like I shouldn't feel so bad about our lives. Cause there is always someone out there having rougher times.
My mom lives by herself and works two part time jobs but I know and so does hubby that when the time comes we will be the ones to take care of her. I have promised her and mother in law that they wouldn't go into a nursing home. They have both worked in nursing homes and seen first hand how some of the patients are treated.
I just get jealous at times when I see my family and his family members going and coming as they please and we have to schedule everything. I don't regret taking care of mother in law or when I have to take care of my mom. We also help raise a neice and nephew (twins) 15 years old now. I just feel penned up at times with so many people around all the time.
I wish you the best with your surgery. My mom had a hysterectomy in 1995. We will keep you in our prayers and be hoping for the best.
I too wonder how much God will test me, but I keep repeating what mom always said: He will never put more on you than you can bear, and what don't kill you only makes you stronger.
Hang in there. HUGS
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1709
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, May 20, 2006 - 09:01 pm: |
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Im so sorry Pinkcheeks, I wish there was something I could do to make you feel better. I know how tough this is for you. Your right to lean on your family...but dont forget your friends, we care too. 
I buried my mom finally yesterday, next to my dad. It felt as though I was saying goodbye all over again. I know this will get easier with time, but right now I just miss her all over again. 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2379
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, May 20, 2006 - 09:44 pm: |
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Pinkcheecks, please PM me at your convinience. I was diagnosed with cancer a year ago and had to undergo an hysterectomy, and then chemo three weeks later. My Mother died this past fall and my sister died in January. I know exactly what fear you are going through. You need all the support you can get and I am here for you.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Pinkcheeks
Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 430
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 21, 2006 - 06:07 am: |
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 a sincere thank you...thank you...Its so wonderful to know I have friends here (even though we have never met - and Wolfie, I am in CT too
Your words mean the world to me....
Fanny, I will PM you today - thanks hon.
I know that I am not the only one in the world that something like this is happening too...but it sure as hell feels like it....
thanks again...You guys are the best 
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1713
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 21, 2006 - 08:31 am: |
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Im here if you need to talk as well, or if you'd like to meet for coffee sometime. Your not alone sweetie, no way.
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Pinkcheeks
Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 431
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 21, 2006 - 11:26 am: |
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aaawww....Wolfie..... Thank you~~Seems I can't stop crying.....think of me or say a small prayer on Tues ~~
PS...I just might take you up on that coffee offer
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 34
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, May 21, 2006 - 12:26 pm: |
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pinkycheeks,
We'll be sending up a prayer everyday and especially one on Tuesday.
I don't really know what to say in these matters except that you will be constantly in our prayers and thoughts. God will be carrying you through this rough time.
I read in the Bible last night: During the tough times remember crucial turning points in our past to help us through the present.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Pinkcheeks
Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 433
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 21, 2006 - 12:37 pm: |
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Cheeky.......thanks so much hon....I am trying to hang in. Your thoughts and prayers are most appreciated ~~ I am just trying to stay focused and positive (never thought it would be so hard to do)!
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1714
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 21, 2006 - 02:46 pm: |
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Anytime Pinky, just say the word. I have met in r/l with several folks on this board who can vouch for me, and hope to meet Shylah in the UK in June. I'd love to meet you too. 
You will be in my thoughts and prayers on tuesday...I'm sure everything will be ok. 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Pinkcheeks
Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 434
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 21, 2006 - 02:52 pm: |
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Hey Wolfie I have no doubt about your sincerity, good nature, and honesty (so I am sure folks will tell you are the best!). Its wonderful that you are going out to see Shylah in June!! I will be recovering then, so how about we plan for coffee in late July or August? I can't do anything until June 14th anyway (besides lie around and rest).......I would love to meet you too~~
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 35
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, May 21, 2006 - 02:59 pm: |
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Pinkcheeks,
Wolfie is a great gal. She has a knack for making people feel better, and her shoulders are great for crying on, plus she can be hilarious at times.
She and I haven't met in person yet but chat on phone. She is very special.
I am looking forward to getting to meet her later this year.
HUGS cheeky
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Pinkcheeks
Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 435
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 21, 2006 - 03:21 pm: |
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Cheeky,
I could sure use LOTS and LOTS of humor right now - All of you are so special - thanks for being there for me
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1717
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 21, 2006 - 03:30 pm: |
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Ok then, here's a few to take your mind off things.....
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Pinkcheeks
Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 437
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 21, 2006 - 06:28 pm: |
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 ..thanks Wolfie !
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1719
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 01:13 pm: |
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More funnies....
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 40
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 02:07 pm: |
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Pinkcheeks,
Hope all goes well for you tomorrow and remember we are all with you in spirit. Soon you will be back to bratting. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!
Wolfie where do you come up with these.LOL
They are hilarious.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Gypsygirl
Spanko
Username: Gypsygirl
Post Number: 278
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 02:26 pm: |
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Cheeky & Pinky, (sounds like a cartoon double act), I'd like to add my very sincere wishes to all the rest and if I could send good vibes through the net, then you would have your in-box overflowing. Sometimes it feels that you are surrounded by things going wrong, it certainly feels that way to me at least, my best friend has just had a cancerous lump removed and has to have chemo, my brother-in-law is undergoing tests for the same thing in his lung, a cousin had a severe cerebral stroke yesterday and one wants to ask 'What is going on?' but the answer to that is 'Life is going on'.
All the best to both of you, if it's some small comfort, my Mum was diagnosed with cancer 15 years ago and she's now 80 and still going strong.
I foresee spankings........LOTS of spankings
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Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 42
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 02:38 pm: |
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Gypsygirl,
Thank You.But I see it as you need my well wishes and prayers. You are going through alot with family members and friends with cancer.
I feel so much for you and Pinkcheeks. So far cancer hasn't hit anyone in my family immediately close to me. I had an uncle that died with cancer two years ago. First had cancer in his throat, had to have a voice machine, then in his lungs, and finally his brain. After going through chemo and all with the lung cancer he refused any type of treatment for the brain cancer. A cousing of mine 38 years old died last month from stomach cancer. These I guess are immediate family but we weren't really close. I felt for my cousins and their families but I didn't have to deal with it personally.
Ya'll both will be in my prayers.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 855
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 02:49 pm: |
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Hugs to all of you. I wish I could do more for all of you, I will keep y'all in my prayers and send my good wishes your way. |
Pinkcheeks
Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 440
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 06:34 pm: |
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I wanted to stop by just to say "thank you" for all your warm thoughts, prayers, and well-wishes. My surgery is set for 7:30AM EST tomorrow - trying to "keep a stiff upper lip". Hey........I'll be back before you know it!
You guys are the best and I luv ya for being who you are!! 
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 46
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 06:48 pm: |
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luv ya also.You will do fine and bratting in no time.
Get Well Soon.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Naughtylele
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Username: Naughtylele
Post Number: 4
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 07:05 pm: |
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I'm really new here, but I wanted to say that I hope everything goes well.
What you're doing is an incredible blessing. My grandfather lived with my family when I was a teenager (for the last three years of his life) and I loved it. Having him with us in our home was a wonderful experience and I know that he enjoyed being with us.
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Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 47
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 07:37 pm: |
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HI. Naughtylele,
Thanks for the kind words. I loved having my granny closer. Before she lived in a trailer in our yard she lived by herself just 2 miles from us. As I was growing up it was always, mom, granny, and me.
I have thought often if years ago I made the mistake of putting off having children. My saying (at age 20 til present) is if I dont have a child by the time I am 35 then I won't be having one. I am nearing that age now. I decided along time ago as long as I caring for an elderly loved one.I would not attempt to bring up a child in it. I am glad I got to help out with my granny and I am glad my mom took her in. But we didn't get to do many Mother/Daughter things afterward and I think it built a slight wall between us. I helped to raise my twin neice and nephew but that was before my mom in law got in worse shape.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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