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Cherrybrewer
New member
Username: Cherrybrewer

Post Number: 1
Registered: 07-2007
Posted on Friday, July 20, 2007 - 05:50 pm:   Edit Post

My love has revealed to me that she loves the lifestyle. I am completely new to it... I desperatly need advise and direction from any spanker that help me find my way.
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Badgirl
Spanko
Username: Badgirl

Post Number: 474
Registered: 11-2005
Posted on Friday, July 20, 2007 - 07:39 pm:   Edit Post

I am a spankee, not a spanker, and I would like to applaud you for being open and willing to try this with her.

My two pieces of advice?

1)The most important thing, as you will read over and over again on various pages, is communication. Find out from her what kind of spankings she wants: purely erotic, punishment, full D/S, or any of the other variants.

2) Have fun with it. Learn and play together. That way it will be just another thing that brings you closer.

Good luck. And of course:
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Buenaventura
Advanced Spanko
Username: Buenaventura

Post Number: 706
Registered: 04-2006


Posted on Friday, July 20, 2007 - 10:36 pm:   Edit Post

Welcome Cherrybrewer!!You came to the right place.Badgirls advice is perfect.It,s all about communication and having fun.You have a spankee in your hands now take your clues from her.
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Petergrimm
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Username: Petergrimm

Post Number: 46
Registered: 05-2007
Posted on Saturday, July 21, 2007 - 12:14 am:   Edit Post

Suggest you read the stories, fantasies, in the contest section - this will give you some idea of the kinds of spanking things that go on - at risk of oversimplification there is erotic spanking at one end - basically using the spanking interaction and sensations as part of sexuality, and disciplinary spanking at the other - a much more mind and emotion related thing. In between is a a mix of both which can vary from couple to couple and even from day to day.
As stated in other comments you will need good communications with your spankee to find out what she wants out of this (and to air what you want or don't want as well).
There are threads in the Spanking discussion area that will then apply to specific questions you may have, though don't be afraid to just ask - we spank or get spanked (or both) but don't bite too often!
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Cherrybrewer
New member
Username: Cherrybrewer

Post Number: 2
Registered: 07-2007
Posted on Saturday, July 21, 2007 - 08:36 am:   Edit Post

Thank you all for the advise and suppoprt. She has told me that she is interested in erotic; of course I am clueless... But, I am also convinced, this is something I am so willing to learn and explore. I'm sure it will only bring us closer. Any videos, articles, chat rooms that may help??
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Rose
New member
Username: Rose

Post Number: 10
Registered: 06-2007
Posted on Saturday, July 21, 2007 - 02:34 pm:   Edit Post

I suggest you ask her what chat rooms, stories, etc that she likes. These are the ones that will give you the best idea of what she is looking for. Look at them together and talk about what specifically she likes about each story.

She has taken a big step in telling you what she likes. I don't know her, but I know that this is a difficult thing for many women to tell their partners. The most comforting thing to her can be showing her that you are genuinely interested in learning about and fulfilling her needs.

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