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Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 203
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Friday, February 16, 2007 - 02:08 pm: | 
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Just wanted to know what ya'll think.
My 16 year old nephew is attemtping to talk his dad, me , and uncle into getting a tattoo.
He wanted a tongue ring but we all declined that idea quickly.
But we are still debating on the tattoo.
Should 16 years old get a tattoo or wait til adulthood?
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Buenaventura
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Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 454
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Friday, February 16, 2007 - 02:38 pm: |
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When my sons were 16 they also wanted tattos.I told them that after they were 18 they could make a descision of that type that would affect their whole lifes. That every 7 years one changes completely ones point of view about everything and that most of the people who have one after 7 years are sorry they did it.Well when they got to 18 they didn,t want them anymore so it worked. |
Pixiekitten
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Username: Pixiekitten
Post Number: 12
Registered: 02-2007
| | Posted on Friday, February 16, 2007 - 02:42 pm: |
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I would say a big fat "no" to that one with my kids. I ran out and got one right after I turned 18 and looking back I had no concept of what a clean, safe, & experienced tattoo shop should be/look like. There are so many things to consider when getting one that teens just may not think of. Placement of the tat in case he ends up in a professional situation and needs to cover it. Picking something meaningful and not his "craze of the month" etc. Our interests change so much from teenagerhood to adulthood. I would hate for your nephew to regret what he picked five or ten years from now.
Just one opinion...Good Luck!
"Naughty Pixies Always Get Caught."
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Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 204
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Friday, February 16, 2007 - 04:42 pm: |
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For the last year my nephew has been talking about a tattoo. It wasn't until just a few weeks ago that he started really applying pressure to if he could get one before he was 18.
Teenage reasoning being: There are other students that have them at school. HE knows this reasoning does not wash with us.
I picked him and his sister up at school today and the first words out of his mouth was look at this picture I drew of the tattoo I want.  Fairly big cross with the number 13 on it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We are still debating the if he gets to get one. The rules to him getting one is
1)simple and small (maltese cross)
2)has to be on upperarm, so it can hidden by shirtsleeve
3)he has to pay for it himself
My hubby and nephew are working on a design of a Maltese Cross that everyone can possibly agree upon.
Of course teenage reasoning wants initials, skull, blood droplets.... That idea was shot down quickly.
Now since nephew has been talking about tattoo, his twin sister is wanting one too. AARRGGHHH
She wants a music symbol on her upperarm.
Should have seen that one coming. What one does the other one has to also.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Buenaventura
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Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 456
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Friday, February 16, 2007 - 06:43 pm: |
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Cheeky if your husbands already working on a design then the die are cast and it,d be nearly impossible to go back.So try to help him understand that the difference between the way he feels now and the way he felt when he was 10 is the same diffence in the way he,ll feel when he,s 30and it should be hidden small and make a statement he,ll still agree with in 10 years |
Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 205
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Friday, February 16, 2007 - 07:36 pm: |
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They have decided upon a design its' not too bad, but I am hoping since hubby drew out the design and we have stored safely away that by the time our nephew comes up with the money to pay for it, he'll have changed his mind.
Nephew has come to see that even though he is paying for it (if he still wants it when he has the money) that us three adults have the say so of what it is.
They have come up with a design: small maltese cross with his initials in it and his lucky number 13. (rolling my eyes at the number 13)
Maybe each time he saves his money, I'll show him a music CD he can't live without.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Shylah
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Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1636
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, February 17, 2007 - 10:43 am: |
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Personally...and I mean PERSONALLY...my answer to a tatoo before the boy becomes of age would be a big fat resounding NO!!!
He needs to understand that he will have to live with it the rest of his life. And when he meets a girl that he will want a permanant relationship with...is she going to appreciate it? Does he think that by looking "trendy" now will impress a grown woman?
If he comes up with the money...I would tell him that sorry but common sense is going to prevail with this adult and no tattoo until he reaches 18 and then he can decide for himself.
I would also give him a task to do research on tattoos...if he ever wants to give blood a tattoo would hinder that...etc...have him make a list of pros and cons then then sit with him AND his sister and discuss them.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Tammynx
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Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1696
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, February 17, 2007 - 10:46 am: |
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My daughter wants a tattoo. She is now 18 and that was my rule after your 18 if you still want one.....then its your choice.
I was thinking of getting a small heart or a small butterfly myself. But I keep chickining out...and my husband doesn't really want me too anyway.
Well...he is okay with a tattoo on my butt saying "SPANK HERE".
Like he needs a sign..... |
Shylah
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Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1638
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, February 17, 2007 - 10:48 am: |
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I want a pair of lips all puckered up in a kiss on my butt...
guess why???
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Tammynx
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Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1700
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, February 17, 2007 - 10:57 am: |
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Gee so the poor old man can kiss your ass??? |
Shylah
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Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1644
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, February 17, 2007 - 11:03 am: |
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exactly!
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Bratattitude
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Username: Bratattitude
Post Number: 39
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, February 17, 2007 - 08:58 pm: |
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16?? I would KILL my kid. I normally wouldn't respond becasue it's to each his own but since you brought it up. Why are you allowing it when you do not want him to do it? Why do we let children dictate what we let them do?
Parents/Authority figures need to remind these kids who is in charge. I work in an industry where I see screwed up kids everyday that do as they want. If they just had some constructive guidance mabe they would be better off. So again if you and the dad and your husband do not want him to do it....why are you letting him?? |
Buenaventura
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Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 460
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, February 17, 2007 - 09:14 pm: |
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Agreed brat now what Shylah said is true and I just had it driven home.I,m in for surgury in March and have to have 2 blood donors.And on the list of things the blood bank doesn,t accept are tattoos.So it,s a lifetime with out having the chance to help somebody that needs it. |
Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 206
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, February 18, 2007 - 02:10 am: |
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This child knows who is in charge. Has to know since he isn't a hoodlum out on the street and is the one that gets picked on in school instead of the one that does the picking. We can account for his being 24 hours a day 7 days a week.
I guess some reasons all 3 of us adults are even considering the idea is that he is a really good kid, doesn't get into any trouble at school, doesn't seem to care to much about driving yet (as he hasn't even fooled with getting a permit or his license), and wants to express himself in some way. When out of school he is always around family members and even helps out with us taking care of his grandmother.
For a year or more he has talked only of a tattoo, just recently more adament about it.
I would rather discuss this issue with him (and thanks to Shylah for the info on the blood donating. When I told his sister about that, it changed her mind on wanting a tattoo. The last year all she has talked about is wanting to give at the blood drive at their school this year.) and give him a little lead way.
After all you can forbid your daughter/son to have sex but that doesn't mean they won't. He is sixteen and we openly talk about sex to him and his twin sister, when he dates its his and her decision what they do. We can only help with the consequences that follow.
Plus as I have helped raise this child since he was 4 months old, I know that most likely between now and the few months it will take him to save up for the tattoo that something else will come up.
He will not get the tattoo without all pros and cons being talked through.
He will know what consequences go with the tattooing.
The reason I brought it up was to get other peoples opinions. And I appreciate all the opinions i have gotten here.
I thank y'all very much 
Also just this year I got up the nerve to give blood and since I have toyed with the idea of a tattoo I won't get one until I talk to the place where I donate. I like helping others and my blood type is O-. So before I make any hasty decisions I'll make sure I can still donate.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Tammynx
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Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1704
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 20, 2007 - 12:44 pm: |
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Cheekychipmunk it sounds like you have really thought this through. He sounds like a good kid.
I think the fact that you are all talking about it openly says a lot!! Most kids don't talk things out they just go and do it.
My oldest daughter is a good kid too. That is why now that she is 18, if she really wants a tattoo...well...its her body. She started talking about getting one when she was 16... I was able to give her good reasons why she should wait and she did.
Sounds like you know what your doing Cheeky!!! |
Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 211
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 20, 2007 - 05:51 pm: |
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Thanks Tammy.
So far since we have discussed the issues with him and drawn out what tattoo design we will agree with, I haven't heard anymore about the tattoo. LOL
As a matter of fact he was talking last night about wanting a new stereo set. So most likely as he gets his money he'll find other things he wants before saving up the amount he needs for the tattoo.
KIDS GO FIGURE!!!!!!!!!!!
One thing is for sure.... they keep life interesting.
These two kids are the most talkative 16 year olds I have ever seen. I know they were talkative as little kids,you know the WHY THIS/ WHY THAT.
But to this day they come in from school or outings with friends and tell us all about it.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Shylah
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Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1652
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 20, 2007 - 07:43 pm: |
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Cheeky..that's because they trust you and for a teenager to trust you enough in this day and age...you DEFINETLY did something right!
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 212
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 20, 2007 - 07:55 pm: |
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Thanks Shylah.
I'm hoping by helping to raise them, that when hubby and I decid to have our own we'll sorta know what we are doing.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Ma_vie_en_rose
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Username: Ma_vie_en_rose
Post Number: 330
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 21, 2007 - 01:45 am: |
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Cheeky,
As someone who was sixteen not horridly long ago, I remember wanting a tattoo at that age. I had decided on it, a dove at the small of my back--and I wanted it--even past the point of being 18.
I can't even pick a pair of shoes and stick with it for more than 3 months, but I wanted the tattoo.
but at 19, I didn't want it. I was glad I hadn't got it, I wondered. "Maybe I'd like a flower"
XD as much as it sucks for immediate gratification, a tattoo is permanent modification. I'd definitely try to urge him to wait until he's 18 at very least, and then, if whatever design is still exactly what he wanted now, to go for it, but if it changes, it's something to consider.
My personal rule is I have to sit on a particular design for five years before I can think about getting it done. XD; and it's not happened yet. |
Mwbfs
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Username: Mwbfs
Post Number: 15
Registered: 02-2007
| | Posted on Thursday, February 22, 2007 - 09:56 am: |
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Don't you just hate it when your kids make the honor role in school, have great friends that never stay out past curfew, and then they do all their chores without being asked; makes it so much harder to deny them something they really want...
Different parents have different rules, different hot buttons; I might not personally want my 16 year old to get one, but I rarely judge another parents ideals.
My 14 year old son has a friend who is a type-1 diabetic; he keeps a vile of vegetable dye in his syringe pack, he uses a drop to mark the needle point area after his shot, it faids after awhile but they all think it is cool.. he once had an star on his arm for a few weeks.. the doctor thought it was a great coping mechanism for him..
My only advise to anyone getting a tatoo it to keep it simple; maybe just the cross right now for him, he can always add to it over the years.
Hi, I am a Married White Bi-sexual Female Switch; & u?
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Weasel
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Username: Weasel
Post Number: 190
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, February 22, 2007 - 11:30 am: |
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um.. you might consider that the number 13 could be construed as gang affiliation. In biker circles the 1% and number 13 go hand in hand as gang/club symbolism.
I would allow the designing to be done now, with the promise of taking said child to a tattoo parlor of MY picking and paying for the tattoo on the childs 18th birthday as a "coming of age" ritual. No tattoo's before that though. I have tattoos, I'm 50, I don't regret any of them (gotten in my late 20's), as they were done by one of the premier artists in the country. Currently, the rose wristlet needs to be covered every day at my job since visible tattoos are prohibited. It's tastefully done, beautiful roses, small, delicate, and fine line work. I get more remarks on the covering (did you injure your wrist?) than I ever got on the tattoo (which more often than not gets mistaken for a wristwatch by the average observer).
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 214
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, February 22, 2007 - 03:11 pm: |
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Ma_vie_en_rose,
Thanks for the input. He talked a little last night about the tattoo but doesn't ask as much as he did a week ago about gettting it. He seem to be sure he wants a tattoo, but he still has to wait til we carry him and that isn't anytime in the near future.
Mwbfs,
I think just getting the cross for now would be better also. That is what it started out as. Then as most teenagers he went to adding more. We told simple tattoo or nothing at all. May talk to him about just the cross and the initials. Later on like you said he can add more to it.
Weasel,
I think he sees the number 13 as unlucky to most but has chosen it as his lucky number. But I still would rather it weren't in the tattoo now. We have told him it has to be on his upperarm where a normal short sleeve shirt will keep it covered. I don't really think we have to worry about him getting the tatttoo in the next 6 months though.
The reason for making him pay for it, is to prove to us that if he wants it bad enough he'll have to give up something to get it. This kid loves to spend money on CDs. I figure as he gets some money he'll go straight to wal-marts and pick up CDs before he puts any back for the tattoo.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Dakota
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Username: Dakota
Post Number: 8
Registered: 12-2006
| | Posted on Monday, March 12, 2007 - 01:21 am: |
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can I point out another good placement for a tatoo, it hurts more, but is also easily hideable is the ankle, and I'm not too sure if it was mentioned before, I really didn't read that closely.
If I were in your position though I don't think I would allow him to get a tattoo until he was 18, (Of course I'm only 23 and may have a totally different view then some of you, or different reasoning rather). I would rather it be totally his decision, design, placement, everything. Because ultimatly it's his body, and he'll have to live with it.. I just wouldn't want to put restrictions on it that he would regret later.. I mean, based on what you are saying he wants a tattoo badly, and most kids when they want something bad enough they'll agree to just about anything, and as a minor I would feel I would have to have some say.. ya know. I just think my mind would be more at ease if he waited until he could make his own decision about it.
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Cheekychipmunk
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Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 226
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, March 12, 2007 - 03:04 pm: |
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Dakota,
Yes you make perfect sense.
But with him being a minor there are some decisions you have to put limits on. Plus us putting these limits on him we figured would deter him.
My nephew has decided that he wants to wait until he is 18. One of the main reason's being that once he gets in the tattoo place he will most likely see another type of tattoo he wants.
We have alread told him, if we take him up there he isn't going to set around for two or three hours making up his mind.
He is a good kid, but you are in deep do-do when you give him several options to choose from.
I'm glad he is going to wait, only because I will not have to set up there impatiently waiting for him to decide what he wants, what color he wants and where he wants it at.
Though he understands it has to be somewhere that can be covered up when he gets a job.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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