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Beachley
Advanced Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 310
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 04:23 pm: | 
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I am wondering if anyone else is in a situation like mine. Hmmm how to explain. I like to be spanked for the fun of it. I like the control that gets taken away from me while I’m being spanked. I definitely have no say in anything when it is time to be spanked. As much as the spanking the fun is losing the control at the same time.
However, there is the other side of our relationship, Mr. B and myself, (hubby of 18 years) where he is and always has been the naturally dominant male. Even before we started playing with spanking, he was dominant but in those before spanking years his dominance was less blatant maybe if I say his dominance was sort of accomplished in a round about way, such that I did not recognize the dominance at that time. I am not saying it right I’m sure.
Now since spanking began even in play, that dominant side is no longer accomplished quietly. Mr. B now simply lays on the table his dominant side all out in the open no matter what, where or how. A no answer is no longer sugar coated.
I guess before, I never new I was NOT in control even when I wasn’t. I now, without a doubt, know when I am not in control. It is as simple as Mr. B saying “you don’t have the control give it up.”
I am not complaining. I simply find this development in his personality to be quite intriguing. My desire in spanking seems to have allowed him to open up his character also in being more of who he is and comfortable in his dominant role.
Does anyone else have a similar relationship that has changed over the years when spanking became a part of the relationship?
Do all Tops/Doms as they recognize themselves as such in a relationship progress, even if the relationship has been around for a long time to begin with?
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Redhinney
Advanced Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 287
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 05:46 pm: |
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Beachley,
God has my relationship change I used to think that Bill and I just were a couple who like to be spanked or give spanks but we have definetly moved in to a more Dom/Sub relationship and it did happen with sutle little things and once I accepted it and realized it we are both happier.
If this is soemthing you want enjoy it if this is soemthing that scares you talk about it.
I use to say that Bill never had the right to just spank me if he felt like it. Punsihment spanking were only for cause and good girl spankings were for well sex but since the movement in our relationship I know and have expereince spanking just becasue he wanted to, or he needed to no reason and not always leading to sex but because he had wants and needs -so the control was taking away from me on this as well. I don't object because I am sure that you can tell from various post that Bill is a fair Dom and takes very good care of me. roles change as your relationship matures I say enjoy it change is wonderful
Love can't always be seen or heard but will always be felt with your heart
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