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Fortysomething
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Username: Fortysomething

Post Number: 5
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 01:11 pm:   Edit Post

You may or may not remember that I introduced myself a couple weeks ago. I've been lurking. Reading and reading. I feel like I know all of you and have so appreciated all the insights and such that you offer.

My hubby and I have known for a while that we enjoy spanking. Doesn't matter if it's sexual or discipline... we LIKE it. We've stifled it though due to the fact that we had older children in the house. We'd be mortified if they heard or knew of this. Now though the house is ours.

I even started a blog today and have been reading many many blogs belonging to other people. I guess I just wanted to thank you all for your inspiration - even if you are unaware that you are supplying it. Rest assured there are probably many like myself who are afraid to jump in here but who are inspired by you all. My fear stems from the fact that my husband and I both work in professions where this lifestyle would be seriously frowned upon... especially in this day and age. I don't want to be "found out." In fact, even though I know it's pretty much impossible for you all to know WHO I am, I still feel as though someone knows. I'm getting better though because I do realize that what goes on between my husband and myself is no one's business, yes? (feel free to offer some assurance)

And tonight I'm getting the spanking of a lifetime. We're celebrating!!

Thanks for listening.
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Pinkcheeks
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Username: Pinkcheeks

Post Number: 663
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 01:45 pm:   Edit Post

Please feel assured! You are right - what happens between you and your hubby is your business. I know how taxing it can be - when you think someone might find out. I am glad that you feel confident enough to post now :-) This is a wonderful site with lots of great people.
Oh....and about tonight?

enjoy~~~
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Tammynx
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Username: Tammynx

Post Number: 872
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 01:54 pm:   Edit Post

I'm glad to hear that you feel comfortable enough to post here!!

My husband and I really LIKE spanking too. We also have a teenager in the house so we know all about keeping it quiet and wating till she is out.

I'm with you...I don't really want to be "found" out by most people either. I've made friends here though that know the "real me". It makes me feel good to know that I can come here and post and read and know that I'm not alone!! :-)

Have a great time tonight!!
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Fortysomething
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Username: Fortysomething

Post Number: 7
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 02:21 pm:   Edit Post

Pink and Tammy,

Thank you both. I'm honestly fine with the lifestyle. In fact, I love it. In the early years of my marriage, I suggested it once and my husband laughed, thinking I was kidding. Then about 5 years ago, I forgot to clear the history on the computer after going to a number of spanking sites. He found them and that opened up an honest discussion finally. We've played around for 5 years when opportunity arrose but now we're finding that we want to get a bit more serious. Correction... a LOT more serious. I'm not sure where it's headed but I'm open to nearly anything.

And about tonight... did I mention that today's my birthday??
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Pinkcheeks
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Username: Pinkcheeks

Post Number: 665
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 03:28 pm:   Edit Post

ohhhhh...then have a spanking good time!!!

**I remember my b-day spanking sooooo well (it was in February)....it was the BEST!! Hope it's the same for you!
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Fortysomething
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Username: Fortysomething

Post Number: 8
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 03:32 pm:   Edit Post

Thanks!!! I'd be lying if I said I wasn't excited. He has made plans to come home early.
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Fanny
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Username: Fanny

Post Number: 2565
Registered: 05-2005


Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 03:37 pm:   Edit Post

I can completely related with what you are saying. We have 6 children and "playing" around them forces you to have a lot of creativity. My husband's job would not be at stake is someone found at about our lifestyle, but mine would be diasterous. I happen to counsel abused woman and am a courtroom advocate. I also volunteer at the kids elementary school and our church.
Yep, I'd be run out of town for sure!!

AND HAPPY BIRTHDAY
Queen of Innocence

"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Fortysomething
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Username: Fortysomething

Post Number: 9
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 03:52 pm:   Edit Post

It's nice to hear from others who understand the fear I have. It's certainly not enough to dictate what we do in the privacy of our home but it's enough to make us cautious when it comes to others finding out. We live in town where homes are close together. I worry about the neighbors hearing and turning us in... although, I don't think that would get very far because people who know us would never believe it. And they certainly wouldn't believe our neighbors over us. I would just deny it.

And thanks for the birthday wishes!!
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Blistering_blonde
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Username: Blistering_blonde

Post Number: 316
Registered: 10-2005
Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 04:03 pm:   Edit Post

Just remember ..if they know from reading this ...then they themselves are into it too.
Never fear its all natural ..
He asked what I needed , timidly gave it at first, now he just knows.
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Fortysomething
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Post Number: 10
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 04:15 pm:   Edit Post

Excellent point!! Thank you!!!

This is all getting easier and easier.
__________________________________________

Forty-something and loving life
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Pinkcheeks
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Username: Pinkcheeks

Post Number: 666
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 04:47 pm:   Edit Post

Fortysomething,

I forgot to mention one little thing.....

We LOVE details around here ! so be sure to fill us in on your "special birthday"
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Fortysomething
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Username: Fortysomething

Post Number: 11
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 04:53 pm:   Edit Post

I don't suppose you'd be referring to the details of the cookout my daughter and her new husband invited us to? They just bought a grill and want to try it out for my birthday. Not today though!!

There are some preliminary details in my blog if you want to read that.
Forty-something and loving life
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Subbie
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Username: Subbie

Post Number: 90
Registered: 05-2006
Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 05:32 pm:   Edit Post

Happy birthday spanking...I suspect we are all in the same boat, no one wants to be outed but this is a nice place to come and talk with others who have those same kind of feelings and fears as you do.you are not alone for sure.:-)
my name says it all
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Tammynx
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Username: Tammynx

Post Number: 876
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 06:08 pm:   Edit Post

Happy Birthday!!!!

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Katie_spades
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Username: Katie_spades

Post Number: 690
Registered: 11-2005


Posted on Wednesday, July 12, 2006 - 03:21 am:   Edit Post

Congratualations and happy birthday spanking! Glad that you can finally act out your desires - a lot of us have been in that boat and it's great that you finally got your "comeupance," LOL <sp?> Enjoy!
The Princess of Spanking™
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Fortysomething
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Username: Fortysomething

Post Number: 12
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Wednesday, July 12, 2006 - 09:47 am:   Edit Post

Thank you all for the birthday wishes. It was an awesome, fun birthday.
Forty-something and loving life

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Pinkcheeks
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Username: Pinkcheeks

Post Number: 667
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Wednesday, July 12, 2006 - 10:31 am:   Edit Post

Fortysomething...LOL!!! Nooooooo I did not mean the BBQ!!! (although I'm sure it was fun too). This is the spanking den -----> how was the birthday spanking?

Glad you had a fun day~~PS...Good work on the new blog too!
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Fortysomething
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Username: Fortysomething

Post Number: 13
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Wednesday, July 12, 2006 - 10:48 am:   Edit Post

Actually the BBQ will take place later in the week. As for last night.... we went out for dinner. There's absolutely nothing like a "chat" over dinner about what is going to take place later to make one feel rather submissive, yes?

It all started out pretty playful (in the shower - nothing like being spanked on a wet bottom) but soon turned more serious. It was glorious. I'll see if I can muster up more specific details in my blog. Check there later if you like!!
Forty-something and loving life

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Pinkcheeks
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Username: Pinkcheeks

Post Number: 668
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Wednesday, July 12, 2006 - 12:40 pm:   Edit Post

ooooooooo...sounds like delicious fun!!
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Fortysomething
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Username: Fortysomething

Post Number: 14
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Wednesday, July 12, 2006 - 01:21 pm:   Edit Post

It's been blogged. Hope it's not TMI.
Forty-something and loving life

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Tammynx
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Username: Tammynx

Post Number: 878
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Wednesday, July 12, 2006 - 03:11 pm:   Edit Post

You can never have to much information!!! :-)
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Buenaventura
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Username: Buenaventura

Post Number: 108
Registered: 04-2006
Posted on Wednesday, July 12, 2006 - 03:15 pm:   Edit Post

Hey forty I think the thing on the wall is either an enema bag or douche bag.Nice drawing great spanking.
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Fortysomething
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Post Number: 15
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Wednesday, July 12, 2006 - 03:28 pm:   Edit Post

Thanks Tammy for the vote of confidence and encouragement!!

And Buenaventura, I thought the same thing but why would someone hang that on the wall?
Forty-something and loving life

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Pinkcheeks
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Username: Pinkcheeks

Post Number: 669
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Wednesday, July 12, 2006 - 03:56 pm:   Edit Post

I was thinking the same thing as Buenaventura...odd place for it though :-)
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Wilson
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Username: Wilson

Post Number: 6
Registered: 07-2006
Posted on Friday, July 14, 2006 - 03:36 pm:   Edit Post

Sounds like you have a good thing going......a partner that understands and shares your fanticies, etc.
Have you ever sat down with your spanker over dinner, with a note pad and discussed what you want from your DD relationship ?
Discuss everything from: what implements do we use?...how much, and how hard.............What do I get spanked for, and or how do I ask ?....Will you both be subject to a good spanking... Is one time better than another....Positions, positions, and what positions ?...Where do I get it in the home?......Away from home?...........Do I have any say after pronouncement is made ?...Then ENJOY!
It is always best to have predictable consequences!
Then keep the notepad, wait two or three months, and review...make changes...and ENJOY !
***If you can't be good.....Be good at it !***
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Fortysomething
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Username: Fortysomething

Post Number: 26
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Friday, July 14, 2006 - 05:10 pm:   Edit Post

Wilson,

Those are all good discussions. My hubby and I do talk about it and pretty much I leave the ball in his court. I am one of these ones who has too much authority in the work place and need someone to just take over. My husband is glad to meet my needs. And no, spanking is not a two way street. He feels no need to be spanked and I feel no need to spank him.

He does a great job letting me know when it's time, etc. It's nice to just trust him with it. He somehow just always knows.
Forty-something and loving life

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Weasel
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Username: Weasel

Post Number: 94
Registered: 06-2006


Posted on Saturday, July 15, 2006 - 09:21 am:   Edit Post

I love your blog fortysomething! Very creative! I started one and I just don't have time to work on it much while I'm getting my new business off the ground. I'm lucky I have some time to sneak in here and visit you all! Keep it up!
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Ladygator2904
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Username: Ladygator2904

Post Number: 219
Registered: 03-2006


Posted on Saturday, July 15, 2006 - 05:59 pm:   Edit Post

How do I find the blog? I wanna see it.. I wanna see it....
A woman`s heart may be filled with an ocean of secrets but mine have all been released and I have a sore bottom to prove it!
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Fortysomething
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Username: Fortysomething

Post Number: 29
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Saturday, July 15, 2006 - 10:42 pm:   Edit Post

Thanks Weasel. I'm having some fun with it.

Ladygator, just go to my profile. There's a link there.
Forty-something and loving life

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Tammynx
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Username: Tammynx

Post Number: 913
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Sunday, July 16, 2006 - 04:39 pm:   Edit Post

Fortysomething it really is a good blog!! I've enjoyed reading it!!
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Fortysomething
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Username: Fortysomething

Post Number: 30
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Sunday, July 16, 2006 - 04:46 pm:   Edit Post

Awww.. thanks. I'm humbled that you would say that!
Forty-something and loving life

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Tammynx
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Username: Tammynx

Post Number: 914
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Sunday, July 16, 2006 - 04:58 pm:   Edit Post

Its great!! You are a really good writer. I've added it to my favorites!!

Your funny too... I'm impressed!!!
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Weasel
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Username: Weasel

Post Number: 102
Registered: 06-2006


Posted on Monday, July 17, 2006 - 01:08 pm:   Edit Post

Ladygator click on fortysomethings name over on the left to go to her profile, the link to her blog is there. It's really a good job of blogging, that!
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!

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