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 Rocco
 Advanced Spanko
 Username: Rocco
 
 Post Number: 425
 Registered: 04-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Thursday, August 04, 2005 - 02:52 pm: |   | 
 I think it’s safe to say that the Den is populated mostly by male tops and female bottoms.  I know I’m not the only switch in the Den.  So it’s time to stand up and be counted.  If you’re a switch (male or female) sign on and let us know.  And for the guys out there who are bottoms, stop in and say hello too.  There have been a lot of new people joining the Den, which is awesome to see, and a big hello and welcome to you all,  but sometimes it takes a while for the profiles to load (or that could just be my connection) this might be easier.  So come!!! Lets hear from you!
 
 (This includes any lurkers out there)
 Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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 Wild1
 New member
 Username: Wild1
 
 Post Number: 2
 Registered: 08-2005
 
 | | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 03:02 am: |   | 
 f switch here!}
 wild1;)
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 Rocco
 Advanced Spanko
 Username: Rocco
 
 Post Number: 435
 Registered: 04-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 11:32 am: |   | 
 Thanks Wild1!
 
 Come you all, I know you're out there!!
 Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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 Fanny
 Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
 Username: Fanny
 
 Post Number: 1010
 Registered: 05-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 12:26 pm: |   | 
 Rocco, I have never been a switch.....but you are making it more appealing to me.....just so I can go after YOU!!!!
 "Queen of Innocence"
 
 Be willing to pass up good, for great!
 
 "oooooo", she says!!
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 Rocco
 Advanced Spanko
 Username: Rocco
 
 Post Number: 440
 Registered: 04-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 01:02 pm: |   | 
 You can come after me all you want Fanny, it'll only result in you getting a good sound spanking.  Which is what I know you're after.
 Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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 Fanny
 Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
 Username: Fanny
 
 Post Number: 1019
 Registered: 05-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 01:08 pm: |   | 
 Don't be so cock sure of yourself, Darling!
 "Queen of Innocence"
 
 Be willing to pass up good, for great!
 
 "oooooo", she says!!
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 Rocco
 Advanced Spanko
 Username: Rocco
 
 Post Number: 443
 Registered: 04-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 01:13 pm: |   | 
 Too many directions to go with that one...
 
 BACK ON TOPIC!
 
 And here I thouhgt you were supposed to be the administrator?
 Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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 Fanny
 Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
 Username: Fanny
 
 Post Number: 1020
 Registered: 05-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 01:37 pm: |   | 
 I didn't realize that I was off topic.
   
 What would you like me to administer to?
 "Queen of Innocence"
 
 Be willing to pass up good, for great!
 
 "oooooo", she says!!
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 Biggirl
 Spanko
 Username: Biggirl
 
 Post Number: 55
 Registered: 05-2005
 
 | | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 10:16 pm: |   | 
 Rocco:
 
 I am still quite new to spanking. I have not switched. I would definately like to. But it is not something I want with G. I am sure as with all things it will happen when it happens.
 
 Brightest Blessings,BigGirl
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 Fanny
 Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
 Username: Fanny
 
 Post Number: 1032
 Registered: 05-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 11:29 pm: |   | 
 There are some people who are open to switching and others that definately are not.  R is one who absolutley is not a bottom in any sense.  I have been known to give him a swat in passing, but he nearly always pays me back.  He will not even discuss the possibility of giving it a try.  That is fine with me, I don't feel the need to be a top.  I get my revenge is so many other ways!!
 "Queen of Innocence"
 
 Be willing to pass up good, for great!
 
 "oooooo", she says!!
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 Wild1
 New member
 Username: Wild1
 
 Post Number: 3
 Registered: 08-2005
 
 | | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 11:50 pm: |   | 
 
  Excuse me Rocco...but aren't you a switch so in all fairness I think Fanny should have a shot  at you  all's fair heheheh wild1;)
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 Fanny
 Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
 Username: Fanny
 
 Post Number: 1037
 Registered: 05-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Saturday, August 06, 2005 - 08:12 am: |   | 
 I have Wild1 and I do intend on revisting that scenario.  I am all about fairness.  Rocco will learn just how much he can get away with!!!
 "Queen of Innocence"
 
 Be willing to pass up good, for great!
 
 "oooooo", she says!!
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 Reader_girl
 New member
 Username: Reader_girl
 
 Post Number: 18
 Registered: 07-2005
 
 | | Posted on Saturday, August 06, 2005 - 10:07 am: |   | 
 Okay, so I have a question about switching....
 
 Forgive me while I expose my extremely poor understanding.
   
 I've always assumed that I enjoy being spanked because of physiological or cultural forces that cause me to enjoy feeling dominated but loved and cherished and protected - even from myself. I guess the physiological comes more into play as to why it's a turn on...
 
 And, I've always assumed that it was the opposite for men who like to spank.  They enjoy being dominant and loving, protecting, and cherishing their spankee. And that comes from certain physiological or cultural forces acting out in their lives.  Plus, I think men are more visual, and they enjoy looking at bare bottoms.
   
 So anyway, what is it that motivates a switch?  Is it the same, only both?  I really don't want to offend anyone, I'm just trying to understand.  Whatever you enjoy is okay, whether it's my kink or not.
  Reader Girl
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 Wild1
 New member
 Username: Wild1
 
 Post Number: 4
 Registered: 08-2005
 
 | | Posted on Saturday, August 06, 2005 - 12:48 pm: |   | 
 I think it is the same at least from my perspective..I think a male switch should chime in here and give us his point of view
 
 wild1;)
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 Rocco
 Advanced Spanko
 Username: Rocco
 
 Post Number: 460
 Registered: 04-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Sunday, August 07, 2005 - 10:59 am: |   | 
 First I'd like to give a big THANKS to Wild1 for encouraging Fanny.  Like I don't have enough trouble with here already
  And since you're all about voulenteering... who gets a shot at you??  If after all all is fair <weg> Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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 Wild1
 New member
 Username: Wild1
 
 Post Number: 8
 Registered: 08-2005
 
 | | Posted on Sunday, August 07, 2005 - 12:05 pm: |   | 
 A really big welcome Rocco
  Anyone who is man enough to do so can TRY to get a shot at me but don't forget I switch so he who gives might end up receiving  wild1;)
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 Rocco
 Advanced Spanko
 Username: Rocco
 
 Post Number: 461
 Registered: 04-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Sunday, August 07, 2005 - 12:26 pm: |   | 
 I like your style Wild1
  Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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 Wild1
 New member
 Username: Wild1
 
 Post Number: 9
 Registered: 08-2005
 
 | | Posted on Sunday, August 07, 2005 - 12:32 pm: |   | 
 back to Rocco's original post
 
 If you’re a switch (male or female) sign on and let us know. And for the guys out there who are bottoms, stop in and say hello too
 
 so is there anyone else that would like to chime in here?
   }
 wild1;)
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 Wild1
 New member
 Username: Wild1
 
 Post Number: 10
 Registered: 08-2005
 
 | | Posted on Sunday, August 07, 2005 - 12:37 pm: |   | 
 thank you once again Rocco
  wild1;)
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 Rocco
 Advanced Spanko
 Username: Rocco
 
 Post Number: 462
 Registered: 04-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Sunday, August 07, 2005 - 02:10 pm: |   | 
 Okay Readergirl, here is my take on your question.  As a switch there are a couple different things going for me when it comes to spanking.
 
 From my top side, I do enjoy the visual aspect, no denying that.  More so it's all about the dominant, loving, protecting, and cherishing of the spankee.  The specific dynamics can change with different partners, but in my experiences that is what it's been about.  It's also highly erotic and fun play.
 
 From the bottom side, for me at least, I find being spanked to be a huge escape, and the side or after effect are much better than a night of heavy drinking.  It's the perfect stress reliever.  It's a time to let go of all the crap from the day, relinquish some control, allow the person you love to take care of you and help to realign focus, and just to connect with that person in an intimate way.  And then there's the times when my GF does it just as foreplay, and there's no complaint on my "end"
  Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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 Kimbers
 New member
 Username: Kimbers
 
 Post Number: 3
 Registered: 08-2005
 
 | | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 12:59 am: |   | 
 Well, I'm new here but I'll join in.
 
 Until I started searching the internet last year I didn't even know what a switch was! It never occured to me to fantasize about me spanking someone. I am definitely a bottom at heart, but would be willing to top if necessary. Such new lovely things to ponder!
   
 Kimbers
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 Rocco
 Advanced Spanko
 Username: Rocco
 
 Post Number: 468
 Registered: 04-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 12:34 pm: |   | 
 <weg>  Perhaps she can be persuaded to the dark side...
 
 Way to be open to new possibilities Kimbers!  Keeps things interesting that way...
 Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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 Hunter
 New member
 Username: Hunter
 
 Post Number: 2
 Registered: 07-2005
 
 | | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 01:49 pm: |   | 
 I am also a switch.
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 Rocco
 Advanced Spanko
 Username: Rocco
 
 Post Number: 474
 Registered: 04-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Monday, August 08, 2005 - 01:52 pm: |   | 
 Thanks for posting Hunter.
 Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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 Firedawg100
 New member
 Username: Firedawg100
 
 Post Number: 1
 Registered: 10-2005
 
 | | Posted on Sunday, October 09, 2005 - 05:36 pm: |   | 
 I too am a switch. You just dont hear about many who switch for some reason. I enjoy the lovely female bottom across my knee but I also enjoy looking at her lovely legs while draped across her knee....so yeah I like the visual aspects....lol
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 Babyj4
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Babyj4
 
 Post Number: 719
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Sunday, October 09, 2005 - 06:43 pm: |   | 
 I would love to swich, but that is totally out of the question with my husband, he is totally not on the recieveing end, he's made that perfectly clear.
 Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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 Ftopinmichigan
 New member
 Username: Ftopinmichigan
 
 Post Number: 19
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Sunday, October 09, 2005 - 07:18 pm: |   | 
 <cough,cough>
 
 There are female Tops here too, ya know!
   
 Just joined up recently.
 K
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 Babyj4
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Babyj4
 
 Post Number: 731
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Sunday, October 09, 2005 - 07:22 pm: |   | 
 well, come play Ftop
 Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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 Pagan
 Advanced Spanko
 Username: Pagan
 
 Post Number: 140
 Registered: 05-2005
 
 | | Posted on Sunday, October 09, 2005 - 10:22 pm: |   | 
 I don't switch with my husband (he won't even consider it...says it's just not his thing), but I did with a former partner.
 
 I haven't spanked a man in over 15 years, but I suspect it's rather like riding a bike?
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 Firedawg100
 New member
 Username: Firedawg100
 
 Post Number: 2
 Registered: 10-2005
 
 | | Posted on Monday, October 10, 2005 - 06:22 pm: |   | 
 Ohhh better keep an eye out for Ftopinmichigan. Interesting to hear from both sides. Have a wonderful day
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 Ftopinmichigan
 New member
 Username: Ftopinmichigan
 
 Post Number: 20
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Monday, October 10, 2005 - 07:19 pm: |   | 
 Oh, Firedawg, you're far enough from Detroit to be safe from me...or are you?
   
 K
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 Babyj4
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Babyj4
 
 Post Number: 755
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Monday, October 10, 2005 - 08:32 pm: |   | 
 
  Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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 Badtom
 New member
 Username: Badtom
 
 Post Number: 11
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 | | Posted on Monday, October 10, 2005 - 09:44 pm: |   | 
 Good evening Rocco, and good evening everyone. I too am a switch - a switch who likes a switching!
 
 As a top I don't get much action because my partner is even less into being spanked than she is into spanking me! Basically we have a good loving relationship, but with a kink discrepency.
 
 As a bottom I (sort of) enjoy the sensual side of pain as well as the psychology of being dominated. In reality, it's mutual caring domination, though it can be crueller in my fantasy. But top or bottom, I fantasise both roles simultaneously. And I bottom a lot more to make up for not being able to top much...sort of bottom to my own top!
 
 Did that make sense?
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 Hunnybunny
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Hunnybunny
 
 Post Number: 632
 Registered: 07-2005
 
 | | Posted on Monday, October 10, 2005 - 11:27 pm: |   | 
 Yeah it kinda makes sense Badtom! lol
 As for me I'm not sure about switching. I guess if someone REALLY pissed me off I would drag them over my knee in a second! It all depends on how far they went and how pissed off I am. I have been known to get physical when I'm mad though. So I'm not quite sure?
 The best way to behave is not to
 -Abercrombie & Fitch
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 Babyj4
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Babyj4
 
 Post Number: 761
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 03:27 am: |   | 
 Dare to try Hb, it might be fun
 Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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 Hunnybunny
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Hunnybunny
 
 Post Number: 637
 Registered: 07-2005
 
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 06:40 am: |   | 
 Maybe Babyj, but never actually being spanked before kinda gets in the way!
 The best way to behave is not to
 -Abercrombie & Fitch
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 Babyj4
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Babyj4
 
 Post Number: 769
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 06:51 am: |   | 
 that sucks Hb
 Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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 Firedawg100
 New member
 Username: Firedawg100
 
 Post Number: 4
 Registered: 10-2005
 
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 07:12 pm: |   | 
 Ftop, I shall never say....ask no questions and I tell no lies.....LOL
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 Babyj4
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Babyj4
 
 Post Number: 792
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 09:02 pm: |   | 
 
  Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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 Hunnybunny
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Hunnybunny
 
 Post Number: 649
 Registered: 07-2005
 
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 09:45 pm: |   | 
 Yeah it does suck, but I have never met someone that is into spanking.
  The best way to behave is not to
 -Abercrombie & Fitch
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 Babyj4
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Babyj4
 
 Post Number: 803
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 09:48 pm: |   | 
 don't give up Hb you will
 Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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 Hunnybunny
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Hunnybunny
 
 Post Number: 651
 Registered: 07-2005
 
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 09:51 pm: |   | 
 eventually I will find someone that I love and that is into to "the life" too!
 The best way to behave is not to
 -Abercrombie & Fitch
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 Babyj4
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Babyj4
 
 Post Number: 816
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 10:09 pm: |   | 
 thats right, I believe that everyone has someone out there, you just have to find them
 Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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 Hunnybunny
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Hunnybunny
 
 Post Number: 665
 Registered: 07-2005
 
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 10:10 pm: |   | 
 Mine knight in shinning armor show up eventually!
  The best way to behave is not to
 -Abercrombie & Fitch
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 Babyj4
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Babyj4
 
 Post Number: 821
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 10:19 pm: |   | 
 
  yes he will Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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 Principessa_jessica
 New member
 Username: Principessa_jessica
 
 Post Number: 3
 Registered: 10-2005
 
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 10:20 pm: |   | 
 I don’t really think I’m a switch per say but I defiantly have had a few fantasies of spanking others. Actually now I’m writing about it the idea is starting to turn me on more. Maybe I am a Switch!
  Learn something new about yourself everyday!!! | 
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 Hunnybunny
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Hunnybunny
 
 Post Number: 668
 Registered: 07-2005
 
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 10:27 pm: |   | 
 You should try it one time and make sure that you are really into it first!
 The best way to behave is not to
 -Abercrombie & Fitch
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 Babyj4
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Babyj4
 
 Post Number: 829
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 10:28 pm: |   | 
 You never know unless you try.
 Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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 Hunnybunny
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Hunnybunny
 
 Post Number: 676
 Registered: 07-2005
 
 | | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 10:36 pm: |   | 
 Yup!
 The best way to behave is not to
 -Abercrombie & Fitch
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 Ziggy
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Ziggy
 
 Post Number: 587
 Registered: 08-2005
 
 | | Posted on Wednesday, October 12, 2005 - 04:03 am: |   | 
 I have tried I surpized my Dom, and he didn't like it at all. THis was before I got married, I ended up getting it twice as worst. LOL we still talk online, but he isn't my Dom anymore. To bad my hubbie isn't into spanking, I am slowly pushing him.
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 Babyj4
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Babyj4
 
 Post Number: 830
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Wednesday, October 12, 2005 - 09:28 am: |   | 
 don't push to much or he could resent you for it.
 Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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 Firedawg100
 New member
 Username: Firedawg100
 
 Post Number: 6
 Registered: 10-2005
 
 | | Posted on Wednesday, October 12, 2005 - 12:36 pm: |   | 
 Hunnybunny, I know exactly how you feel about not meeting anyone into the life!
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 Babyj4
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Babyj4
 
 Post Number: 844
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Wednesday, October 12, 2005 - 04:58 pm: |   | 
 Just keep looking, you will.
 Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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 Firedawg100
 New member
 Username: Firedawg100
 
 Post Number: 9
 Registered: 10-2005
 
 | | Posted on Wednesday, October 12, 2005 - 05:56 pm: |   | 
 Thats what I keep hearing, if only I could see and feel her with my eyes and hands.
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 Babyj4
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Babyj4
 
 Post Number: 845
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Wednesday, October 12, 2005 - 06:03 pm: |   | 
 it takes time, some of us find our match sooner that others
 Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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 Hunnybunny
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Hunnybunny
 
 Post Number: 692
 Registered: 07-2005
 
 | | Posted on Wednesday, October 12, 2005 - 10:14 pm: |   | 
 I feel your pain Firedawg! I want to meet my knight in shining armor soon! I think I found him though! Keep your fingers crossed for me!
 The best way to behave is not to
 -Abercrombie & Fitch
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 Babyj4
 Supreme Spanko
 Username: Babyj4
 
 Post Number: 851
 Registered: 09-2005
 
 
  
 | | Posted on Wednesday, October 12, 2005 - 11:47 pm: |   | 
 
  mine are crossed for both of you Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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 Tanjas_brat
 New member
 Username: Tanjas_brat
 
 Post Number: 3
 Registered: 10-2005
 
 | | Posted on Saturday, October 15, 2005 - 10:44 pm: |   | 
 I AM SWITCH HERE TOO--EXCEPT IN THIS NEW RELATIONSHIP I HAVE NOT YET BEEN ABLE TO TOP.BUT I AM WORKING ON IT
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 Sdhrts
 New member
 Username: Sdhrts
 
 Post Number: 30
 Registered: 10-2005
 
 | | Posted on Saturday, November 05, 2005 - 08:32 am: |   | 
 Switch here for sure, in practice and emotion. I think both sides are delicious, and have their own allure. Speaking for myself only of course.
 Is IT Better To Give Than To Recieve?
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 Robeach
 New member
 Username: Robeach
 
 Post Number: 1
 Registered: 09-2006
 
 | | Posted on Monday, September 18, 2006 - 05:39 pm: |   | 
 We switch. He needs to take the strap on the bed, ass high in the air, with Erotica playing softly. She has learned to play his balls perfectly, then return to his ass cheeks. She knows to mark him well.
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